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Old 09-09-18, 04:33 AM
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Exclamation More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

It's a confidence/self esteem issue, lot of you seem to be the victims of serious emotional and psychological abuse, free yourselves from the abusers and manipulators in your life. Learn to stop being a victim and find the courage to stand up for yourselves, I promise you things will greatly improve the moment these people are no longer involved in your life!



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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

There are no abusers in my life. I've been lucky so far that most people I've met have been fairly decent especially later in life. My confidence still sucks and you are right. Many posts aren't related to ADHD at all. I use this site as my go to site for everything. I mean really absolutely everything. I love you guys. You are my light.

Haven't seen you in a while. I hope you've been good.
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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

I think that we all experience life through filters imposed by ADHD to some extent. I'm just wondering how anything in my own life could NOT be affected in some way by a condition that affects me so much! For most of my life I knew something wasn't quite "normal" about me...but didn't have a clue what it was. How could I even discuss with others what I mostly couldn't even put into words myself. Finally knowing what ADHD is all about eventually gave me a way to explain what was wrong. If I have a bad day, it usually relates to ADHD, I think.
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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

It is easy to say , hard to do
First you need to face with biggest fears, what causes anxiety, what u dont wany to face
Accept yourself as you are, not trying to fix yourself like machine

It is a life process, rome isnt built in one day
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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

The more I've learned about myself, The more I've come to realize that I am my own biggest abuser. Just that realization alone has helped me to grow far beyond where I was before I started down this path of discovery.
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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

which posts?

it can also be dangerous assigning emotional issues from adhd to abuse or trama
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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

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It's a confidence/self esteem issue, lot of you seem to be the victims of serious emotional and psychological abuse, free yourselves from the abusers and manipulators in your life. Learn to stop being a victim and find the courage to stand up for yourselves, I promise you things will greatly improve the moment these people are no longer involved in your life!



I'm usually suspicious of people with pat answers to complex problems, especially "just pull yourself up by your bootstraps!!!"

Secondly, blaming others for your problems is not super-helpful, and a lot of times it's just displacement, to use a term I learned from my therapist, because you're afraid of facing your own negative emotions. SO you blame it all on a convenient someone nearby, and insist they are "toxic" and the cause of all of your problems.

Now, I agree there are toxic people, or people that are just too negative for someone with their own s--- to deal with. But just saying "cut out the toxic people and you'll feel super-awesome" is not super-helpful.

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I'm usually suspicious of people with pat answers to complex problems, especially "just pull yourself up by your bootstraps!!!"

Secondly, blaming others for your problems is not super-helpful, and a lot of times it's just displacement, to use a term I learned from my therapist, because you're afraid of facing your own negative emotions. SO you blame it all on a convenient someone nearby, and insist they are "toxic" and the cause of all of your problems.

Now, I agree there are toxic people, or people that are just too negative for someone with their own s--- to deal with. But just saying "cut out the toxic people and you'll feel super-awesome" is not super-helpful.

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Re: More than 50% of these posts are not ADD/ADHD related

I do not think many people choose to be a victim.
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