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I must have missed the retro thing or what it was about.
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I must have missed the retro thing or what it was about.
i didnt mind him, havent seen him in awhile. But he had a habit of downplaying everyones ADHD as not being nowhere near as bad as his, therefore they couldnt possibly have it
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Re: Could it be ADHD after all?

I work with 5 people who have adhd. It’s much more common than you think lol. Problem is with meds is you still don’t even always get anything done. I was told I was hyper as a kid and I have no idea what they were talking about. I was a huge space cadet then though and I mostly zoned out in classes I wasn’t interested in, which in small fragments wasn’t that hard to pay attention to in elementary school. I used to refuse to do my homework or projects sometimes, and I remembered feeling like I was staring at blank pages when I tried to read. Also had an iep. You kinda sound like me though when I get depressed and I’ve recently tried to go up on meds for adhd. You sound exactly like me though when I get frustrated about not being able to focus.
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Psych appt in a few days. I'm desperate to get back on medication. I'm not doing very well. What if they won't presxribe meds? Will I have to go through the usual first month anxiety that I akwlways sget after starting meds. What if the meds won't help?
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Re: Could it be ADHD after all?

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I'm sure they'll put you back on medications, and that they'll help. Don't expect miracles...the meds only do so much...but I do think they'll help quite a lot for you.

I'm looking forward to hearing how things go over the next few months with you.

I've been off adhd meds for 9 or so months myself and am thinking of getting put back on them next month.
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The first psychiatrist I saw said I don't have ADHD (because I wasn't impaired enough: I wasn't unemployed, had a degree, had a long term relationship and had never had trouble with the law.) He said that all my issues are caused by depression. Then I saw a private psychiatrist who said that I fulfil all the criteria for adult ADHD but he wasn't sure because about my childhood (and also because hubby told him I'm super indecisive, which according to him adhders never are. He said they make decisions impulsively so can't he indecisive).
I'm so sorry to read that a psychiatrist is making assumptions like that, as we (or at least that goes for me) are so very sensitive to suggestions.

All those things (employed, a degree, long time relationship and no problems with the law) say nothing on itself, nothing about their content nor about the struggles you had to get there. As long as you're not aware of the diagnose, you tell yourself that you're a lazy person and keep on doing your utmost best to achieve things that people consider 'normal' and if you're IQ is reasonable or you're being otherwise 'lucky', you can get somewhere because you have this big persistance... like i could as long as i was abusing substances when nobody was watching and after over 20 years, i finally broke down with burnout after burnout, and looking back i had been nearly surviving or just getting by all the time.

And things like being indecisive... well yeah of course that happens when you've got so much experience with being impulsive, proving yourself time after time that you can't make the 'best' decisions (and in my case, being told also p.e. that i am naive and have poor judgement).

I don't know how you were raised as a child, but i come from a very strict family, where it's normal to get a degree, and children should behave, and mental illness is no option... so i can't remember much about my ad(h)d in childhood apart from being a creative dreamer, and always afraid for adults to be a good girl. The real problems started as i hit puberty and began to think for myself and ran away from home because i couldn't fit the identity my parents made up for me.

Doubting ones diagnose is pushed upon people with adhd, especially in adults because of their parents being unaware or in denial, followed by a life time of thoughts confirming that you can not be respected unless you make adjustments to be like everybody else and that's a tough imprint to get out your system.
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Re: Could it be ADHD after all?

Someone with ADHD may be impulsively decisive, but I've always believed that my anxiety mitigates whatever impulsivity I would naturally display. Honestly, it's one of the reasons I've hesitated to address the anxiety.
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All those things (employed, a degree, long time relationship and no problems with the law) say nothing on itself, nothing about their content nor about the struggles you had to get there. As long as you're not aware of the diagnose, you tell yourself that you're a lazy person and keep on doing your utmost best to achieve things that people consider 'normal' and if you're IQ is reasonable or you're being otherwise 'lucky', you can get somewhere because you have this big persistance... like i could as long as i was abusing substances when nobody was watching and after over 20 years, i finally broke down with burnout after burnout, and looking back i had been nearly surviving or just getting by all the time.
I just wonder, how many of us are out there? undiagnosed, assuming they couldn't possibly have something like adhd.
A lifetime of trying to appear 'normal'; while slowly crumbling inside...
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Psych appt in a few days. I'm desperate to get back on medication. I'm not doing very well. What if they won't presxribe meds? Will I have to go through the usual first month anxiety that I akwlways sget after starting meds. What if the meds won't help?
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I just wonder, how many of us are out there? undiagnosed, assuming they couldn't possibly have something like adhd.
A lifetime of trying to appear 'normal'; while slowly crumbling inside...
I often think about that as well. I crumbled for so long before my diagnosis.
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GL Fuzz. Pullin' for ya.

