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Old 04-20-18, 02:58 PM
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Any women here with zero relationship experience

...like, made it through middle and high school without having had a first boy/girlfriend, ever?

If so, do any of you feel like your adolescence has been "deferred" so to speak, like you can't relate to your peers and are not yet ready for the kind of relationships most of them are seeking?
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ME!

...oh wait! I'm not a woman.
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Re: Any women here with zero relationship experience

I'm 24 and still haven't been close to a relationship. I get bored quickly so I never talk to anyone for long and I'm not sure I'm ready for one anyway. To answer your question, I do feel like that a great deal of the time...like a divide between myself and my peers. It seems as though all of my friends' biggest priorities are being in a relationship and I'm just not there yet.
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Re: Any women here with zero relationship experience

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It seems as though all of my friends' biggest priorities are being in a relationship and I'm just not there yet.
I have noticed that it seems like an age priority thing. I have seen it for years. By a certain age there is a need for a partner, then another age for wedding, then another age for children, then another age for divorce heavily, etc... All heavily influenced from peer pressure.

I hope everyone can just find what works for them to be happy rather than compete, compare, or compliment their peer group.
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Re: Any women here with zero relationship experience

I don't know why this thread is finally getting attention now but I'm glad...

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I'm 24 and still haven't been close to a relationship. I get bored quickly so I never talk to anyone for long and I'm not sure I'm ready for one anyway. To answer your question, I do feel like that a great deal of the time...like a divide between myself and my peers. It seems as though all of my friends' biggest priorities are being in a relationship and I'm just not there yet.
When you say you're "not sure if you're ready for one", do you mean a romantic relationship at all, or a serious adult relationship? Those are two different ways of "not being ready", and each has applied to me at some time in my life. When I was in high school, I wasn't sure I was ready for a relationship at all, in that dating was totally not a priority. From about 22 onward, I was ready for the kind of relationship that others did in their early-to-mid teens. However, the problem is that by then, others around me had changed too.

The kind of relationships I'm ready for is not the only way in which I feel unlike other adults--I also feel that others' minds have "slowed down" post-puberty in a way mine hasn't (which is why I relate to ADHD, even though my diagnosis is Asperger Syndrome)--yet in some other ways I feel more developed/having an "older soul" than some other young adults.
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Re: Any women here with zero relationship experience

Well i'm not a woman, but I get where you're coming from. I was probably the most unpopular loser in my school years. Was told things would get better when I became an adult. I'm 27 going on 28 and things haven't got any better. The opposite sex still considers me a loser who isn't even worthy of friendship, let alone anything more serious.
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Re: Any women here with zero relationship experience

Inasmuch as a relationship with any other person is explored, discussed, and agreed upon between the people involved only, what anyone else is doing, peer or otherwise, is of no consequence except to the degree you decide to make it so.

So create the relationship you both want, whatever that may be...and...




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So create the relationship you both want, whatever that may be...and...

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