Contacting my ex husband?

[Liuka2012]

I have not been able to get a hold of my ex husband. I have't heard from him in over a week. He got mad because I told him that since he was in treatment that I will just keep my daughter with me until he is done at the end of the month.

Either way he never makes any attempts to have her. When he does it's only like one day a week. He can have her up to four is what we agreed upon. I mean when my kids are gone for a day I miss them so much.

I mean he could even have the courtesy to call to see how she is. This is a true story too. Our daughter had a seizure three months ago because she was sick and had a fever. Well anyways, after I call the hospital I took her to the ER because I was scared. Well my ex-husband told me that he was so tired that he was going to sleep.

Instead of him coming to the hospital, he went to bed and didn't come with. He said she looks fine and you got it under control. I was like WTF. So I left obviously. And this is the first time he did something like this,

Last week he had our daughter over night. He was suppose to pick her up and he didn't. He didn't even bother to call or text me. And when I got a hold of him I asked him he didn't call me back. He said because he didn't feel he had too. He also said he had important work to get done.

I just am so sick of this. I am getting a temporary restraining order against him so that he has to pay for the house and he can't have our daughter until he is healthy enough too. I won't let him have her. He can't do anything because we have no court order.

I am in the process of getting this done. The thing is that I feel bad about doing it. But, I just can't deal with his stuff anymore. He has also done way worse stuff. I (I wrote a bit on some other posts).

However, the thing that I hate the most is that he is refusing to talk to me. It's so childish. I hate this. I mean I know where he is. But, I don't want to go there and see him. But, I don't know how I should handle this? If I don't here from him in a week what should I do? Should I stop by his mom and dads house? Because, I also need to know if he paid rent for our house.

I am moving back to our old house for two months until the lease is up because I want to move our stuff out of the house. I am going to have a garage sale too.

He is also using his depression as an excuse to get out of seeing his daughter. I also found out that he maybe seeing another person. Which I don't really care. (The only thing is the other person he is seeing is a guy, which I always suspected my husband could be a little gay, which I don't care. I hope he ends up being happy).

He tells me that I am being selfish and acting like a child and that I am very emotionally unstable. But, like I said again I know that I am not. I just feel stuck between and rock and a hard place. I want our divorce done and over so that I can move on with my life.

[sarahsweets]

No offense meant but ....do not talk to this man or let your daughter see him. He is clearly unstable with no regard for you or her. What happens if he takes her for a visit and never calls you back when you want to pick her up? What if he doesn't supervise her properly. He is only harming you and her. I think a restraining order is a good thing as long as you stick to it. The emotional damage hr could so to your daughter is not worth the guilt you feel over not letting him see her.

[sarek]

I am completely with Sarah on this one. This is a lot more than just jerky behaviour. Your daughters emotional and physical safety (and your own for that matter) must at all times come first.