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Old 12-16-19, 09:41 PM
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Should Have Never Left the Forums

I've only been back on this BBS two or three days and have realized in that short time I am a complete mess. My perspective of people and the outside world is distorted and inaccurate, my depression is NOT under control, my ADHD is NOT under control, and I am not taking my suicidal thoughts seriously enough.

I have isolated myself from everyone and deeply indulged in a grim outlook on life. I am not happy, I am not satisfied in any aspect of my life, and I do not value any of my accomplishments.

The only thing that brings me comfort is petting and talking to my dogs.

I never should have never stopped coming here. I quit the forums because school was intense and I didn't have time to indulge in all the friends and distractions I enjoyed here. Once school was done I kept making half *** attempts to come back, but always got distracted with something else.

This place and you folks were helping me stay on track more than I realized. Just BS'g with everyone in the chat and game room areas alone helped me keep my issues at the forefront. I was around people that understood aspects of me like nobody else can, and that helped me manage them better than I have been over the past 4-5 years on my own.

I've got a lot of work to do.
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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

Welcome back BouCoup! I'm pretty much in the same boat. I come here every
2 or 3 days bored out of my mind hoping to see a new thread. That's
become a rare occurrence the past few months. Thank you for posting and
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I come here every 2 or 3 days bored out of my mind hoping to see a new thread. That's become a rare occurrence the past few months.
I've noticed how quiet it's been. I just bombed the **** out of the fun and games forum and almost nobody's biting back.

It's been so long since I've been a regular here that I've forgotten if the forum traffic has ups and downs or not.

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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

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I've noticed how quiet it's been. I just bombed the **** out of the fun and games forum and almost nobody's biting back.

It's been so long since I've been a regular here that I've forgotten if the forum traffic has ups and downs or not.

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Traffic is down to the levels that it was in 2003 when I joined.
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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

Yes, traffic is down overall, and then we still have bursts and dead zones that
come and go. I've always appreciated the sense of belonging to the tribe that
I get on this forum. Knowing that others understand me and that I get them.

I feel like my migraine group takes a lot of my time and have thought about
dropping out of that since I stopped the med that was causing the chronic daily
migraines. But I know that like ADHD, migraines are part of my nurological
make up and I will always have them, just hopefully less often now. So I also
feel understood there and I get the other members.
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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

I haven't been playing any of the games because we've had a winter storm
(although it isn't officially winter for 4 more days) and I've had a migraine for
the last weekend, as well as having my oldest granddaughter home for a visit.
I'll probably catch up on threads tomorrow.
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I feels yah on the Migraines. Been a severe sufferer myself for over thirty years. Been in the ER for the worst of them at least a half-dozen times.

Glad to hear you eliminated a major source of them for you.
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Me either....long time in adhd years.
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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

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I've only been back on this BBS two or three days and have realized in that short time I am a complete mess. My perspective of people and the outside world is distorted and inaccurate, my depression is NOT under control, my ADHD is NOT under control, and I am not taking my suicidal thoughts seriously enough.

I have isolated myself from everyone and deeply indulged in a grim outlook on life. I am not happy, I am not satisfied in any aspect of my life, and I do not value any of my accomplishments.

The only thing that brings me comfort is petting and talking to my dogs.

I never should have never stopped coming here. I quit the forums because school was intense and I didn't have time to indulge in all the friends and distractions I enjoyed here. Once school was done I kept making half *** attempts to come back, but always got distracted with something else.

This place and you folks were helping me stay on track more than I realized. Just BS'g with everyone in the chat and game room areas alone helped me keep my issues at the forefront. I was around people that understood aspects of me like nobody else can, and that helped me manage them better than I have been over the past 4-5 years on my own.

I've got a lot of work to do.

Exactly how I feel...welcome home to us both.
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Welcome back, you two

It really has slowed down here. I'm not posting as much as I used to because I'm working freelance now. These forums were my lifeline during those long days at the office. But I am definitely still around
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Re: Should Have Never Left the Forums

I'm in a similar boat. I spent 43 years denying my ADHD and it's definitely more comfortable than accepting and dealing with it. I'm worlds better with medication but still fall back into the same patterns without a lot of effort. Coming here keeps me in the right presence of mind to keep on track but without the emotional self-flagellation when I make a mistake. My wife has put up with more crap than I'll admit but she still doesn't fully accept ADHD & struggles not to get angry and pour on more guilt. We love each other dearly but I don't anticipate she'll ever understand it in the same way as a first hand sufferer does. It's surprisingly comforting to have a community that understands without explanation!
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I could of told ya that ,smart grin n smirk..welcome back Mr kotter!!!
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