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Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

Do you own your children?

Do your children owe you?









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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

Since my kids are not property I do not own them.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

Interesting question.

Do I own my children, well as Sarah said they aren't property. HOWEVER, if they skip school for 10+ days I'm the one that get charged with a crime. If they drive into a house, I'm the one that gets sued. If they act out in public I'm looked at as a bad parent who didn't teach them better.

So, do I own them....if my dog bites someone I'm libel, and if my kid bites someone same thing, so I'm going with the theory that I'm renting them until they are 18 :- )

Does my child owe me? They owe me an explanation if I ask for one, they are accountable to me. However, they don't owe me monetarily, or figuratively for the privilege of raising them.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

No we don't our children. We have just got the privilege of taking care of them. Our children don't owe us. They didn't ask to be born

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Parents have legal obligations of course, but love is unconditional.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

Don’t have any, and neither does my sister. The family line dies with us. I asked her years ago what informed her decision and it was the same reason as mine. The chain is broken with us.

So I owe nothing, and am owed nothing.


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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

No.
No.

In the words of many sages: We have children because we desire to leave something better for humankind.

It was OUR decision to have children. Not the child's decision.

If anybody owes anybody anything, it is the parents who owe the children. The parents, after all made all the decisions to bring the children into this excessively complicated ****** up world. And...in all 'developed' countries, it was the parents' generation that lumped bad decision upon bad decision politically, leaving the children there to clean it up.

Which is why America's millennials pretty much are giving up hope for much of a future.

Exactly what do those children owe their forebears?
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

We dont own them, it's that just we have the responsibility and obligation to take care of them.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

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No.
No.

In the words of many sages: We have children because we desire to leave something better for humankind.

It was OUR decision to have children. Not the child's decision.

If anybody owes anybody anything, it is the parents who owe the children. The parents, after all made all the decisions to bring the children into this excessively complicated ****** up world. And...in all 'developed' countries, it was the parents' generation that lumped bad decision upon bad decision politically, leaving the children there to clean it up.

Which is why America's millennials pretty much are giving up hope for much of a future.

Exactly what do those children owe their forebears?
I super agree with your opinion
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

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Since my kids are not property I do not own them.
And yes, THIS.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

No. No.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

You raise your kids so they can spend their lives with someone else. They don't owe you anything.

I am very happy that my kids have found life partners.
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Re: Do you own your children? Do your child owe you?

My father actually called me his property.

My son isn't property. I don't own him. He is a slightly smaller person with a mind and dreams and goals and ideas. He has his own life. Well not smaller, he's already taller than I am already.

I wouldn't trade my son for the world. Right now it's my job to make sure he becomes a successful adult. After I've done that its my job to nag him about his unworthy partners and not calling enough.
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