I finally quit!

[Nifferka]

I did it! I quit my job!

I've been working at this school for three years (plus one before that when I just volunteered to help out with the English lessons once a week). Today, I finally went and very politely, graciously informed them that I would not be returning when school starts on the 1st of September.

I have been wanting to quit since about two months after I started actually being paid to work there. First, I just wanted to quit on Monday mornings, then on difficult days with the students. Then I wanted to quit every morning, and all day when I had a migraine. Then this last year I've had only a few brief windows of time when I didn't want to quit, and I'd gone up to 15 days a month with migraines and was having to take lots of expensive drugs every month just to function. But I couldn't do it.

Today, when I went specifically to quit, I discovered that not only had all the teachers I'd been working with been replaced, but so had the administration and my son's teacher (she'd gotten married over the summer). It made it very easy. I'm so glad.

This is momentous! I've never quit a job before (nor have I been fired) -- I've always just worked for a contracted period that had a very natural ending point.

Now I just have to make homeschooling work.....

[CheekyMonkey]

You must feel pretty powerful right now! It feels good to have control over life.


*highfive*

[doiadhd]

I quite school,as a student. Sounds like you've made the right choice congratulations!

[salleh]

atta girl ! ....I am happy for you .....life is too short to have to face something that you don't want to do ...nearly every time you have to go do it !

your mental health is in very good shape ! ...you saw it wasn't where you wanted to be and you took appropriate and polite steps to get yourself away ......

powerfull indeed ! ....

and hey I have missed you ? ...nice to know you're doing fine ....although I wish I had a magic wand to vanquish those migraines ...they run in my family, but I got away with a grand total of 3 of them ...last one when I was 20 ....

are they the classic, sit on one side of your head, can't stand the slightest noise or light kind ? ......oh and unset stomach too ? ......and you'd about sell your soul to make it go away ? ,.....


...and are ya getting ready for the fierce Russian winter yet ?>

I am heading for Michigan in about 3 months and looking forward to the snow ...but I think that I am in a milder winter area, and well I don't have to pioneer it the way you do over there ......

[Nifferka]

Originally Posted by salleh

and hey I have missed you ? ...nice to know you're doing fine ....although I wish I had a magic wand to vanquish those migraines ...they run in my family, but I got away with a grand total of 3 of them ...last one when I was 20 ....

are they the classic, sit on one side of your head, can't stand the slightest noise or light kind ? ......oh and unset stomach too ? ......and you'd about sell your soul to make it go away ? ,.....

We've been traveling this summer, and my laptop was stolen, so I've not been around so much. Plus, you know, the migraines sort of make it hard to stare at a screen...

Yeah, they're the classic one-sided, lie-in-a-dark-room-with-ice-on-your-head-and-a-puke-bucket-handy-wanting-to-die kind. The short ones are 12 hours, the long ones go on for up to 36 hours. Stress is a trigger, and work just created all kinds of stress. Not that homeschooling won't be stressful, but I think I can manage it for a year. Then we can reassess. And besides, two kids are more flexible than 100.

[anonymouslyadd]

Good for you! Congratulations.

[Unmanagable]

Oh what a feeling!!!

Congrats!!!

[julesjampot]

Nifferka, so glad to hear from you and you are doing good.
As others have said there is nothing worse than getting up in a morning and dreading going to work
I bet you will be a wonderful teacher and now you have youre lap top lots of good resources and web sites, i can give you afew for creative resources.
Go for it , you will be great, you could always study English history with Downton Abbey lol Luv Jules

[ConcertaParent]

Originally Posted by julesjampot

there is nothing worse than getting up in a morning and dreading going to work

Unfortunately, there are many worse things in life than having a job you dread, especially in poor areas. I made the blunder of quitting a job before without finding a better alternative first. The initial feeling of euphoria is usually replaced by depression if you don't find something better. I learned the hard way that it's better to do whatever it takes to make the job more tolerable, or first find another way to earn money so you can afford to quit. Good luck to OP.

[Targaryen]

Congratulations I know how good it feels to leave a stressful situation like that, it can feel very liberating. I have very bad migraines as well, I had a horrible one last night and if this job was causing your migraines or making them worse then you def needed to reevaluate the situation.

Best of luck to you.

[sarahsweets]

Di you tell the to f**k off on the way out?

[sarahsweets]

Originally Posted by ConcertaParent

Unfortunately, there are many worse things in life than having a job you dread, especially in poor areas. I made the blunder of quitting a job before without finding a better alternative first. The initial feeling of euphoria is usually replaced by depression if you don't find something better. I learned the hard way that it's better to do whatever it takes to make the job more tolerable, or first find another way to earn money so you can afford to quit. Good luck to OP.

This entire paragraph is entirely subqjective. The "euphoria" may last along time. Being that she does some sort of schoo than I cant imagine her being bored easily.

[Drewbacca]

Originally Posted by Nifferka

I did it! I quit my job!

Очень хорошо!

[Nifferka]

Originally Posted by ConcertaParent

I learned the hard way that it's better to do whatever it takes to make the job more tolerable, or first find another way to earn money so you can afford to quit. Good luck to OP.

Actually, between the kids' tuition to attend the same school and the amount I was spending on sumatriptan pills for migraines, I didn't have any more than pocket money. It was never bill- or rent-paying money, just a nice little cushion. I was grateful for the cushion, but it wasn't worth it anymore. It was time to stop. I never financially needed the job, and never actually had the desire to work outside the home once I had kids. We're far from wealthy, but we live in an impoverished country, so we don't really notice. It's part of the deal with being in the charity and non-profit field.

I didn't even look for a job in the first place; I just accidentally got it because I was nodding my head and agreeing to something that someone was saying in Russian that I wasn't really listening to. And because I'd (inadvertently) agreed to work as more than just a volunteer, I kept my word. I didn't quit earlier because I didn't have the nerve, I didn't know how, and I had friends there. My husband has the job that gives us our visas and keeps us in this country, not me.

So, I guess you could say I got my job through ADD and kept it out of anxiety.

Originally Posted by Drewbacca

Очень хорошо!

спасибо

[justchillin4now]

Hi, I quit 8 months ago, was having severe panic attacks they were so abusive. (I'm a nurse and they can be pretty abusive, pts and supervisors) I went back to school and now I have just gotten another job and am praying people arent so abusive this time, I feel better so maybe I wont be so sensitive either. It feels great doesn't it, but you do usually end up missing the money. Good Luck!!