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Re: new to dating a guy with ADD, confused

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Originally Posted by frommyfriend View Post
I am a 38 year old woman dating a 32 old man. We have been dating for the last 9 months. He has ADD and does take adderall. However, he also abuses pot, alcohol and xanax. He has no job and sleeps on friends couches. He is very erratic about responding to texts. Will frequently make plans with me and then ditch me without any communication. He will go days without contacting me or responding to a text. He does have his good moments. He is sweet, kind, supportive and affectionate. I would say there is definitely a pattern of behavior. Most recently he ignored my texts for days. I did call him out on that (nicely) and told him that the silence kills me and that I like him and being with him but he needed to decide if he wants to continue to date me or end it. He responded with an apology. He said he was dealing with family issues (though I believe he tells white lies sometimes to get out of trouble) and that he likes me and is sorry and wants to continue to date me. He wanted to meet in person to talk. I agreed and we set up a time the next day. However he did not meet me nor did he call. We were supposed to meet Monday night and I have not heard from him. I have not reached out either. My question is, is this the ADD or is a just a jerk? Should I try to reach out and try to continue the relationship or give up? Sorry lost and sad
Welcome to the forum! Hes lucky to have a woman like you who cares enough to research his condition to better understand him. The fact hes abusing pot, alcohol and Xanax makes answering your question improbable. Getting his abuse issues under control has to be the first step.

The most caring thing you can do is to help, encourage and support him getting sober. If hes not ready then its probably time to move on or be prepared for things to only get worse.

Good luck with things and best wishes.
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