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Old 02-08-05, 11:55 PM
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We are a young couple, My name is Gary I'm 23 Born and raised in florida and my wife is Rachel and she is 23 and was born in wisconsin, then moved to florida and now we moved to wisconsin. We have 2 kids stephany (3 yrs old) and jacob (5 mnths). I have adult ADD (Gary) and we join this site so my wife can learn a little more about dealing with it or what it's like for me.
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So far I've been really offended by the replys by a question I posted. I know that no one is responsible for what other ppl write, but if this is the way ppl give advise then I will not ask any questions.
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First I want to send you a special welcome to this site. I am sorry that you have not had a good response to a question you asked. Yes people do give their opinion but know that it is only "their" opinion

I also came to this site to learn more about my ADHD husband. Since I have joined, I have also been dx ADD.

Hopefully you wil be able to find as much information & support that you are looking for.



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I was really offended. I asked if maybe verbally aggressive was a problem must ppl with ADD face. Lately I've noticed that My ADD is getting worse. And have been really moody and aggressive. the next thing i know is the lady who replyed told my wife to leave me? She is part of the commity here? and a peer coach?
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Don't take the comments to heart, Gary. Just think, once you feel comfortable enough you can be the offender instead of the offendee. Ok. Bad joke.

Seriously though, you have no reason not to post on this board. Take the good you can find and ignore the rest.

I'm glad you and your wife are working as a team to deal with this.

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Regarding RhapsodyInBlue reply to your post all I say is it really sucks when someone speaks there mind and we don't like there opinion, but you will find that here we are all entilted to our opinion and just for the record many of the things she said I agree with wholeheartedly.

You may wish to re-read where you think she told your wife to leave you (actully I will quote it for you)

This is the full sentence

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If you want soppy from me, you won't get it Mr. Perhaps your wife should leave!
This is the sentence broken into 2 parts or 2 sentences

(Part 1)

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If you want soppy from me, you won't get it Mr.
(Part 2)

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Perhaps your wife should leave!
Please take note to that big word there

She never told your wife to leave you she just voiced what one option might be ---- as unpleasent a thought as it may be to you ---

Perhaps you might want to relize that there are many options in life open to everybody and some of them are not always what you want them to be....

I speak openly to you as I have been where you are and have been very much the same way and change did not come over night

Its been a long rocky road and

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Perhaps my wife should have left
is something that I live with every day and I have no idea why she didn't becuase I never would have put up with the crap I gave her................


Here are some links to post that were very helpful to me in the last 2 years


What its Like to Have ADD by Dr Hallowell

Old ADD adult warrior warns newcomers

How Many Stages of ADD Are There

The ADD Journey (Stages of ADD )

I hope these are a benificial to you as they were to me

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Thanks for the links. This one was my favourite:
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"OK, now I am going to give you assignments. I don't expect perfection, but I expect systematic improvement. If you fail, I want you to write an essay to me on why you failed. I also expect you to be on time. Create 4 failsafe reminders if you need to. Make a poster 4 feet high if you need it. If I see effort, I will go all out to help you. If I don't after a month then I will stop seeing you. You have too much ability for me to need the frustration of seeing no progress because of ingrained self-destructive habits of giving in to impulse. "
Hmmmm . . . I could use this one at work.
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yes i agree, but the original question said recently this has not been an issue for the 3 yrs of marriage and the 2 yrs dating. Her reply was far over the line. Recently we have moved to Wisconsin I was born and raised in Florida I had alot of friends and the stress of moving here and the stress of a new job and not having my mom by my side and trying to figure out if i made the right dession to move here. ALOT OF STRESS. This is something new in our relation, she also said does saying sorry sound familur. Well no it doen't cause it was something recently, but i asked that question and i got real responce from understanding ppl, ppl how didn't attack me. Maybe i shouldn't have used the word abuse or something cause I know my wife would kick my A@% if I got totally out of line. She's tuffer then me. Sorry to stur up so much emotion. And i really think this forum is going to help us. On a better note I agreed to seek a little bit of help to kinda see what i can do to help myself. Love ya guys and gals. On a better question the only meds I have taken was rentilen and that was yrs ago and i hated the way it made me feel. And for yrs I told myself I didn't need it but when I look at the time i was off and now I'm so not dealing with it. So what's new on the market.
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And garry are those links also books?
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On a better question the only meds I have taken was rentilen and that was yrs ago and i hated the way it made me feel.
Gary, were you taking Ritalin? How did it make you feel?
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