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Old 03-07-15, 12:03 AM
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The need to be comfortable

This just crossed my mind, I CONSTANTLY need to be comfortable.

Whether it be: the way I am seated (constantly adjusting myself as one leg gets sore etc)

-Going to sleep

-At work (everything should be organized, stocked up, and be where I know I can find it) (Line cook)

-the right TV show is on

-but the main one that has followed me my whole life, is when I am about to EAT!!!... I always find myself having made the food, placed it on my desk, and I am about to dig in, then I realize I need a drink with my food, or I need to go to the washroom (even though I JUST went) The bathroom one is every single time, EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. lol I always need to make sure my bladder is completely emptied before I eat my food, it's so weird now that I am thinking about it more.

Not like these are bad things at all, I just wanted to see if any others experience these things, stopping them from doing something cause they NEED to be completely comfortable beforehand, and if it's a ADHD thing!

side note: my food gets cold quick.
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Re: The need to be comfortable

I am with you on that. I am constantly attempting to get comfortable. It's difficult to ever be that relaxed. About the time I finally get comfortable, I realize everything I forgot to do.

It's very difficult to be totally comfortable for more then just a few minutes. Even when I sleep, I am all over the bed. I may wake up with my head at the foot of the bed. Opposite way of where I started and have no recollection.
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I am with you on that. I am constantly attempting to get comfortable. It's difficult to ever be that relaxed. About the time I finally get comfortable, I realize everything I forgot to do.

It's very difficult to be totally comfortable for more then just a few minutes. Even when I sleep, I am all over the bed. I may wake up with my head at the foot of the bed. Opposite way of where I started and have no recollection.
Yea, i have gotten used to it for the most part i guess, only since I have thought about Adhd have I really noticed how much I move around.
The sleeping part though I have always known, it's not hard to notice that I am freezing cold because I pushed one blanket off the bed, and my comforter is only covering some of me cause I have rolled around all night, waking me up cause a big ball of blanket is pushing my ribs in lol

That is if I don't wake up after 4 hours for any other reason..
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Re: The need to be comfortable

yes I have to be in the right position or place at the table. and in the train! left side, facing forward, next to window! And wearing the right clothes, according to the weather ( it's mild here but varies a lot), ok it's cool but not cold, so no parka, but warm light coat and turtleneck and extra cardigan... i have to calculate this carefully.
I sit in a kind of half yoga position often apparently i have some joint hyperflexibility thing.
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Re: The need to be comfortable

Turtlenecks are a great comfort in my ability to be in public, weather permitting. Love, love, LOVE them. Cardigans too.

If I am waiting in a waiting room with people I either leave or ask to be allowed into the office so I can be alone and out of sight. I hate being near people.

I would never, ever be able to do public transit and I am irrationally afraid of it even though there is none at all where I live. I can barely watch a movie that may involve a cab or a bus. Shows that involve apartments in N.Y. freak me out.

I only shop early am.

I am, however, able to walk up and down Main and go into stores because I live in a small town but if I am approached by salespeople I will leave. Most know me well enough to leave me alone.

But I have a no holds barred way of flapping with the produce guys at the grocer's.
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Re: The need to be comfortable

I hate being uncomfortable. I can't wear uncomfortable clothes or shoes. I could when I was younger but now I keep obsessing about the slightest discomfort and the un pleasantness it causes seems to multiply exponentially. I think, it might be an age thing for me. I wasn't like this in my twenties.
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Re: The need to be comfortable

I am with you, but I never thought of it as an ADHD thing. As I am highly influenced by others, I have always believed that my need to be comfortable is my need to control, or that I don't know how to share, or that I am self-centered and don't care about others.

I have accepted this from people I have been and are around me as I know that I cannot relax unless certain things are in place in order, for example to go to sleep, the T.V. my drinks next to my bed, certain sheets because so many aggravate my skin causing terrible itching...I feel guilty for needing things my way...I just never thought of it as taking care of my needs...only that my inability to be comfortable no matter what the situation is so intense that I can get really angry and self-absorbed.

As for the bathroom...same here, go and need to go again, and again, even though I don't really need to. This is many times met with "what's wrong with you...can you not just stay still for five minutes?"
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Re: The need to be comfortable

An ADHD brain needs constant stimulation(including feelings of comfort!) If you don't get it, you'll likely feel un-easy very quickly.
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I hate being uncomfortable. I can't wear uncomfortable clothes or shoes. I could when I was younger but now I keep obsessing about the slightest discomfort and the un pleasantness it causes seems to multiply exponentially. I think, it might be an age thing for me. I wasn't like this in my twenties.

You know Fuzzy,I totally agree. Could just be ADHD thing(you know)! I think many times, the men you catch outdoors(shirtless during spring & summer!) & the ladies who can never keep their shoes on.

At lot of them might be ADHD'ers,too? We hate uncomfortable stimuli!
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I've been led to believe oversensitivity to environment, a preference for comfortable clothes, a desire for comforting rituals, is far more likely to be an autistic/Aspergian trait than an ADHD trait...

The more time goes on, now, it almost seems as if Asperger's traits and ADHD traits are blurring into each other.. it's confusing, at times.
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I've been led to believe oversensitivity to environment, a preference for comfortable clothes, a desire for comforting rituals, is far more likely to be an autistic/Aspergian trait than an ADHD trait...

The more time goes on, now, it almost seems as if Asperger's traits and ADHD traits are blurring into each other.. it's confusing, at times.

You are correct but as you mention, ADHD & Autism symptoms frequently over-lap with one another. So extreme sensitivity to certain forms of stimulation totally makes perfect sense!
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You are correct but as you mention, ADHD & Autism symptoms frequently over-lap with one another. So extreme sensitivity to certain forms of stimulation totally makes perfect sense!
In this case, I would think it's only rational to believe that ADD and higher functioning autism must be different expressions of the same exact thing... right? Both are developmental disorders, as well.
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The more time goes on, now, it almost seems as if Asperger's traits and ADHD traits are blurring into each other.. it's confusing, at times.
Funny you should say this as in a couple of posts I have be alerted to Asperger's being similar to certain posts I was describing...interesting.
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Re: The need to be comfortable

It's the anxiety part of my disorders that comes out. If I'm in a restaurant I have to be away from the door with my back facing a wall or exit and I have to see who is coming in and out. I am not comfortable in what I consider a vulnerable position.
Same with hotel and bed. Furthest bed away from the door and my room cannot be near an elevator. I don't like being in a hotel right next to the highway or in a bad area because I automatically assume something bad is going to happen and so I become prepared for something which means I'm not relaxing.

I know, I'm working on it!
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Re: The need to be comfortable

I haven't even mentioned clothes but everything must be soft and comfortable! Stretch jeans and leggings. and this is getting worse with age. When i think of some of the stuff I wore in high school, how did I ever sit through class in one of those shetland sweaters with a blouse under it???

also being short, I only like capri length pants now (I just wear them with boots in winter) ; and even slightly fitted women's tops are always a problem, I have narrow shoulders so the neckline and shoulders are all "boxy". We all got matching polo shirts for band last year, I'm dreading the spring and summer events already. Scratchy and boxy!
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