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Re: Does introversion beget introversion??

I have 3 young children, all completely different from one another. Babies show you their personality very early on, and I honestly don't think it's something you can change. You just have to listen to them when they tell you what they like and dislike.

Fuzzling sounds like my eldest, he was never enthusiastic about socialising and still isn't. It sounds like you are taking her out enough, but she just isn't that into it. I know it's a really hard thing to cope with when your baby is grizzling and clinging while other people's babies are smiling and playing.

The thing is you just have to love them for who they are and find things they do enjoy and that don't cause you unnecessary stress. And never ever compare her to other children! It will only cause you doubt and guilt.

One thing I did learn is to never make them the centre of attention in a social setting. People tend to rush at babies cooing but it just scared the c**p out of my eldest. He needed time to warm up so I had to put myself or my outgoing husband in the front to fend off other people until he was ready. Subtly obviously, we tried not to look ridiculous!

My son has sensory processing disorder, anxiety, and adhd. I'm not saying that to scare you, but to say that if your baby prefers to just be with you then go for it. Because maybe she can't cope with all the stimulation of social functions and just needs more time out than most.

My niece is also very similar (I suspect she has similar conditions) and she has been forcibly socialised from the start. From what I can see, it has made no difference. She is introverted and shy, and struggles socially.

So do what YOU can cope with - do what makes you and Fuzzling happy. The thing is, she is socialising with you and your loved ones and, from what I can tell, that is often enough. The most important thing is that she feels loved and safe, with a home that is her sanctuary when the world threatens to overwhelm her.

Fuzzling will turn out just fine I promise. It used to annoy me when people said that to me, but they were right. She will be fine because the lucky little girl has YOU to look after her.
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