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Old 02-11-18, 12:27 AM
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Media and their impact on life

Hello guys,

i just made this account because I have a big problem and want to see if others struggle with that as well.

I'm 18 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD about half a year ago. Recently i came to realize how incredibly addicted I am to media mostly phone and computer.

I have a constant desire of being entertained and when I'm not i feel anxious and weird. This didn't start yesterday but starting to play on consoles at a young age I developed the deep habit of 'quick dopamine' as I would call it.

Literally everything is boring. I barely go outside with friends even if I have the opportunity because 'why would I go take a shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes and go on a train to have fun with my friends until i get my dopamine, i could just stay right here and continue clicking ****'.

Just twenty minutes ago i was watching a series on my laptop when the video started buffering and -believe me- not half a second passed before I instinctively reached for my phone.

I bring my phone everywhere, i walk down the stairs - I need to browse Twitter. I get to get some food from the fridge, I bring my phone. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes.)

I am sooo incredibly addicted and it is so hard for me to quit because it doesn't even feel right when I'm not entertained.

I have such a boring life, no motivation for anything. I stay up really late (I'm writing this at 5am), I disregard my health and friends.

So my questions now are:-Has anyone experienced similar problems?
-What could help me in my situation?

I am in weekly therapy sessions too, the psychologist said it would be really important to find alternatives, to get hobbies. But -like I said- why would I go out and do stuff while I can get this short and quick dopamine right now on Social media/Porn/Gaming.

I'll be really grateful for any kind of answer regarding my situation.

Thanks for paying attention until the end.
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Old 02-11-18, 04:13 AM
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I was, but I failed taking it regularly at early times. I stopped taking them when the side effects where too strong.
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I was, but I failed taking it regularly at early times. I stopped taking them when the side effects where too strong.
Did you try multiple different medications and dosages? I dont want to seem like I am pushing meds or that they are the only solution but they work really well when they do work and really help me. I have been on stimulants for about 14 years.
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Hello guys,

Literally everything is boring. I barely go outside with friends even if I have the opportunity because 'why would I go take a shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes and go on a train to have fun

I get to get some food from the fridge, I bring my phone. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes.)

I have such a boring life, no motivation for anything. I stay up really late (I'm writing this at 5am), I disregard my health and friends.

So my questions now are:-Has anyone experienced similar problems?
-What could help me in my situation?

I am in weekly therapy sessions too, the psychologist said it would be really important to find alternatives, to get hobbies. But -like I said- why would I go out and do stuff

I'll be really grateful for any kind of answer regarding my situation.
Hey TB, I edited your post to make it easier for me to respond. Starting w/ ur first question, yes, I have experienced similar problems. When I read your post, I see a few things;
  • No longer enjoying things you used to enjoy. (Going outside w/ your friends, spending time w/ them, no motivation for anything).
  • I also see difficulty performing routine tasks. (shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes, disregard your health)
  • Sleeping habits disturbed. (stay up really late)
  • Impaired memory. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes)
I experienced all of the above. I used to describe trying to do anything as trying to swim through thick oatmeal. Alotta effort and you don't get anywhere. If my read on your situation is pretty much accurate, the cause may be the same as mine or more than likely not. You could have multiple disorders, some of which an MD should address and others a Psychiatrist.

If your situation is as I described, I would make a list of these items and any others that cause you issues. Next to each one write down details when that problem has caused you a problem and describe the problem it caused you in detail. The key is actual instances and nothing suppositional. Keep the list handy and add/edit it as you think of things or as they occur. Then take the list to your weekly session w/ the psychologist and review it with him/her. Now if doing this is too difficult for you, at least write that down and discuss w/ the psychologist. HTH, -LN
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Re: Media and their impact on life

Yes I have that problem. I'm addicted to my phone as well. The internet access on my phone. I can spend hours surfing random rubbish and it is seriously interfering with my ability to function normally. Like you said it's constant and instant entertainment.

I'm not sure what might help because I still struggle with this. You could use an internet blocker app that only allows you access at particular times.
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Did you try multiple different medications and dosages? I dont want to seem like I am pushing meds or that they are the only solution but they work really well when they do work and really help me. I have been on stimulants for about 14 years.
Did they help u with a problem similar to mine?
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Hey TB, I edited your post to make it easier for me to respond. Starting w/ ur first question, yes, I have experienced similar problems. When I read your post, I see a few things;
  • No longer enjoying things you used to enjoy. (Going outside w/ your friends, spending time w/ them, no motivation for anything).
  • I also see difficulty performing routine tasks. (shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes, disregard your health)
  • Sleeping habits disturbed. (stay up really late)
  • Impaired memory. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes)
I experienced all of the above. I used to describe trying to do anything as trying to swim through thick oatmeal. Alotta effort and you don't get anywhere. If my read on your situation is pretty much accurate, the cause may be the same as mine or more than likely not. You could have multiple disorders, some of which an MD should address and others a Psychiatrist.

