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Old 10-06-17, 11:53 AM
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Letting go of it all

Hi all,

It's a while ago since I've been here, anyways, here's something interesting to talk about...

Let go of everything.

Sometimes I want to let go of it all. I want to do that now. Quit my job and be my own employer. I had 3 projects going on and I have been removed from 1 one them, that I secretly thought was my favorite. On the one hand I am relieved, on the other I am angry with my team. The leadership skills of my team mates were terrible, and they weren't skillful in other ways (see, I am angry... I *might* sound a bit harsh and unreasonable here so you'd better take what I am saying with a bit of salt :P).

I feel like I want to be self-employed now. Just choose my own schedule, my own path. No more employers (I like my employer but I don't like the fact that I have to ask permission), no more weak colleagues.

The good things about my current job: my employer pays for my courses. He is a nice guy who is patient with me. I have colleagues who are generally nice people.

The bad: I don't get any guidance, even though I am starting out in a new field. My colleagues are mostly pretty distant and don't do much for me. I am being put on projects without supervision. The projects are badly organized.

I really want to go and go independent. I basically am doing that now already, without the sense of freedom. Am I just being emotional and stupid? (probably :P)

The other option would be discussion these thoughts (in a smart way) with my employer. See if I can change my current job to fit me better.

God I am happy that it's weekend. I am really sick of this ADHD ****.

(I am just writing down my thoughts/feelings here... curious what you think of it. I know that being self-employed is not ideal and I may or may not want to go that route, but the current course does not work for me either and I am sick of feeling like I am not having a grip on my life)
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Old 10-06-17, 12:02 PM
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Re: Letting go of it all

I say run with it and see what happens. Lifes too short to be wasting a second doing something you don't like doing and avoiding things you would.

I let go of things all the time..... not intentionally mind you, things just slip through my fingers and I don't even realize it until something heavy lands of my toes.
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Re: Letting go of it all

How well are you doing now, with little guidance and disorganized projects?

If you're wildly successful at it, and also think you could be wildly successful at recruiting clients, managing contracts, and doing all of those other things at the same time, go for it.

If the lack of guidance and disorganized projects are frustrating you because you can't do your best work under those conditions, then it would be worth seriously questioning why you believe that no guidance and no structure whatsoever (in addition to increased management responsibilities) would be an improvement.

In that case, perhaps asking for more contact/guidance with your supervisors/colleagues and working to get a system in place to organize projects might be preferable (at least in the short term) to walking away from the job you currently have.
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Re: Letting go of it all

I am somewhat somewhere between successful and struggling.
Letting go may not be a good idea right now.

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In that case, perhaps asking for more contact/guidance with your supervisors/colleagues and working to get a system in place to organize projects might be preferable (at least in the short term) to walking away from the job you currently have.
The thing is... I did this many times and every time my employer doesn't really take action. Every time I communicated that I needed more guidance he said he agreed with me/understood my point, but he didn't offer it. I am not trusting that my needs are really being take care of, I feel like they just put me in situations that I am not ready for.

I learn a lot from it, but I feel like it's full of needless suffering.

Perhaps a better option would be to go to another employer where I can get more supervision and be part of a team. I would just like to have productive days without feeling like I am drowning.
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Re: Letting go of it all

It's a bit later now, put a bit more thought into it.

I have decided that I will start preparing to go away from this company. If I leave, I won't do so very soon, but in half a year or so. I will do some extra courses, update my CV and portfolio, reflect on what I want out of my life and my career, expand my network, etc. The biggest challenge that I will take on is to become more independent; learn to cope with not getting the structure and help that I feel I need. If I am able to do that, then I will be able to function in other places as well.

If things improve here, then fine, I can stay but then I will feel like it's my own choice, it's not because I feel like I have to.

And if that doesn't happen, or if I just find something better, then I will leave. Start my own thing, or work somewhere else. Maybe even abroad, if that's what I really want (not as a sort of escape).
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Re: Letting go of it all

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And if that doesn't happen, or if I just find something better, then I will leave. Start my own thing, or work somewhere else. Maybe even abroad, if that's what I really want (not as a sort of escape).
I think that's a great idea jacksper. People have a really hard time changing so if you can't get change in your workplace then yeah, I agree you might be able to find another place that works better.

As far as being self-employed, that takes a lot more than just your current technical skills. You'll have to be an accountant, marketer, self-motivator, organizer, receptionist, etc unless you hire out these services.

Are you able to do all that? If so and you want to be self-employed, that's great. If not, another company is a great idea.
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Re: Letting go of it all

double post: I do not like having difficulty to concentrate though. I think my work is very interesting and the fact that during a lot of time I just can't focus on it is pretty frustrating. having one project less has the benefit that I may have some time now to spend on learning things.

I think I will just ask my employer if he thinks it's ok that I work for 4 days for customers and spend my 5th day of the week doing whatever remains (compensating for time wasn't spent productively, self-study, other random tasks that have to happen like organizing things, sending emails, etc).

Sorry for the double post, I am just writing my thoughts and feelings again, helps me sort things out. Thanks for your interest if you're reading this.
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Re: Letting go of it all

Being unreasonable is good if you can stay unreasonable.

I think that whatever you do, you have to be certain about how you feel. Sometimes that means exploring other possibilities, other times it means journaling to see how many days a month you feel like quitting.

I think you have to go with whatever is most consistant for you.

If you consistantly dream, then go with looking at possible options

Just push for what feels most natural to you.

I'm not an emotional person, but how you feel about your life, and your work matters.

What I have read, is that at the end of the day, you should feel that your work made a difference to something or someone. If not, then yoy should seek other oppurtunities. If you feel like what you do has no impact, or meaning to anything, then it would be best to quit or renegotiate.
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Re: Letting go of it all

Is there something that's preventing you from building a business while you keep your day job?

You can always KEEP your current job, while starting something after work.

Just try something new, and see if it sticks.

That way, you aren't risking the house
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