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Re: Please help me explain to my ADHD partner that this lifestyle is not acceptable

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I jist thought of a 3rd person I know who has overcome an alcohol addiction for over 16 years. I realize he too may have a new addiction or at least obsession. He goes to AA group meetings every single day. Also spends a lot of time helping things get set up. And he doesnt just belong to one group but multiple from my recollection. ]It's not normal to go every single day is it? Wife my friend puts up with it but I can tell she's passively bitter about him spending so much time away from home.

His obsessive interest is limited cause there's only so many AA meetings you can go to though he certainly stretched it with his multiple groups throughout the region. It's not thought of as an addiction though cause it's more benign. I think he sees it as a purpose, to help others while helping himself too.

Yes benign addictions are what I support. They could be a "purpose" like my friends husband. Hard to make sure new addictions are benign though so proceed with caution. I would think monitoring and pulling out if it looks like a problem is going to arise stands a good chance of fixing that I would think.

Guess I'm overwriting and like I said, I'm far from an expert just knowing 3 exaddicts.
Some, especially new members, may feel it helps to attend a meeting every day.
Others may feel that once a week is enough.
And some may attend one meeting for themselves and another meeting that
same week to help support another person.
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Re: Please help me explain to my ADHD partner that this lifestyle is not acceptable

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Some, especially new members, may feel it helps to attend a meeting every day.
Others may feel that once a week is enough.
And some may attend one meeting for themselves and another meeting that
same week to help support another person.
Thanks. I'm not exactly sure why he attends so often (he's not new at all), only that my friend is extremely annoyed with him neglecting his family. I guess I should strike this last example as I can't tell if it's a zealous purpose in life or a benign addiction.

Both are still really something else that stimulates the addict enough so they can leave their previous addictions behind. I don't think the addict can just "try harder" to succeed. They have to fill their needs in some other way.
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