If your situation is as I described, I would make a list of these items and any others that cause you issues. Next to each one write down details when that problem has caused you a problem and describe the problem it caused you in detail. The key is actual instances and nothing suppositional. Keep the list handy and add/edit it as you think of things or as they occur. Then take the list to your weekly session w/ the psychologist and review it with him/her. Now if doing this is too difficult for you, at least write that down and discuss w/ the psychologist. HTH, -LN
So basically everything u described is pretty much correct except the impaired memory. That isn't an issue explicitly caused by media I think it's just the ADHD.
And what do you mean by multiple disorders? I just know of ADHD and a social anxiety that is almost gone by now.
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Did they help u with a problem similar to mine?
Yes and no. They help me with beginning things and finishing them. I have been on stimulants for 13 years or so so this was before smart phones but I used to get caught up in reading and talking on the phone and watching TV. The motivation always has to come from within but meds help me make that decision to stop farting around and get going, and the focus they offer help me to complete things. I wont lie, I have to bargain with myself every day. I used to be awful with the dishes up until about a year and a half or so ago. I started with - " Ok Ill just unload and then check out that link for a bit"
Then "ok Ill just unload and soak the silverware and finish texting"
then " Ill unload, soak the silverware and put all the cups on the top shelf and then read facebook"
It went like that until it became" Ill unload, rinse, soak, load both shelves and run the dishwasher"
Now it includes wiping down the counters and cleaning out the big items that dont fit.
I went from avoidance to completing the job. This is just an example of something small I learned but its a big deal to me and my family.
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Hey TB, I edited your post to make it easier for me to respond. Starting w/ ur first question, yes, I have experienced similar problems. When I read your post, I see a few things;
  • No longer enjoying things you used to enjoy. (Going outside w/ your friends, spending time w/ them, no motivation for anything).
  • I also see difficulty performing routine tasks. (shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes, disregard your health)
  • Sleeping habits disturbed. (stay up really late)
  • Impaired memory. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes)
I experienced all of the above. I used to describe trying to do anything as trying to swim through thick oatmeal. Alotta effort and you don't get anywhere. If my read on your situation is pretty much accurate, the cause may be the same as mine or more than likely not. You could have multiple disorders, some of which an MD should address and others a Psychiatrist.

If your situation is as I described, I would make a list of these items and any others that cause you issues. Next to each one write down details when that problem has caused you a problem and describe the problem it caused you in detail. The key is actual instances and nothing suppositional. Keep the list handy and add/edit it as you think of things or as they occur. Then take the list to your weekly session w/ the psychologist and review it with him/her. Now if doing this is too difficult for you, at least write that down and discuss w/ the psychologist. HTH, -LN
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So basically everything u described is pretty much correct except the impaired memory. That isn't an issue explicitly caused by media I think it's just the ADHD.
And what do you mean by multiple disorders? I just know of ADHD and a social anxiety that is almost gone by now.
Hey TB,

I want to emphasize, not a Doc, psychologist, medical professional... I am going to use a couple of terms to HELP ME be precise and hopefully clearer. If like me you might have to look the terms up.

Let me edit the list from my first post and hopefully my point will be clearer.
  • No longer enjoying things you used to enjoy. (Going outside w/ your friends, spending time w/ them, no motivation for anything). MAYBE ANHEDONIA. NOT NECESSARILY ADHD
  • I also see difficulty performing routine tasks. (shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes, disregard your health)MAYBE PSYCHOMOTOR RETARDATION NOT ADHD
  • Sleeping habits disturbed. (stay up really late) NOT NECESSARILY ADHD
  • Impaired memory. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes) MAYBE ADHD MAYBE NOT

What I was trying to "say" was that there may be something other than ADHD and media use going on and if you think so too, to talk w/ your pschologist. -LN
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Re: Media and their impact on life

Electronic devices (mainly computer) used to be more of a problem for me. This (maladaptively) addressed two issues:
  1. need for stimulation as part of being a stimulation junkie, and
  2. desire to escape from current situation in terms of physicality and/or emotions and/or thoughts
#2 was just a replacement for maladaptive daydreaming.

Meds helped with this immensely. In fact, sometimes I find the computer and phone irritating now...especially the phone, with its notifications and whatnot.


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Hey TB,

I want to emphasize, not a Doc, psychologist, medical professional... I am going to use a couple of terms to HELP ME be precise and hopefully clearer. If like me you might have to look the terms up.

Let me edit the list from my first post and hopefully my point will be clearer.
  • No longer enjoying things you used to enjoy. (Going outside w/ your friends, spending time w/ them, no motivation for anything). MAYBE ANHEDONIA. NOT NECESSARILY ADHD
  • I also see difficulty performing routine tasks. (shower, brush my teeth, change my clothes, disregard your health)MAYBE PSYCHOMOTOR RETARDATION NOT ADHD
  • Sleeping habits disturbed. (stay up really late) NOT NECESSARILY ADHD
  • Impaired memory. (Of course I forget where I put it after doing other activities for a couple of minutes) MAYBE ADHD MAYBE NOT

What I was trying to "say" was that there may be something other than ADHD and media use going on and if you think so too, to talk w/ your pschologist. -LN
I think you misunderstood my post.

The things I talked about are by far not the only symptomes. Where I live, they go through multiple tests and conversations before putting up a diagnosis.

What I described in my post are just the things I struggle with most these days. Impulsivity, lack of concentration, hyperactivity and all of the good **** ADHD brings with it were always been there since I was about 3 years old. I genetically inherited it from my fathers side.

Before saying that I have a disorder like adhedonia, or psychomotor retardation, I believe there have to be much more highly diagnostic symptomes, otherwise everyone would have ADHD too.

I appreciate your help tho, but I definietly do not have these disorders you mentioned, it's just the ADHD and the social anciety.
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Electronic devices (mainly computer) used to be more of a problem for me. This (maladaptively) addressed two issues:
  1. need for stimulation as part of being a stimulation junkie, and
  2. desire to escape from current situation in terms of physicality and/or emotions and/or thoughts
#2 was just a replacement for maladaptive daydreaming.

Meds helped with this immensely. In fact, sometimes I find the computer and phone irritating now...especially the phone, with its notifications and whatnot.


Cheers,
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Hmm, maybe I should take another go with meds. The thing is, when the side effects start to kick in, I start to ask the question: Wouldn't taking the meds mean that I want to do things I am naturally not 'designed' for?

Now don't get me wrong, I support the usage of meds, but when I get a bad heeadache and am nearly about to throw up and feel like I'm hungover, I stop thinking it's worth it.
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