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Old 10-05-04, 02:04 PM
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Hello Everyone,

I just hit the half century mark a few weeks ago. Several months back, I was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD (Pardon the inclusion of boths abbreviations, but I tend to get them mixed up!).

I have been working since I was 16 years old. I come from an abusive household ( the far greater amount of it comming from my father). I accept my mother tried to do the best she could. She has been gone since December 26,1996. He has been deceased since sometime back in 1986. I save what I have to say about my brother for a much later time. Suffice for now he was "taking care" of my mother and he lied big time to me about her condition with Alzheimer's.

Despite what she and I had to put up with, I miss her every day.

I served in the Navy in the mid 70s and was able to utilize the GI Bill to attend a nearby State College (now a University) and earn a BA in Communications.


My ADD/ADHD diagnosis came as a shock, a welcome relief, and also antagnoized my anxiety condition. I am also sufferring from depresion and OCD. Needless to say, I am, at times, in one or more of these states of mind. Throw in borderline high blood presure that I have to also take medication for and you can see I make a visit to Pill City every morning.

I am taking Paxil, Wellbutrin, Ritilin (SP), and Adderall for the depression, anxiety, OCD, and ADD/ADHD.

The medications I take do help. In addition, I take a very small dosage amount of Alprozlam as needed.

I am currently on medical leave from my employer. I have worked for this major utility for over 5 years and I consider myself very lucky to have the type of medical and prescription drug plans which have very low copayments.

My position in customer operations is very highly stressful. I use to be able to go to work on Monday reasonably rested. By Friday, however, I was usually so thoroughly wiped out, that all I wanted to do was tube out till I fell asleep.

Though I don't need to take the job home, there have been many nights when it came home with me whether I liked it or not. My wife would tell me how grouchy I was more times than I cared to know.

It took the loss of a deeply loved family pet that drove me toward where I wanted to explode at certain questions a customer or supervisor would ask. Fortunatly I had a scheduled appointment with my psychiatrist for the next day. He insisted I needed to take time off from work. I agreed and have been off for the past month.

I ignored a similar state of mind several years ago and an oversight on my part cost me a career in a field I thoroughly loved working within.

My spouse has accepted, though a bit difficulty, my needing time off. My 7 year old son is not aware of my condition. I have spoken to his teachers in school and let them know about my condition and asked them to please be aware of any similar condition appearing in him.

I really don't like it, but I truly understand why I need to be away from work.

My ADD/ADHD diagnosis may explain a number of learning problems I experienced (but as to how much did the abuse I experienced factor into this, I cannot say). A slow learner at times. I had extreme difficulty with higher math (algebra) and chemistry. I couldn't do formulas, but I excelled with the physical lab experiments!

I understand the thread of ADD/ADHD which has affected me for many years. I have to accept it has contributed to the difficulty I have had in just about every place I have worked.

As I mentioned, I am able to be off from work to address my own needs right now.

But I must admit I am scared. I am afraid to go back to work because I do not know how my ADD/ADHD will affect me. I am also afraid to even consider a move to other areas in my because of the problems it may cause.

Is there anyone else out there with similar multiple condition as myself? If so you're not alone.

Rory T
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Old 10-06-04, 12:36 AM
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