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Old 06-01-17, 12:30 PM
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Does my child have ADHD?

I am wondering whether I should look into helping (testing) my six year old son. He loses EVERYTHING all the time and I am fed up of constantly telling him off when I know he is just vague. He is VERY hyperactive but in a way that I don't know means lively or not...he has always been VERY boisterous. He's big (he was 10Ib at birth) and he is literally larger than life. He shows off a lot and exhausts us as he climbs EVERYTHING. He is REALLY impulsive and I am always trying to teach him to THINK before he does anything...I am terrified he will kill himself one day!

As a baby he woke every two hours for 15 months and cried constantly. It was awful for everyone most of all for him of course.
If we put him to bed at a decent hour he will sing or whistle, get out of bed to drink...etc for the next hour at least...maybe two on a bad night.

He wants to know what is happening all the time and will hang around until he gets his response. He talks ALL the time and hums if not. Sitting still is a problem and one day recently when we stayed in the house all day (it never happens), he got really irritable and told me that he HAD to move! If I could describe him in short words I would say he is: intense, full on and vibrant. I adore him and he is popular among other children (he is REALLY nice and sensitive and funny) but I worry that he finds it literally painful to do nothing. He does draw without moving but is not a great reader. He needs action.

I have another son on the autistic spectrum (aspergers) so I wonder if I am reading too much into my youngest but I want to do things right by him. I don't want to change him EVER in any way but I want to make it all more comfortable for him as he is also very clumsy and breaks things often. I feel mean telling him to pay attention and stop losing things. I feel it is part of his impulsivity, that he can't help it. He is wired. I know how that feels as I am on the bipolar spectrum and am often unable to switch off but I no longer really know what is normal and what needs looking into for that very reason! I would welcome any advice. THANK YOU. My mum had attention problems at school.

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Re: Does my child have ADHD?

It's probably worth getting him assessed. Does he have any impairments? Does his behaviour cause any problems?
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Re: Does my child have ADHD?

Thank you midnight star and Fuzzy 12 no...and he is really good academically, only top grades...I didn't realize until I saw his school book. He gets only As. Maybe this is just his nature! Maybe he's just very full on!
I love him however he is it's just sometimes I worry HE must be exhausted being like this and he isn't!
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Re: Does my child have ADHD?

So ok, he's wild with tons of energy. Can you exercise him more? Literally take him out running? Most people especially children get depressed when being stuck inside all day; even if it's for that one day. That's typical. Also though I understand your concerns and it sounds exhausting. You say he has good grades and has many friends. I would say thise would be the only categories that would drive me over the edge to take my child to be evaluated for meds. Having little social ability and under performing in school are most important. Otherwise I wouldn't mess around with meds especially at such a young age. ADHD meds are so strong. The only reason why I think doctors can so easily prescribe them to children is because these doctors have no experience taking the actual drugs themselves. It's ludicrous. You know a lot of mentail illness and just illness in general stems from the gut. There could be genetic food allergies and intolerances within your family explaining a lot of the mental illness incl anxiety ADHD bipolar disorder etc. I have very little knowledge on autism so I am not downgrading your other son's autism to a food allergy. However check diet changes for ADHD kids. it's worth the Google.
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I can reassure you that he gets lots of exercise. We walk everywhere and just going to school and back 3 times makes him walk about 45 minutes a day! We cycle, I have started to take him swimming again...
He's very happy, utterly sweet. He's probably just very "hypomane" as they say here in France. He just needs to move A LOT and the only problem with that is my other son who needs to stay calm a lot! I have to laugh...balancing their needs is hard!

Diet I doubt for the simple reason that we eat hardly any sugar, fizzy drinks etc. We eat mainly fruit and veg and usually just milk and water. I think we are just as we are. If we had sugary dets I would have thought it was worth looking into as I read about influence on hyperactivity etc through food but I do think this family is just like it is finally having mused over it for a while. In France they don't give meds to children really. Different culture I guess.
I agree that mood disorders could be helped by diet and exercise etc though I know that many people will not find a cure just a way of living with mental illness which is my case. I disagree that diet can change autism though perhaps as with anyone it can alter certain aspects. It won't cure it. My eldest's autism is far more complex than anything me or my little boy are dealing with.
Thank you for your time. It was an interesting read...
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Re: Does my child have ADHD?

A child this impulsive and this hyperactive is very likely to have ADHD.

Doing very well in school is usual for ADHD - until he reaches the level in school that is more difficult for him. I had that problem in university - suddenly all my ADHD problems made success almost impossible. (Before that, in high school, the work was easy enough for me that I could get it done and also fight with the ADHD problems at the same time.)

So, I reached my maximum in university. Some with ADHD reach their maximum much earlier, or later.
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Re: Does my child have ADHD?

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I would say thise would be the only categories that would drive me over the edge to take my child to be evaluated for meds. Having little social ability and under performing in school are most important. Otherwise I wouldn't mess around with meds especially at such a young age. ADHD meds are so strong. The only reason why I think doctors can so easily prescribe them to children is because these doctors have no experience taking the actual drugs themselves. It's ludicrous. You know a lot of mentail illness and just illness in general stems from the gut. There could be genetic food allergies and intolerances within your family explaining a lot of the mental illness incl anxiety ADHD bipolar disorder etc. I have very little knowledge on autism so I am not downgrading your other son's autism to a food allergy. However check diet changes for ADHD kids. it's worth the Google.
No offense but I strongly disagree with this. Its not just school grades and social skills that are impairments. If school grades are being used as some sort of barameter to gauge impairments, then a lot of adhd kids would have gone untreated and suffer. Alot of us did well in school all of the time, some of the time or none of the time. Grades and adhd IMO should not even be in the same sentence because IMO they can be subjective. I also get tired of the narrative that doctors are just out to drug children willy nilly because they would rather just drug a child then help the child. This has not been my experience. To say that someone could have a food intolerance that could be responsible for a mental illness is insulting. I have a mental illness aside from adhd and I can assure you that all of the dietary changes I have tried have never treated my mental illness the way meds and therapy have.
I am not saying those things should be ignored but in no way do I believe they should be the primary treatment for any mental illness or adhd. There isnt as much evidence behind food allergy and intolerances as their is behind medication and therapy, and I also do not believe it boils down to some conspiracy between the doctors and pharma companies. I dont believe these companies have the vested interest in kids to nefariously work to drug them rather than help them.

I can say that medication saved my son's life and if you are interested, there is a sticky about it in children's diagnosis.
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Re: Does my child have ADHD?

This is great to know. My son, undiagnosed but exhibiting many signs, has always done well in school. He's in advanced math, doing work two grades ahead of his. But...I notice when he has to put any time at all into it, he becomes extremely frustrated, convinced he can't do it, and angry. When I can convince him to just stop and look at it with me, he often can complete it quickly. But not immediately knowing how to do it seems to shut him down. Any strategies you can suggest for making school work less frustrating?
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