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Re: How do I avoid overwhelming myself?

When my emotions build up until a meltdown, it's usually because of one of these factors:

1. I failed to express assertively what I wanted in a situation, and then once I get taken advantage of I feel resentful and blow up.
2. I failed to express honestly what my emotions were in a healthy way: "I am experiencing [x] because you [y] and I would like you to [z]. Then I would feel better." For example, "I am experiencing anger because you really inconvenienced me by being late and I would like you to be on time next time. Then I would feel better." When I don't do that, the alternative is to let the feelings build up, feel I am impotent to express them, and then they finally explode in a volcano of blame and self-pity. Pretty toxic!
3. Live to please others. Usually leads to a lot of resentment, because no-one will ever be as appreciative as I want them to be, and I don't get to be myself and do the things that make me happy.

Just some thoughts!

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Daniel
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