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Old 02-13-11, 02:34 AM
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

The libido fairy skipped over me somewhere along the way....maybe that part of my brain isn't getting the right stuff either.

I'm jealous of those who actually want to have sex.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

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but I still have the feeling I'm aesthetically letting myself down, sort of making pork-rinds of my sexuality, desensitising myself.
There's no question in my mind that too much sexual release messes with the brain's "rewards system." I think it makes it harder to find satisfaction in other things, because the most rewarding thing you can do is always right there.

I'm sure there are different opinions on this, but I'd encourage you to stop. Be prepared for some serious pain, though.
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Old 02-13-11, 04:24 PM
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

I'm practically asexual and have a low libido. I am okay with this. Libidos seem cumbersome and intrusive.

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There's no question in my mind that too much sexual release messes with the brain's "rewards system." I think it makes it harder to find satisfaction in other things, because the most rewarding thing you can do is always right there.

I'm sure there are different opinions on this, but I'd encourage you to stop. Be prepared for some serious pain, though.
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Old 02-13-11, 05:06 PM
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

My libido's been out of control since I discovered my own erections as an adolescent. It only seems to get worse each year.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

First time posting on this site. I am 48 and have dealt with these sexual issues since the age of 8. Like several of you have mentioned, it comes in spurts with me. I will have times of super high libido, and then other times not. I would say that I have always had very strong sexual desires, and that as I grow older, it doesn't seem to have changed much. I was diagnosed last year with ADD and have been on Vyvanse since April. I haven't found that it increased or decreased my libido, just function sometimes. Anyway, it's really cool to hear how this issue has impacted some of you similarly throughout your life. Sometimes this sexual drive can be so distracting! And sometimes it can be so much fun! Anyway, I just wanted to add my two cents worth on the issue. My first wife and I had sex everyday, sometimes two or three times a day for ten years, and at least 5 times a week for the next ten years. As far as the on again, off again variability in desire, have any of you noticed a seasonal effect on this? My times of lowest libido seem to usually fall around mid to late winter, and late summer.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

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I haven't found that it increased or decreased my libido, just function sometimes.
Can you explain what you meant by function changes?

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As far as the on again, off again variability in desire, have any of you noticed a seasonal effect on this? My times of lowest libido seem to usually fall around mid to late winter, and late summer.
I would say the same, but I would attribute that to skimpier clothes and my overall better happiness during warmer weather.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

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All I can say on this subject is that it's pretty sad to have to wait until 28 to have your first orgasm!!! After 10 years of trying to figure it all out I've finally got it down though. I blame the past 10 years on Prozac and thank heaven every night for switching to Ritalin!
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

Haha, same here. Other than the increased libido (not exactly bad) I find that I can last longer, satisfy better, it feels better, etc. etc.

Along with all of its ADHD treating benefits.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

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As far as the on again, off again variability in desire, have any of you noticed a seasonal effect on this? My times of lowest libido seem to usually fall around mid to late winter, and late summer.
I suffer much more sexual frustration in the winter. Firstly, the short days bum me out. Secondly, I can't do the outdoor physical activities I like, and I'm stuck inside the house with my wife, so my mind turns to indoor physical activities.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

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Does anybody here with ADHD find that they have an unconquerable sex drive? This is something that had a problem with since I was 11 and first experimented with masturbation...I haven't stopped since lol seriously though, it has taken over my life at times and I can't help but ogle woman in the street. It sounds pervy but I just can't help these intrusive thoughts. Does anybody else have this problem?
are you on any stimulants? I found that my sex drive went through the roof when I started taking Adderall and Wellbutrin. I'm female though, so I don't know if it would be the same effect. Also I started taking these when I was 30, when my sex drive was supposedly going to go up anyway.
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

I'm not on stims now but when I have done stims (recreationally and experimentally) i definitely noticed those were times of some crazy sex.

But I think my sex drive is directly related to the amt of emotional intimacy or happiness Im feeling in the relationship Im in. So it wouldnt matter, stims or no stims, if the relationship isnt there or isnt in a joyful place, the libido wont follow.
I am totally not into sex when theres been an argument or we havent seen each other in a while and I don't feel the 'connect'. (and I don't believe in having angry sex or make up sex directly after an argument because it just eewards the fight w something good and then theres a response that connects fighting w sex... so fights subconsciously start cuz theres the sex reward after... that cant be good)

My whole life Ive never really been one to say "man Im horny, I gotta get laid" and then try to hook up. intimacy 1st then that leads to "lets do it"
That being said, I can masturbate every day but its more kind of like..part of the daily things I do. 'wake, let dog out, eat, check comp, go potty, shower, lotion, *masturbate*, get dressed... not necessarily in that order but you see what Im saying. It takes like..less than a minute. I don't need porn, I have a much better imagination and the ppl in my head are whatever I want them to be. tho I do love porn. I just dont use it to 'bate regularly. I like watching it with someone and doing it on the floor as thats in the background.

When I AM in a happy relationship and things are going well I am insatiable. I could spend all day doing it. and have. If anyone were to ask me where my happy place is...that would be it..those moments.


I don't know if Ive noticed my libido raise since Im in my 40's. I suppose it would show more if I was in a happy relationship. I need the stimuli.
Im realizing now its much like every other area of my life. Its pretty much a flat line of "meh" cuz I'm uninspired w/o other energy around me. And then it completely depends on the kind of energy around me. If its at all negative I can't feel inspired to do anything either.

I'm noticing a common thread each time I answer one of these posts..
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Re: Unconquerable sexual appetite

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Can you explain what you meant by function changes?
Well, I could go into detail, but it would be easier to just refer you this posting where I did go into exact detail. It is somewhat explicit, as a warning, but that post had many similar discussions.
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=59912

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I would say the same, but I would attribute that to skimpier clothes and my overall better happiness during warmer weather.
HaHa, that's a good point. I am inclined to believe that it is related to lack of sunshine in the winter, but am not sure about the late summer thing.
Anyway, thanks for the comments.
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