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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

I wish I had "those" dreams! Well actually I do.... but I get nervous and wake up at the best possible part.
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Are you talking about real dreams? I wish I dreamed of men or even women. Instead I dream I'm being chased by zombies or something like that.
Could be worse, both dreams could be merged together.
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Are you talking about real dreams? I wish I dreamed of men or even women. Instead I dream I'm being chased by zombies or something like that.
I mean fantasies and night time dreams when the nightmares sod off and stay sodded off
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Physically i'm attracted to the opposite sex. In terms of personality though, I find it hard to be attracted to anyone. Perhaps i'm just too different from the "norm". But I often feel let down by people i'm physically attracted to. I tend to get attracted to drama queens because I find them more interesting, albeit, more stressful to deal with as well. Eventually the stress becomes too much and I just can't deal with it anymore.
Then go for something different. Hey, us laid back and easy-going women can be interesting, too, lol. I have a history of being attracted to self-absorbed difficult men. Kind of like the last guy, the one who had to get a rush from everything and was just always looking for excitement. I find it fun in the beginning, but it gets old fast. I realized what I needed was someone who matched my personality, laid back and no drama. Someone I could actually see living my day-to-day life with. I started being more open-minded and looking outside my type, and now I may have found a keeper.
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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

I don't know my own personality. I don't understand myself, so it's impossible for anybody else to understand me. I don't know why I am the way I am. I just feel so lost on myself. I look in the mirror and I don't feel like it's me that's staring back at me.
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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

Sounds like you are bi-sexual, it is just wild instinct . You know men's penis get erected or women's vaginas get wet etc.
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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

I'm attracted to people regardless of their gender, so maybe I can give some useful advice. One common theme among people who are attracted to more than one gender is that attraction toward different genders can feel different, so it can be understandably confusing. Another common thing (especially among women) is that your attraction toward one gender or another can fluctuate over time, making it even more confusing.

The only real way to know if you are attracted to a certain gender when you are unsure and start questioning as an adult is to give yourself a good amount of time to really think about how you feel and how you have felt over the years. Be patient with yourself.

Some questions to ask yourself (you don't need to answer them, they're more to help guide you in finding out how you feel.) Have you ever fantasized about women? What about men? Is one much more frequent than the other? Have you ever had a crush on a man? What about a woman? Can you remember specific people you have crushed on? Have they all been the same gender?

If it's just dreams at night, they don't necessarily mean anything. Dreams tend to just put random people from your life into what's going on in them. It's not uncommon for people to dream of having sex with family members for example, even though they are not sexually attracted to them. How you feel about these dreams when you wake up can tell you something, however. Do you think you would enjoy it if the dream was real?

No matter whom you are or are not attracted to, it's definitely not wrong. Feel free to message me if you want to talk in private!
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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

When I was in high school I used to fantasise about dating my female best friend idk if that meant anything
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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

I don't think you need to decide. I mean it's not something to be decided and whatever you are feeling it's never wrong or bad. I like what kitty said (as always..) about being attracted to people and not gender. Maybe just take it one person at a time.

How I know is that I've never been attracted to any particular woman. In theory making out with a woman does sound exciting but I just can't imagine being attracted to or making out with a woman in real life. I also can't fantasize romantically about women..like falling in love or spending my life with a woman.

I think being attracted once or in school to.someone or having the odd dream doesn't mean much but again I think like acdc said don't overthink it. Whatever it is it's fine and you are fine.
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Re: How do you know your preference in relationships?

I think that's some sound advice fuzzy. It's not some life time decision you're making. You're either attracted to someone or you're not regardless of their gender. Just relax and be yourself. Life isn't black and white. Categorization is a human invention. You don't need to categorize yourself.
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I think that's some sound advice fuzzy. It's not some life time decision you're making. You're either attracted to someone or you're not regardless of their gender. Just relax and be yourself. Life isn't black and white. Categorization is a human invention. You don't need to categorize yourself.
That's probably where I go wrong, I really struggle to see the "grey" in life
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That's probably where I go wrong, I really struggle to see the "grey" in life
Me too. But we can only do our bestests.
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