What helped me table a lot of my concerns/worries was a list of issues/symptoms with descriptions of real-life instances of problems they caused me. It helped when talking to the Doc or evaluating a med. Saying no worries, it is on the list or I can add it to the list or no need to remember, the Doc has the updated list helped. Let us know how it goes. -Tom
Good idea. I should do that. I have to take fuzzling with me so I'm not sure how much of a conversation I will be able to have with the psychiatrist anyway. I hope it will be someone new. I hate the consultant and i dislike the staff member in their team that I normally see. I don't trust any of them...

I'm so banking on this that I'm quite worried. What if they won't prescribe meds? What if they are happy to prescribe (which they should be considering that I used to take meds and only stopped to get pregnant). But make me wait for weeks for the prescription?

What if the meds will give me bad anxiety again...or worse? What if they won't help?

There's so much pressure at work that procrastination isn't even a problem at the moment. If I was just able to focus. Or think clearly. Or remember anything...
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I'm so sorry to read that a psychiatrist is making assumptions like that, as we (or at least that goes for me) are so very sensitive to suggestions.

All those things (employed, a degree, long time relationship and no problems with the law) say nothing on itself, nothing about their content nor about the struggles you had to get there. As long as you're not aware of the diagnose, you tell yourself that you're a lazy person and keep on doing your utmost best to achieve things that people consider 'normal' and if you're IQ is reasonable or you're being otherwise 'lucky', you can get somewhere because you have this big persistance... like i could as long as i was abusing substances when nobody was watching and after over 20 years, i finally broke down with burnout after burnout, and looking back i had been nearly surviving or just getting by all the time.

And things like being indecisive... well yeah of course that happens when you've got so much experience with being impulsive, proving yourself time after time that you can't make the 'best' decisions (and in my case, being told also p.e. that i am naive and have poor judgement).

I don't know how you were raised as a child, but i come from a very strict family, where it's normal to get a degree, and children should behave, and mental illness is no option... so i can't remember much about my ad(h)d in childhood apart from being a creative dreamer, and always afraid for adults to be a good girl. The real problems started as i hit puberty and began to think for myself and ran away from home because i couldn't fit the identity my parents made up for me.

Doubting ones diagnose is pushed upon people with adhd, especially in adults because of their parents being unaware or in denial, followed by a life time of thoughts confirming that you can not be respected unless you make adjustments to be like everybody else and that's a tough imprint to get out your system.
My family wasn't strict but yes we all took it for granted (inckudijg myself) that I'd go to university. It was a given but yes as you said I struggled hugely. Still I never even considered not going to uni.

For me the real problems started as well when I hit puberty. Actually pretty much exactly when I hit puberty. I remember reading a paper somehwat that stated that this was quite common in girls with ADHD.
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Psych visit done. There's a new consultant who was quite nice. Yippee. Yippee. Yippee. I'm so glad the old one is gone.

Anyway so he's asked me to start taking dex again 5mg twice a day. It seems awfully low since I used to take 25mg a day but he said he has to start small....which makes sense again. My next appointment is only in a few months. He said something about having to call him in a couple of weeks and then my GP prescribing but ironically I just couldn't pay attention. I asked for clarification twice but still I didn't get it at all. I was too embarrassed to ask again. I hope the secretary will know what I'm supposed to do when I call in two weeks.
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Psych visit done. There's a new consultant who was quite nice. Yippee. Yippee. Yippee. I'm so glad the old one is gone.

Anyway so he's asked me to start taking dex again 5mg twice a day. It seems awfully low since I used to take 25mg a day but he said he has to start small....which makes sense again. My next appointment is only in a few months. He said something about having to call him in a couple of weeks and then my GP prescribing but ironically I just couldn't pay attention. I asked for clarification twice but still I didn't get it at all. I was too embarrassed to ask again. I hope the secretary will know what I'm supposed to do when I call in two weeks.
My doctor understands that without my Dex, he has little chance of me being compliant in terms of appointments, medications, or behaviors, and he knows that’s not a question of ill-will on my part, just disability.

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