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Old 07-07-09, 08:12 PM
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Really could do with some advise guys, if u can get your head round what i am saying

Hi all

I am 32 feel like 52 lol, any how i got diagnosed with adhd about 8 weeks ago. My psychiatrist was shocked that i had it as she has known very few adults who really have it and in the uk it is only just starting to be excepted.

As a baby i would scream and scream untll i passed out, i would walk up to people and say hi my name is and can i have lol. My dad said i could litterally walk into a room full of strangers and i would just say more or less look at me.

When i hit the teanage years life went mad. I can not remember not concentrating or being able to focus more just would rather be doing something else. Usually distracting my mates or doing something i should not be doing. I used to copy others home work and could never sit and read a book.

I did more sports, but never stuck at them, not sure if it was because i could't or was boy related. I started smoking at 12, and boys in a big way. At 13 i was going to nightclubs and got arrested for stealing. I loved my mum, but resented the attention she gave my sister, felt as though i could never do no right.

School would say if i could just shut up for two minutes i might learn something. At 16 i met my husband whome i am with now. At 17 i had my first child who i found out later on that he had a sever to profound hearing inpairement and adhd. I would sob many a night cos he would just not sleep and scream well he screamed for england.

I have always been disorganised, find it hard o motivate myself unless it is something exciting. I could sleep for england unlike my son and hubby. My mum would say i was lazy, full of excuses, my hubby family said the same. I had teachers at me until my son got his adhd diagnosis.

Any way i try and get to the point. Since getting diagnosed i feel like i have gone through the mill. Family do not beleive me they think it an excuse. Hubby though is fab

Ok these are my difficulties

1. i talk loads and often upset others as say thing we out thinking

2. i forget stuff all the time, from taking my purse to pay for petrol, to oven cleaner in the oven

3. it takes me forever to get motivated and i often spend half my day either on the phone or faffing and then i am tired and have done nothing

4. I can drink coffee till it comes out of my ears even sllep on it

5. I get down allot, were one minute i am full of the joys of spring wi great ideas and the next i am ready to cause an argument and go over and over in my head things that people have said to me that are not nice and questioning myself on whether i am a bad person, but this may last an hour a day some times 2 days but never any longer

6 my consultant says i am not deppressed and that i do struggle wi my moods but i have to work through them

I question sometimes what is actuallu up with me as sometimes i have loads of energ and the next minute i want to sleep, it like being on an emotional roller coaster.

Then their is my hubby ( sorry guys this a long one if u can be bothered to read lol )

As a child no one could sit next to him as he would not sit still

He would not sleep and at 16 was taking sleeping tablets

Even now he does not sleep, the doctors have said he is an imsoniac. He never finishes anything he starts.
He struggles socially and friend say he is borring as he either talks about cars or metal of some sort and ofetn goes over their heads.
He is quick tempered and can not stand little noises some times
He would forget his head if it was not screwed on
he can not sit and watch a film as gets bored
He drinks far to much and when he has one he has to have the lot
He has recently had to go on the sick as is depressed
he has anxiety and panick attacks , was not eating, sleeping and shouting at the drop of a hat
off sex the lot.

But he can cook a meal, clean up in no time at all, unlike myself it takes forever. He does not seem to be able to thinkoutside the box at all

So my question is, have i really got adhd or am i coming out in sympathy for my hubby. Could we both have adhd, but then why can i do stuff he can not, why have i got energy then not and sleep for england. But hubby could not put a sip of coffee near his mouth as would be up all night.

I am confuggled guys. would love your opinions, sorry i gone on, but that me i have to go round the bush to get to the tree lol
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Old 07-07-09, 08:57 PM
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Re: Really could do with some advise guys, if u can get your head round what i am say

the more and more that i read about add and the different types and causes it so hard to say why you two are so different... but that is the nature of the beast.\
some people are more inattentive whereas others are more hyper and impulsive...some people are medicated and some are not.. some are affected more emotionally and some are affected physically with pain or sensory problems,,
IM really starting to think everyones chemistry is different and treatment definitely has to be determined on the needs and symptoms of the individual..

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Hi jenny2,

Sounds like ADD to me on all counts! Talking loads, forgetting stuff, taking forever to get motivated, taking stimulants (coffee), less able to control moods (with poor self-esteem from problems and low dopamine reward circuitry), arguing to get stimulated. These are all classic symptoms of more inattentive, low energy/low motivation ADD.

Hubby: would not sit still, would not sleep, struggles socially, quick tempered, can not stand little noises, forgets his head, can not sit still, drinks far too much, is depressed, anxiety and panic attacks, can cook a meal, clean up in no time at all. Again all fairly classic hyperactive ADD though social issue might indicate Aspergers possibly. But temper and drinking are really stimulation seeking due to low dopamine. Depression is a very common co-morbidity, around 40% of people with ADD may have depression at some time. In part because life has been tough with undiagnosed ADD in part because low dopamine can result in low interest, low reward and low mood. Sounds like he needs some help.

Where abouts do you live? There are several adult support groups in the UK now. You could try looking at www.aadd.org.uk for some. There are also a few coaches and therapists that specialise in ADD now too.

Hope you get some meds and that they help you out.

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Re: Really could do with some advise guys, if u can get your head round what i am say

Thank you so much guys. We live in derbyshire. Hubby has just been reffered to the mental health team so not sure what will happen their.

Just out of interest i am taking 10 mg of methylphenidate at the moment and although i am not as chatty, i still have no energy, infact i would say i am getting less done. Will this get better as my meds are increased or is this a sighn that they not work

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Re: Really could do with some advise guys, if u can get your head round what i am say

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10mg is pretty low so perhaps a higher dose will help, but no one can tell how meds will affect you as they affect everyone so differently. I am quite under-activated too and ritalin brightened my mood but didn't do much for motivation nor did dexedrine, but everyone is different.

Its pretty hard to monitor yourself on meds as they obviously change your thinking as you take them, so it might help to keep a journal to keep a check on any changes. Anyway stick with it, be patient but be honest with your prescriber. You should not be asked to wait too long before you titrate up (increase your dose), maybe a week as the effects are pretty immediate on ADD meds (except for Strattera). People take far higher doses of Ritalin than 10mg.

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