I cannot tell a lie!

[Amtram]

I can't lie, because I can never keep track of all the things I would need to keep track of in order to maintain it. If I tried, I would always get caught.

I do try to be diplomatic, but I also tell people "don't ask me if you don't really want the answer!"

[ginniebean]

I am acutely aware of when I'm lying, and it makes me feel guilty and awkward. One time someone had an ugly little monkey looking baby and I actually hadn't been in that situation before. What a disaster. I've since learned why "all babies are beutiful" it's the law, that's why!!!

I'm a terrible liar and there are times when I can lie, like, when I know it will hurt someone's feelings as above.

But I am much more likely to blurt out the truth than to tell a lie. Any kind of elaborate lie, can't tell one, can't see them coming at me either.

[CheekyMonkey]

Originally Posted by rockydaydreamer

Maybe you have mild aspergers because aspies don't lie (at least it would be hard for them).

It would be pretty funny if I was since I'm an autism behavior specialist.


I am not an aspie, but I do have more in common with autistic people than NTs.

[fracturedstory]

Originally Posted by Drewbacca

I had to read this twice. At first I thought it said "mild asparagus because apples don't lie." LOL

But to get back on topic,

I'll tell a white lie, not out of shame, but diplomatically if I know a response will **** someone off for whatever reason. Besides that, it's not that I can't tell a lie, I just prefer blunt honesty in most cases.

I want that on a t-shirt!

[Electra2]

Lies and forgetfullness doesn`t really match
I hate lies anyway.
I often analyse a lot to figure out the truth.
Sometimes if people say something that sound fishy,
I think that the opposite might as well be the real truth.
The bodylanguage is often an indicator...

[Sandy4957]

My p-doc once told me that people with ADHD have an uncanny knack for unmasking hypocrisy. He said that it was because the parts of our brains that are responsible for deception don't work very well.

I figured out how to be diplomatic without being deceptive way back in elementary school. I find a truthful statement and say that instead of what's expected. Then I'm always holding to the truth, and since there's only one truth (for ME, anyway, though others may have their own views), then I always remember what I said to whom. So if someone's asking how they look in a dress, I'll nod and say, "I love the colors in that dress." They may be asking me if they look fat, but I'm diverting, and it almost always works.

When I'm in a situation where I have to withhold something (as in, when a mediator asks me what my client will accept in a settlement), then I play dumb. I say that I don't know. They probably know that I know, but they know that I won't tell them, either.

[CheekyMonkey]

Originally Posted by Sandy4957

My p-doc once told me that people with ADHD have an uncanny knack for unmasking hypocrisy. He said that it was because the parts of our brains that are responsible for deception don't work very well.

I figured out how to be diplomatic without being deceptive way back in elementary school. I find a truthful statement and say that instead of what's expected. Then I'm always holding to the truth, and since there's only one truth (for ME, anyway, though others may have their own views), then I always remember what I said to whom. So if someone's asking how they look in a dress, I'll nod and say, "I love the colors in that dress." They may be asking me if they look fat, but I'm diverting, and it almost always works.

When I'm in a situation where I have to withhold something (as in, when a mediator asks me what my client will accept in a settlement), then I play dumb. I say that I don't know. They probably know that I know, but they know that I won't tell them, either.

That's my only plan of action as well.

[Joker_Girl]

I am a HORRIBLE liar. I just look guilty. People think i am lying sometimes and i am like, NO I AM NOT! I guess i just have a guilty embarrassed look all the time. I cannot lie. I will get caught immediately. I am not quick enough on my feet. Our son is the same way. When he was little he would tell stupid lies. Like one time we heard glass breaking. Came in the living room, he is standing there. The glass door is broken out of the front of a cupboard and his ball is in there. We said what happened. He said, "I dont know! I didnt do it!" LOL

I just feel guilty when i lie. It makes me feel bad.

I do not understand white lies very well. I mean sometimes when someone is mean to me, I will say, "its okay" when it isnt, but things like...."Do you think this outfit makes my butt look big?'.....I am going to say the truth. I dont understand why someone would ask something like this if they are going to get mad!

When i ask does my butt look big in this.....I want to know!

I seen someone who had blond and black hair one time and i asked my friend if i should do that with my hair. She said, no, that only works if you are under 25. Thank you! That is what I wanted to know!!!

If i have a piece of toilet paper stuck to my shoe, or a booger, or a crazy long eyebrow hair, I want to know about it! Why do people get mad?

I have a shirt that is beautiful but something about the way it is cut, is not really flattering. It makes me look pregnant. My friend told me. Thank God! I would have been horrified if someone asked when i was due. I would have probably laughed and said, no its okay im just fat. But still.

I will try to some extent to spare peoples feelings, but if its someone i care about, i will tell them if i think they are screwing up! I told my son when he wore too much cologne and it stunk. I told my daughter when she had so much eye makeup she looked like a clown.

[CheekyMonkey]

You can be my friend anytime Joker Girl.

[chiank]

Originally Posted by CheekyMonkey

Like George Washington, I cannot lie.

Not that I wouldn't like to. Most people are able to pull off white lies, polite lies, etc. I can't. My first reaction is to be truthful and if I'm in a situation that dictates that I bend the truth, tell a white lie, etc., I have a really hard time not showing it on my face. This has made some life and work situations more difficult than need be.

I know a lot of ADHD'ers who say that they compulsively lie. I'm like the opposite. I compulsively tell the truth, even if is not a good idea.

Anyone else like this?

Well ..i have the same problem ...i can't lie ...i get in lot of trouble because of it. People think i am rude, when i don't praise them falsely or i don't sweet to talk them ....

I heard honesty is the best policy.So I followed it but now i kinda doubt it.

[Crazygirl79]

I'm a sh*t liar period!! I don't like to lie at all but sometimes I know I have to tell white lies in the case of sparing peoples feelings in certain circumstances however I feel terrible afterwards, in fact I suffer crippling anxiety when I've done anything wrong including lying.

Selena

[CheekyMonkey]

Originally Posted by chiank

Well ..i have the same problem ...i can't lie ...i get in lot of trouble because of it. People think i am rude, when i don't praise them falsely or i don't sweet to talk them ....

I heard honesty is the best policy.So I followed it but now i kinda doubt it.

I'm the same way. Sometimes before I go to an event I think of a couple compliments to use before I get there so they don't seem so fake when I say them.

[stef]

im also terrible at lying! yikes. but why bother? life is too complicated as it is.

[chiank]

Originally Posted by CheekyMonkey

I'm the same way. Sometimes before I go to an event I think of a couple compliments to use before I get there so they don't seem so fake when I say them.

ha ha .... we need to be better at acting. I wonder if acting classes would help.

I too prepared compliments before hand but i simply find it difficult to say on the face of the person. People say why i don't talk much, but really i am trying to remain silent for their own sake so that i won't show them there true value. I am helping them.

[spunkysmum]

Originally Posted by fracturedstory

I would have stuck to kg which if you don't know the difference sounds a lot smaller than pounds.
"Ooh, I 'd say 120kg."

Shoot, I wish I'd thought of that. I did say a much lower amount. I reasoned that it wasn't really untrue, she weighed at LEAST as much as what I guessed, right? It was just that there was a few pounds beyond that. LOL. You know, like that trick question "how many months have 28 days? All of them!"

My reaction when I'm put on the spot by people in that way, is that I get angry with them. I do not express it, but I feel it. One of my pet peeves is when people "make me be mean" to them.