Question: About an ADDer becoming a parent?

[Ranmaru]

Not that I am becoming one or anything. I was just wondering what an ADDer should keep in mind and what he should try to accomplish before becoming a parent. (Because one day I want to be a dad, and at least be successful in it in a way and not mess up horribly)

Because... At times I always have this scary feeling I might just FORGET about my child if I don't structure myself right. I mean, for example. My sister got a small pet turtle. I could do my usual routine and not really know if my sis was attending to the turtle or not. Of course the day she was out I was double checking to make sure, but when she is here I don't really... check to be sure she is good. I feel that is scary because I can totally ignore it and it could starve without me knowing, and I wouldn't want this to happen to a child.

Of course. I have thought of ways to not forget about it. Like I would rather just always keep it at my side so I know when it'll need to be fed/pampered/ w/e else a child/baby would need. : D

Also of course I wouldn't play a game or anything without a partner supervising the baby. If I am along I wouldn't really want to focus on anything except the baby itself. I feel even tv would be going to far.

Thoughts on this? If you are a parent and are AD/HD, how did you improve on being a parent? What issues did you face that a NT wouldn't have to? etc etc

[darkangel99]

im not a parent myself but my dad was a single parent to me and my brother and he has adhd tbh it is fairly hard to forget the baby is there because it will either be sleeping or crying do not distract urself and if you are on medication it should help you to focus more on the baby