Not going to school

[Liuka2012]

Well, when I found out that I had Adult add, I decided not to attend school this semester. Because, I knew i would have too much to deal with. My daughter is in 1st grade and I recently moved out of my old house and decided to leave my husband because of some abuse he has done to me. (More emiotional that physical).

So those are the reasons that I decided not to go to school this semester. I did start but within the first week I dropped out. I knew I couldn't handle the stress load, adn I didn't want to have more on my plate than I have too.

so now my sister's are telling me that I was lazy and decided not to go. I already have 2 years done. That was 7 years ago. So I will be in college about another two and a half years. Which is fine to me.

I don't think that I did anything wrong. I am sensitive to crticism. I don't think I did anything wrong. But, how can I explain to them why I did. (I want to leave the part out about my husband, because they will get even more nosy).

[Geno]

You did nothing wrong, school is just too much stress for some people, especially since you already have the stress of having a kid. Who gives a crap what your sisters think? It's your life.

[DvlsAdv0c8]

Yeah, what Geno said.

Once you get settled in your new place and get your daughter settled and you feel less stressed, you can always return to school.

Don't let your sisters get to you. They're not in charge of your life. YOU are.

[spunkysmum]

First of all, you shouldn't feel that you owe them any explanation for why you're doing what you're doing. If they are as nosy and judgmental as they sound, odds are that no explanation you could give would be good enough to suit them anyway.

I don't think you did anything wrong, either. You obviously did what was best for you and there's no reason for you to feel like you have to justify it, to us or to them! School isn't the be-all and the end-all of life. School you can put on hold, but your daughter's development and the time you have with her can't. It will go way too fast as it is and you have to do what's best for her and you.

[naissele]

I think it's incredibly smart of you to have thought it through and decided it was the way to go. The fact that your sisters may criticize you could have stopped you. You could have been worried other people around you would think you are lazy or stupid but you thought about all the important things in your life and decided to prioritize.

I hope one day, your sisters can come to understand you or at least trust that the things you do are for the best.

[Zevispaz]

That's actually a really good idea.

Also, you never owe anyone an explanation for your actions. Ever. If you want to explain it, that's a different story, but don't let people put you on the defensive for a solid decision that you made.

[JoeB]

Never give up on school totally. But to take a semester off, hell, that's no biggy. I've done it myself and now have 2 degrees and seeking yet another. And I didn't have near the stress you had with a child. Good on you for going before all this. And especially good on you for leaving an abusive man. You deserve better and will get better.

[sarahsweets]

Tell your sisters to go f**k themselves. You deserve better than that.

[Drewbacca]

You know what is best for you. Tell your sisters to have some respect and shut up.

School doesn't tend to be as easy for the ADHD brain (because we over think everything, not because we are slow). Best to wait until you have a clear head and have the emotional baggage behind you, before tackling more classes. Good luck, whenever you choose to go back!

[Ipsofacto]

An ADHD trait is not being able to say no easily, and over committing. Mostly this is in respect of trying to please others, but it also applies to our own expectations of what we should do.

The good thing about my diagnosis is that I look now before I leap. I know I need to push my envelope in order to grow, but I also know that setting myself up for stress, or failure is very easy to do.

Sounds to me like a wise decision.