With lack of friends, in need some company right now

[Ocyan]

Just had a fight - had to walk away, my father is so closed minded and sometimes really egoistic I just can't argue with those people. My neighbor is watching a film with his family and I'm too angry to surrender my pride and ask if I can stay with them desperately so I'm hoping finding some company here as with a lack of friends I find myself alone right now...

Why do I sound like a drama queen teen every time I'm being honest ? =P

[SquarePeg]

sorry to hear your struggling. I think my daughter would love to leave home in a huff sometimes but she told me yesterday that she doesn´t storm out because she has nowhere to go and she said she´s not going to walk the streets, and get cold and hungry for nobody!

Thing is I do understand how she feels she just feels that I don´t sometimes. I hope you and your dad can sort it out.

[stef]

i invite you over virtually. were watching " bones".
what did you argue about ? (unless you dont want to talk about it...)

[Ocyan]

Thnx Squarepeg & stef . Seems like your daughter knows the facts.

@ stef - a banana plant got destroyed by intense frost waves and put it inside to protect, being devastated already (looks like it's straight from Death Valley) and my father's comment was 'it's too hideous to stay inside, period. ' - so I got worked up and told I only argue with people ready to discuss matter rationally. In the end I did give an argument because I do live in his house and he does have a point - but I stay clear - the only way I can communicate is by rational arguments, not thoughtless statements so generally I leave until the other one is calmed down.

Our relation always has been distant with lack of comprehension. He never had a father figure example so he did his best through hard work his entire life. On the other hand, as much as I appreciate the efforts, his past will not be my burden.

Yeah I did leave, but this is not because they're parents - actually I've been putting a lot (not enough) effort to make the relations work and it's improving more or less.

They are people, we don't choose our parents, we have to live together (or leave) and sometimes distance is the best option for peace. That's why I needed a breathe. He happens to be very stubborn, I happen to be the same with fewer patience and less control over more unstable emotions.

And fewer friends. That's what I so often lack... I feel like I've missed love my entire life.

My 'autism' traits really overwhelm me. I should be aware of that.

[Flory]

Ocy....))))))))cuddles(((((((.....i'd hang out with you if i was there ^_^

[julesjampot]

me too ,much luv

[nikkinoodles]

Have you invited your dad to just sit down with you and have a deep and meaningful conversation, just lay it all out on the table, and request that there be no arguing or raising of voices, Just a chat about how your both feeling and how work through things together. I know it sounds silly, i have the same problems with my mother and she is very hard work, she gets defensive very quickly and tries to escape confrontation by picking an argument that was never there ( comon guys you argued over a banana plant!!) but you shouldnt back down, you have to live together and you have to find a way to make it work, theres no point in living uncomfortably with someone that you dont feel you can talk to, im not sure how old you are, but if talking doesnt work then maybe moving out will? it sure worked for me and now me and my mum are like best friends

[Conman]

sorry about your dad

[SquarePeg]

Sometimes we get on better with family members once we leave home. Me and my dad argued constantly, he was so strict and stubborn and had to be right at all times (and so did I). Actually I think I was worse as soon as he said anything I would have to disagree.

Work on social skills and making friends. Join an evening class or club in something that you enjoy, from there you may meet people. Could be a Spanish class, pilates, computer, cooking, dance whatever.

[Fuzzy12]

cuddles from me too. Sorry you are low. Family relationships are so complicated., a bit of distance can help.

[Ocyan]

@ nikki

Likewise for my sister & me now. Spoke on the phone the other day. Went great. I miss her boyfriend though

I ask him to, from time to time - but since he's overloaded with a third job (not that he needs it) I try to respect the fact the he might be constantly exhausted so I try to pick out the right spots - not easy it's 24/7 work.

22 yo. Another 6 months and I will have my diploma and leave. I'll just have to get a better grip on myself, think before talking, prioritize on my life and accept once again social communication is my major flaw - until acting more as an adult.

Prioritizing art, music & studies and think before talking.

Originally Posted by SquarePeg

[...]Join an evening class or club in something that you enjoy, from there you may meet people. Could be a Spanish class, pilates, computer, cooking, dance whatever.

Lead singer, designer, song writer & pianist of my own heavy metal band (Blaccurrent) !

But yeah, I actually might, been thinking of this.

[stef]

Originally Posted by Ocyan;1389742

22 yo. Another 6 months and I will have my diploma and leave. I'll just have to get a better grip on myself, think before talking, prioritize on my life and accept once again social communication is my major flaw - until acting more as an adult.

Prioritizing art, music & studies and [I

think[/i] before talking.


Lead singer, designer, song writer & pianist of my own heavy metal band (Blaccurrent) !

.

Hey you are the same age as my son!
also living at home now and should have his diploma in June. I think you 2 would be good friends. he is studying languages & likes heavy metal.
we (my husband & I) must be driving him crazy, I really do try not to be too annoying.
We are all getting along ok though.

[SquarePeg]

Originally Posted by Ocyan

Prioritizing art, music & studies and think before talking.


Lead singer, designer, song writer & pianist of my own heavy metal band (Blaccurrent) !

But yeah, I actually might, been thinking of this.

So I guess it´s fair to say that you express yourself through your music. I bet you connect with people through your music.

It´s hard finding people that I connect with, sometimes I just settle for people who tolerate my weirdness and feel comfortable and don´t get offended when I blurt out inappropriate or insensitive remarks.

[mad83]

If you ever need to talk, I'm online 18 hours a day.

[Ocyan]

Originally Posted by SquarePeg

So I guess it´s fair to say that you express yourself through your music[...]

It's my inner outlet. It's I'll never want to live of it, it would mean to become commercial - and the whole point is to be coming from the inside. Money would make creating my music completely pointless as it is the sound my emotions create, not the cash register (although... ? )