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Old 10-19-10, 02:01 PM
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Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

I find that usually, with extremely few exceptions, even with good friends that once I leave them for long enough, I stop missing or thinking about them at all. Of course, if I see them again, the affection comes back (this can apply for romantic partners and parents). For example, after my best friend left in eighth grade, I wasn't too happy about it, sure, but I find that I never really thought about her again much. Is this typical?
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Re: Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

Yup same thing for me, but i find that i don't even TRY to keep in touch with them. Some of my friends have said i disappear of the planet for 6 months then come back and act like i never even left.
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Re: Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

Yup me too, my partners been away for just over a month now and I love him dearly but there's just too many other things I have to remember to do to have time to miss him!
Except when I see him, then it all comes flooding back.
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Re: Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

Dunno. My husband has been dead for around six weeks... 45 days to be precise. I only miss him every waking second. Even most non-waking seconds.

Old friends from high school or a different job or even people I was once close to? Not so much.

I think that there is something about HOW you disconnected that may be a driver here.

A childhood friend of mine was murdered almost thirty years ago. I miss her terribly and always have. Others in my life who have died are still in my thoughts rather routinely.

Perhaps it is when we have had the ability to choose. I don't know.
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Re: Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

I still think of people I knew from a long time ago that I don't know anymore.
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Re: Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

I only hope my friends aren't too offended when we lose touch. A couple of times I've started hanging out with someone again and they ask tentatively if I've forgiven them. They think they did something. It makes me really sad.
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Re: Out of Sight, Out of Mind: The Mental Disappearing Act

Basically this applies to me too. With the exception of my gf. I think about her all the time and if we are not in touch for a few days that only gets more and more.
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