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Re: 19 yr old son playing computer games and not working

Sarah's post here is excellent.

Some other things: could he be feeling depressed, since he only has one friend and since he has struggled to get a job? Maybe he is feeling really low about himself, and tries to fill a void playing video games. And the hyperfocus that comes with ADHD is probably making it even harder for him to stop playing - hyperfocus can make us intensely focus on things without being productive or focusing on anything else in our lives and so we fall behind since we can't rip ourselves away from the activity. It's not his fault, it's a part of the disorder.

I agree that it sounds like he needs therapy, and possibly needs to also talk to his psychiatrist to see if he might have something else like depression going on too. And maybe he needs a dose adjustment because like someone else said too high of a dose can cause even more intense focus on one thing.

Could even be too low of a dose where he is unable to manage his ADHD symptoms.

Definitely something he needs to discuss with his psychiatrist and a therapist.

In my opinion kicking him out would be cruel, he's disabled and unable to work right now and it sounds like he's really struggling. It would surely set up his life for failure if he got kicked out.
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