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Old 10-27-16, 01:56 PM
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Re: helping him stick to something

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Originally Posted by grinningsoul View Post
Thank you for this.
This is exactly the kind of thing I'm afraid of. This idea of a false relationship. Doing things just to please me and not because he actually wants to.
Saying he wants to change things, saying he hates the way he is now, feeling guilty for not doing better - all of those can come straight from trying to please you, and might have nothing to do with how he really feels.

A lot of us with ADHD have done intense life-long training in how to please others. It's an extremely difficult habit to get out of.

Please, take a long hard look at why you care about the topics that led you to ask your question in the first place. What's in it for you if he does or doesn't do those things?

If your response involves turning the question around and answering what's in it for him, then - respectfully - that's none of your business.
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