A little problem throws me completely

[SquarePeg]

So I was vaccuming (miracle) and had to change the bag. Well I changed it but couldn´t close the vaccum properly.

I tried for about 20 minutes, felt like crying. Looked on the internet and couldn´t find anything relating to this.

Tried again for another 20 minutes, tried to slam it shut but didn´t want to break it as it is new. I have broken things before like this, I mean I know slamming is not going to fix it but I still do it.

Left vaccum in the middle of the floor and started on something else. It´s worrying me, feel overwhelmed by another problem that I don´t know how to fix. I bought it online so taking it back is a problem.

Cut to the end, it was the way I put the bag in that prevented it from closing. So all ok now.

Thing is I felt overwhelmed by a stupid little problem and now I feel absurdly pleased that it´s fixed, like a weight has been lifted from me.

Does anybody else feel like this, that they can´t cope with the slightest spanner in the works.

[tudorose]

Yes. A lot. For me it means that something else is wrong.

[parliate]

Yeah,when it happens to me , i usually break things because can't stop my anger .Because of that i find 2 method which is works for me :

1- cold bath
2- sleeping

[Drewbacca]

Don't feel that something is wrong with you... It is human to be frustrated like this from time to time. Once you think something goes together a certain way, it's very difficult to step back and find a different approach. I've lost count of how many times I needed someone else to take a look at a problem where I couldn't find a solution. On the other hand, there have been just as many times where I was the one solving the problem. **** happens.

[SquarePeg]

Originally Posted by parliate

Yeah,when it happens to me , i usually break things because can't stop my anger .Because of that i find 2 method which is works for me :

1- cold bath
2- sleeping

I hate being cold and I couldn´t sleep for worrying, totally pathetic.

Yes I have broken so many things is anger.

[SquarePeg]

Drewbacca, it´s not that I get frustrated from time to time is every time something happens I feel overwhelmed.

Normal things that aren´t even a problem. Me and the kids have a busy timetable but I know what we´re doing every day, but add one more thing and I crack. Even my daughter will say on the way to swimming, "mum can we give a ride to my friend". Her friend lives on route, and it´s literally 3 min detour, no big deal. But it throws me and I end up shouting "why didn´t you tell me before" blah blah.

I hate asking for help as well.

[Drewbacca]

I'm very independent... I HATE asking for help.

That overwhelmed feeling is treatable, however, but requires you to change how you approach things at times.

But, I get it. I'm often overwhelmed too. It's always easier to give advice than it is to follow your own.

[stef]

yes totally!
but im learning just to remain calm (after the initial wave of shock & frustration)
and then i can find a solution!
everything that goes wrong, is not always my fault.

[Impetus]

Oh yes!

for some reason, closing my eyes and taking a deep breath makes a stunning difference when dealing with an obtuse vacuum cleaner. Clearly, the vacuum cleaner just needed a minute to get it's head right and decide to be cooperative.

Originally Posted by SquarePeg

Drewbacca, it´s not that I get frustrated from time to time is every time something happens I feel overwhelmed.

Normal things that aren´t even a problem. Me and the kids have a busy timetable but I know what we´re doing every day, but add one more thing and I crack. Even my daughter will say on the way to swimming, "mum can we give a ride to my friend". Her friend lives on route, and it´s literally 3 min detour, no big deal. But it throws me and I end up shouting "why didn´t you tell me before" blah blah.

I hate asking for help as well.

perhaps it would be a good idea to cut some things out of the schedule?? afterall, friends are way more important than schedules.

[SquarePeg]

Originally Posted by Impetus

Oh yes!

perhaps it would be a good idea to cut some things out of the schedule?? afterall, friends are way more important than schedules.

I think it´s just me. I have 4 months off during the summer as I work in a school. I always plan to get things done, dentist, dogs vaccinated, deep clean house, organise filing etc but find I hardly get anything done. The more time I have the less I can achieve.

Now kids are back and school and I am back at work I can´t cut anything back, the kids have extra classes with a private teacher and extra classes at school to recuperation exams they have failed. The kids have taekwondo and swimming three times a week, I feel sports activities are important after so much studying and to just get away from stuff connected to school.

I have to prepare lessons for the week and this is the worst part of my job as I am so unorganised and start 1 lesson, then 5 minutes later start another one, then another then it´s a big mess. When I do finally plan a days´lessons I go to bed and when I wake up I can´t make sense of my notes.

There is no public transport here so I always have to drive and then wait around. If I could get my act together I could go to the gym or library, instead I smoke and drink coffee.

I know other people have crazy schedules and cope. The reality is I have time I just procrastinate and feel like I can´t cope.

I just started on concerta and my anxiety has lessened so I am hoping for more improvements.

Sorry didn´t mean to go on and on.

[lalapin]

I've broken SO many things! I remember when I broke a keyboard tray (by shaking it out of anger!!!)

[nanners]

Originally Posted by SquarePeg

Sorry didn´t mean to go on and on.

Don't be sorry, you've got to get it all out somewhere!

[Zevispaz]

I have zero patience for inanimate objects. I have to walk away before I start hitting them or throwing them. Actually, it's more because when they break they throw me out of my hyperfocus and now I have to completely redirect my line of thinking, which derails me from what I was initially doing in the first place.

Which is funny because in general I have a lot of patience for people, but if a computer makes a funny beeping noise I'll curse at it and smack it.

[fracturedstory]

That would totally happen to me. I once sucked up one of my Sonic screwdrivers and I put my hand it the bag and tried my best not to break the whole thing. It all just poured out. I got it everywhere.
I ended up buying another Doctor Who figure so I could get that screwdriver back.

Any slight problem while I'm being massively productive turns into - MEEEEEELTTDOOOWWWNNN! I hate everything and everyone and I feel like such a failure.

Then I get distracted and play a game. Then later when I've calmed I try to work out a way to solve the problem.

[janet63]

I feel overwhelmed most days and have just learned to deal with this fact of my life.