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Old 04-17-18, 06:04 PM
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Yeah, but I was thinking of someone like Fuzzy's friends who are happy (I assume they weren't poured over with hot oil to agree to their marriage)
No they weren't. Arranged marriages are still pretty much the norm in India and in most cases they are just like another form of some sort of match making agency.
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accurately speaking its more of a business deal. A game about compromises where cast/creed/race is heavily judged. Priority is given to the amount of money a guy makes, how well "qualified" (even if he might look like a roadkill) and for a girl its generally about the beauty and fairness,'character' and related attributes. These parameters have really,really strong roots at places where arranged marriage is a norm. So the final verdict has to come from the self-appointed judges(parents) who's approval seals the deal. In short,a sad circus full of egomaniac,entitled douches and approval seeking minions.
Um...accurately speaking..yes

It doesn't have to be that way though and like you said the outcome is often fairly happy. At least it seems as if arranged marriages are not more likely to fail or be unhappy. However if getting married for the sake of getting married isnt your thing then that's fair enough.
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Re: Nothing works out for me

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accurately speaking its more of a business deal. A game about compromises where cast/creed/race is heavily judged. Priority is given to the amount of money a guy makes, how well "qualified" (even if he might look like a roadkill) and for a girl its generally about the beauty and fairness,'character' and related attributes. These parameters have really,really strong roots at places where arranged marriage is a norm. So the final verdict has to come from the self-appointed judges(parents) who's approval seals the deal. In short,a sad circus full of egomaniac,entitled douches and approval seeking minions.
I love India !


I guess as a foreigner I need to be more wealthy than a local guy ?

If what you say is true then there must be a kind of knowledge market about who you can "get" for what money.... something like a register of historical deals....

So what net worth do I need to compensate for the fact that I am a 38 adhd foreigner ?
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I love India !


I guess as a foreigner I need to be more wealthy than a local guy ?

If what you say is true then there must be a kind of knowledge market about who you can "get" for what money.... something like a register of historical deals....

So what net worth do I need to compensate for the fact that I am a 38 adhd foreigner ?
That depends on lot on whom you are planning to marry. Different communities have different expectations.
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Any dating portals with free expert advice ?
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