Concerned mom of 13YO son with ADHD

[maggiemae1]

I would appreciate any insight on resources for helping 13 year old son both academically, socially and from a discipline standpoint. I fear he is at risk of taking the wrong path as he struggles to succeed in school and struggles to make social connections with peers.

He was diagnosed with ADHD at age 3 (based on screening due to developmental delays - late talking, walking, sensory and gross motor skill issues, etc...) as well as at age 5 (re-screened based on issues in kindergarten - lack of ability to focus, disruptive, etc...). We tried a short stint on meds; however, it tended to blunt his personality and make him very aggressive. He seems to be struggling more as he gets older (particularly since we left the elementary school environment).

Unfortunately, the apple does not fall far from the tree as I have attention and organizational issues (not formally diagnosed). I am hoping to be directed to resources that help with discipline (does not respond to positive or negative reinforcement), organization (as we strive to equip him with tools to succeed in school) and any insight on therapies that work when dealing with ADHD in teens (concern that there may be underlying depression).

I feel like we are in a very pivotal period as we are seeing much more oppositional, deviate behavior and I fear that his lack of ability to connect socially will make him susceptible to falling in with the wrong crowd. Truly want to give him an opportunity to suceed in school, at home and with peers.

Sorry for the dump of info, but truly desperate for any guidance.
Thank you.