ADD and my Pending Divorce

[paulbf]

I don't want it but she's at the end of her rope and frankly I might benefit from being pushed out on my own or at least getting out of the atmosphere of accusations & guilt.

Anyways, I guess my key question is should I get a lawyer to keep an eye on finances? Money is the key reason for the split and she holds the purse strings. If her motivation is really financial maybe she hasn't thought things through assuming our property is split 50-50. Am I assuming correctly that's a given? She may have other ideas.

This is very strange because we've been in counseling and she agrees we are able to be friends and have fun together.

The past week has been total silence and very difficult emotionally. I'll admit most of the blame goes on me but I don't respond well to ultimatums or emotional turmoil, so here we are. I never thought it would come to this but nothing suprises me after all I've been through.

If I can get a grip, I'll try to fill in more of the story, it's difficult.