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Old 11-09-12, 02:23 AM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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I tell people I get to know or want to know better, that I have it.. being the quiet type. I'm sure it's obvious anyway because it's pretty easy to catch me in a spacey act, but anyways I think it helps them understand that your faults aren't just rude or that lots of things you do aren't on purpose... Though it looks like an excuse most of the time, I hope my "excuses" get better on meds as I figure them out.... because I drive new friends crazy especially.... let's just say I come off quite *****y at times! Atleast 70% of those things I apologize for though.
I can get really b****y like I was today on the phone but this lady was a flake, ugh!! I did, and do, apologize when I find out I'm in the wrong so I try hard not to be that way too often but I'm so short-tempered b/c of my darn ADD!!
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Old 11-09-12, 04:59 AM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I tell people that I engaged in conversations with. Surprisingly they are are interested because they first see you as being normal. Whats funny is that they will sometimes fess up with having the same symptoms and that starts to make them think more about themselves. I tell them, if it isn't bothering them then they shouldn't worry about it. Passing education along helps. It involves people to open their minds and learn...I just wish my wife would do so after learning our son has been diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD.
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Old 11-13-12, 07:30 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

No way. I'm the boss where I work.
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Old 11-13-12, 08:12 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

i literally do not give a f**k so...whoever needs/wants to know has usually guessed it already
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Old 11-14-12, 09:39 AM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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i literally do not give a f**k so...whoever needs/wants to know has usually guessed it already
I'm pretty sure my secretary has guessed it. I've heard her say things like, "Don't talk to him now, he won't wake up for about an hour."
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Old 11-15-12, 07:00 AM
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I'm on a mission to get a book deal for my memoir about surviving undiagnosed ADD and being successful, so yeah, I tell people! I feel it's SO important to help get the word out and inspire others with the condition.

After a near suicide and identity crisis a year and a half ago, it means more to me to get my story out to the world than ever before. Others shouldn't have to go through this!
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I was interning at a school for a year and at the end of the year one of the ese teachers asked me if I had ADHD.................
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Not yet. I'm still in shock. I told my mum and when I showed her some videos online she said it all made sense. Not sure how my brothers will take it. There's a lot at stake (and a huge amount of history) when you don't find out till later in life .. I'm 42. I'm going to start counselling before making this decision.
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Old 12-17-12, 03:29 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I'm "The Boss" you could say. Not a huge practice: single doctor & 6 staff.

Dx @ 45 c ADD just a few months ago.

Overnight (almost literally) all the unsolved "cold cases" of my life finally had explanation. No more chameleon, wall-flower, fear of discovery.

By the time my dx was made I was deep in the jungle of my symptoms. Past the point I've ever been, as my therapist was working with me in avoiding my typical "I'm being discovered - must run | hide | leave | move ... " instinct.
  • Work was suffering.
  • Bills late.
  • A disastrous office that looked like Hurricane Sandy headed west.
  • I couldn't make it from the front of the office to the back without starting at least 10 - 15 tasks on the way adding to that already enormous pile of 'Started |not finished'.
  • Workaholism (yet nothing getting done).
  • Reclusiveness.
  • Hyper-focus
  • Foot-mouth-syndrome.
  • A memory like a sieve.
  • My way or the highway' attitude

Not a good way to manage an office.

I didn't want moral to be affected and we had some great people I didn't want to loose - I need them. I educated the staff during one of our meetings about my recent diagnosis,
  • what ADD is,
  • what my symptoms are
  • how it has affected the office and or each of them personally.
  • what is being done about it
  • what they can expect.
  • Open questions
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They were interested and it went ok. Scary as crap (understatement) trying to get the courage to open myself like that but it was worth it.

As far as associates - not to any real detail. Just simply "I've been recently diagnosed with a medical condition that has effected my ability to function at 100%". (Or something like that). "Our office is working on solutions to resolve any issues that directly affect them."

My family (the clan), my amazing husband, and friends (the one or two that i have) ... all knew I was 'different' to begin with, so they have been supportive during this process of self discovery.

In my humble opinion the more knowledge/understanding there are for those who are affected by my symptoms the better daily life will be for everyone. Of course everyone's circumstances are different and everyone of us have our own comfort zones and needs.

PS: I had four years of professional help prior to my dx to give me the skills and comfort to address difficult subjects ... And it is still not easy. Doable. Successful. But not easy.

PSS: office moral has improved tremendously becoming a safer place for me to grow
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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Siemprefeliz..."how hard could it be" ...Does anyone else find that having ADD makes it alot easier to try and put yourself in someone elses shoes before judging?
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Old 12-18-12, 11:17 AM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I only found out in the last two years i am ADHD, and I told everyone, I believe 98% of tossers sorry people i told was a waste of time, but the other 2% was worth the while, i thought. The mind and behaviour are my favourite hobby and i believe i am well versed in Autism.
The main Question i would ask you is what about the inability for autistic people to love or be loved on an emotional level? and the lack of empathy / sympathy. You would prob be better replyin on skype paul.proso because i will prob forget ive got this account in a week.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I find I mention it often. I kinda like it about me. I post it every once in a while on FB. I feel telling co workers is a good move. I prefer to clean. Let them know when I don't answer an email or return a call - its not personal. And if I'm working with someone on something, I ask people to help me stay focused.

What's gonna happen? They'll say no? So what?! I'm in business - I hear no all the time.

What works for me might be a bad idea for some.I have no employer to fear. I do have clients , however. A friend once remarked to me that it was foolish to be so open about add - perhaps people would second guess working with me.

I replied ( a little too arrogantly )that if you are close enough with me to follow my Facebook, then you already know I'm plenty smart. It's arrogant - but it's also kinda true.

However, I'm very careful about mentioning my ADD directly to someone before they've gotten a chance to know and appreciate me.i feel like if someone knows you, even a little, it doesn't matter that you're add.

When I tell friendly co-workers that I am ADD, they've responded in a rather sarcastic tone,
"Noooo, you?!! Can't be!!" We get a chuckle.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I've know I've been ADD since 1st or 2nd grade. It's normal to me. I don't view it as something to be ashamed of, so yes, I tell most people...And besides, It's pretty easy to tell I'm a different breed...And if if someone doesn't like my ways, oh well...If they aren't signing my paychecks -- They can go fvkc themselves and leave me the hell alone.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I don't believe that it would a good idea to tell my friends that I have ADD or that I am being treated for it. My good friends will know if they express a desire to. It's pretty much on a "need to know basis".
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I was diagnosed a couple of years out of high school (this Dx was about 3.5 years ago) and actually I think I've been maybe too secretive, too afraid people would laugh it off or think it's stupid or something, but part of my secrecy was that I was and am still very uncomfortable with me actually having it. I think I didn't want to believe it or felt ashamed and damaged, and so I would try to keep it really quiet, but then around some people I would just sometimes start talking about it. Sometimes it felt very normal and casual, but there was only really one time when I found someone who seemed uncomfortable with it, but this is a person who just doesn't really discuss this kind of stuff. I like the idea of not really talking about it with anyone except those you're close with, because they know you and care about you and so their context is more detailed and you have more opportunities to explain to them what is and has been going on inside your head. Even if they disagree or still think it's a bunch of crap, they'll still probably care about you and maybe it will even alter their view of what ADD is (it's their armchair-doctor opinion vs., in my case, 2 psychiatrists, 2 family doctors, one internist, and multiple counselors). And for everyone else, well, what does it matter if they think ADD is just nonsense? It probably won't change anything, and they probably won't really care that you say you have it or take pills for it. I am uncomfortable still around certain friends though, but maybe I'm not being fair to them..
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