Eye contact

[Buzz23]

I have found that staring at a person's forehead is much less distracting to me than actually making eye contact, and it is easy enough to transition to eye contact when necessary. (Foreheads are very interesting to look at)
Mostly my friends just assume that I'm listening to them until I stop responding to their questions entirely.
Other people just assume I'm bored or uninterested, and it can actually be useful in cutting a boring conversation short.

[addysted]

Unfortunately, I have the same problem with eye contact. I guess it is a sign of weakness.

[rickymooston]

Originally Posted by Mrjello

ever sence ive been on my meds and also a little before that ive noticed... i really cant keep eye contact i have no idea why but when i look into thier eyes and they look back i cant keep it for more them maby 2-4 seconds because idk i just freak out or something i just NEED to look somewhere else... only person ive ever really been able to keep eye contact with was my ex g/f of a year or so and sence im back in the dating game and finnaly on meds i could really use some answers and advice here thanks a ton in advance

I dont have social anxiety disorxer but i used to get in trouble for. Ot looking at the person i was talkung to.,
This kind of behaviour most ppl dont think about and they just do it.

What are your meds for. Did you discuss this problem with ylir doctor.

[strengthouweak]

Originally Posted by rickymooston

I dont have social anxiety disorxer but i used to get in trouble for. Ot looking at the person i was talkung to.,
This kind of behaviour most ppl dont think about and they just do it.

What are your meds for. Did you discuss this problem with ylir doctor.

talked over with therapist, who is a really nice guy, and doesn't have that whole, what you want to talk about thing going on. He gave the advice that was mentioned before to look at another part of the face. I don't know if I would consider that the best choice but it seems like the only good answer so far. I am on generic wellbutrin 75ml and it seems to be goin' ok.....

[rickymooston]

I see. Well, perhaps I wasn't thinking when I answered you.

Obviously, your therapist gets paid for a reason; i.e., don't take the advice of somebody without SA and no knowledge of SA over a trained therapist familiar with your condition.

I do know, some aspects of my ADHD I can sometimes somewhat override some of the time but I can't override all of them as far as I know.

Glad to hear you are doing better.

[Tylerlee17]

When I was in high school I never had the eye contact problem, but now at 25 I find that I feel like I'm being rude or just weird when keeping eye contact even when the person is speaking directly too me! Except when I know the person very well and feel comfortable around them. I've been on meds since i was 6, so don't feel alone.

[kuhan1923]

Eye contact is a question of confidence, not whether you have ADD or not imo. Try taking a martial arts class, or going to the gym on a regular basis, it'll distill confidence in you, and really help with keeping eye contact with other people.