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View Poll Results: Have you ever cheated?
I have never cheated on any partner. 192 49.36%
I have cheated on one partner. 76 19.54%
I have cheated on every partner that I have ever had. 34 8.74%
I have cheated on more than one, but not all partners. 87 22.37%
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Old 08-11-04, 10:19 PM
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Adults with ADD - Cheating on Partners

Just wanted to know if it was a ADD thing, or not. Thanks.
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Old 08-12-04, 07:49 AM
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Wonder if there should be a "I've never had a partner" option?
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I find the results of this poll interesting so far since all the research I have seen says up to 70% of men and 40% of women (with an upward swing forcasted in the future) have cheated. How many have had a boyfriend/girlfriend and then met someone new and strung the old one along until you knew if they new relationship was actually going to be a relationship and not a crush/passing fancy? You know a safety Girlfriend/Boyfriend. Everyone be honest.
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I have never cheated. Partly because I think I have never had an opportunity. I do beleive in trying to be with only one person, but I would say that I beleive that I do have the capacity to cheat and would do so in certain circumstances.
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Never cheated but have flirted. Guilt (loads of guilt) and getting caught (of course I'd get caught) keep me from trying too hard. Just doesn't seem like a nice thing to do to a person.
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I've certainly fantasized but would not act on that, as I'm pretty slow in developing any relationship anyways.
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I dated my first boyfriend for 6 years and cheated on him with the guy I then dated for 2 years. I cheated on him with my first boyfriend.

I've never cheated on my husband...I couldn't take that stress on top of everything else (not to mention I love him!)
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I've never been "married" - even in the George-W-Bush-wants-to-do-a-stupid-constitutional-amendment-banning-it since of the word, but I was never faithful to any of my long-term partners. I've changed and grown up quite a bit now, but haven't had the opportunity to really test may faithfulness.
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I think this would be for interesting if you had done Female-no cheat, Female-cheat, male-no cheat, male-cheat...
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Female-Male cheat, Female-Female cheat, Male-Female cheat, Male-Male cheat,
Female-Male no cheat, Female-Female no cheat, Male-Female no cheat, Male-Male no cheat
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I thought the poll was fine as is....not like we need to know everyone's sexual pref.
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Hey Jaime, that was a tongue-in-cheek response to Keppig's post...
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Why would ADD people cheat more than anyone else?

Hell, if I DID have an opportunity to knock it out with someone else, I think I would have forgotten about the rendevous like I did every other '******* important appointment I've ever had.
I just wonder if ADD people are more prone to cheat at all. I think that the issue is really one of when you are staring down the barrel of hoochie (or hunk, for you ladies) how strong your character and resolve are to remain faithful. Unless, of course your excuse is that you *forgot* you were married or *blinked out* and when you snapped out of the blink you were mid-coitus. Then I suppose we ADD'ers would have a built in excuse.
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I think there are a couple of theories as to why ADDers might be more prone to this.

1. We have poor impulse control.
2. We are easily bored... perhaps with our partners as well.

On the other hand, ADDers often seem more passionate... perhaps that would work against us being prone to be cheaters...
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