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Re: The cool crowd

Be yourself and be true to who you really are

That's what I call "authentic." Nothing's "cooler" than that


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It's like being in bloody high school again. I thought this sort of nonsense was supposed to end when we left.

Not really sure what to make of it. I'm open to interpretations please.



It seems to get worse as people get older, their fellowship is all a facade, although I'm not apart of the in crowd but its funny how the cool kids will always tell me on an individual basis how much they can't stand 'x' person or 'y' person, very two faced and shallow people, makes me kinda glad I've always been on the outside.
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It seems to get worse as people get older, their fellowship is all a facade, although I'm not apart of the in crowd but its funny how the cool kids will always tell me on an individual basis how much they can't stand 'x' person or 'y' person, very two faced and shallow people, makes me kinda glad I've always been on the outside.
I've been keeping myself on the outside on purpose. I've just run a major project and the ringleader was crazymaking the whole time. I was onto her though so she didn't get her way but I knew she was ******** about me the whole time. She even tried to go to my manager to make me change my plans to suit her. The next big project is going to be run by one of her enablers. So glad I don't have to be a part of that!!

And you're right it doesn't end at high school it just gets worse!!
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Re: The cool crowd

Tudor,
It sounds like you’re the cool one. That’s probably why you got the promotion and the “cool ones” didn’t.

Does the boss recognize there is a click in the office that acts like they are in jr. high school? Can you ask to be moved to another area of the office away from them. I would mention that between the sorority sisters and their electronic giggles you need away from them to perform your job more effectively.
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Now that I know your age Tudor, I know we are the cool crowd.
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Hehe we sure are
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Re: The cool crowd

Aw, SarahSweets stole my line - I was going to say it looks like you are part of the cool crowd here!

I wish I had discovered long ago that there is a whole spectrum of how different people are going to react to you - some will love you, some not, some will want to be your friends, some not - you just have to say "yes" to it all, and not want people to feel something they don't.

If there's a group that doesn't include you, f--- it. Find your own group, organically. They aren't necessarily bad people because they have something in common. Now, if they treat you badly in some way, then be assertive and tell them you don't like the behavior, and that they need to change it and make amends. But I wouldn't hold grudges or label people as "bad" or "********" or whatever. It just hurts you, not them. Most people are good people for the most part, and you are good for the most part, they just don't want to be friends with you for whatever reason.

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Re: The cool crowd

So my 'friend' who has been away for a month came back today and I can always tell when **** has been said about me coz of how she treats me. Saying things about the project I ran (that she wasn't even there for) where I didn't let the ringleader get her own way. Hmmmm

The ringleader is leaving for another area on Monday so I'm watching to see how that changes things. I'm over this hot and cold BS based on what **** others want to say about me. People suck this is why I don't bother having any friends.
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Just the fact the the ring leader is called a ring leader means she's a b**ch.
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Re: The cool crowd

I really thought this other one was my friend. But she's just so easily led that she can't be anyone's friend. Ive known her for 11 years. Her husband has adhd and she knows so much about me which I know would have been gotten out of her by the ringleader. I feel betrayed and exposed. A lot of what she knows was not meant for my enemies. It feel like how I'd feel if my real identity was exposed on here given all the stuff I've said over the last 15 years
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wow i am just so happy to be done with all of this BS.
i had this nagging thing, with anothe floor being a kind of a "cool crowd"; it's like i just didn't get them or fit in. this was strangely, both the lawyers and staff. But i wasn't too involved with them nor was my boss unless he absolutely had to deal with them. (we were on a different floor).

They were absolutely horrible to a new, young associate who coincidentally, my boss much appreciated for her out-of-the-box thinking - she has adhd also - and asked her to work with a very touchy, high profile client.

ugghhhh also on another floor, i had this just lovely nice colleague and even the most unpleasant partners were friendly to her and she made everyone laugh. she had zero notion of office politics, etc. also she was damn good at her job. we used to share an office, once she came down to see me and said wide-eyed, "stef they're all jealous of me!"
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Lil Miss doesn't need to join no cool crowd.

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Re: The cool crowd

Also not to hijack your thread, but well my boss was also theirs, and he handpicked people to work with him; and the woman who was the worst to the young associate had since been promoted within her team, but never asked to assist with that Client. because my boss probably saw right through her as the phony ***** she is. A lot of it was just pure jealousy.
At a holiday outing for the department, she purposely turned halfway so as to cut me out of the conversation. i dont think she liked assistants chatting with fee earners.

anyway just stay out of their BS and don't let this microcosm of behavior define how IRL friendships work. i would love to hang out and watch some sports with you. you could explain that aussie footy thing
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anyway just stay out of their BS and don't let this microcosm of behavior define how IRL friendships work. i would love to hang out and watch some sports with you. you could explain that aussie footy thing
One day I'd like to come to France then we can talk le tour and Aussie Rules Football.
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