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adhd smells as good as sh*t covered roses.
The more I think about that analogy, the more perfect, nuanced and precise I see it to be.
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Adhd is an asset when people are cool and respect your good idea despite the fact that you just fell up the stairs and all kinds of random papers fell out of your purse.
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Re: ADD = asset

I think that to an extent this debate is almost always semantic.

Forgetting keys: bad. Artistic creativity: good. We agree.

It's just how we group these within ADHD. We all agree we forget our keys because of ADHD. The artistic creativity is a matter of debate - we're not really sure how much of that is ADHD. We have an idea.. and scientists debate the details.. but we really don't know for sure.

But if we ask specific questions - we probably all agree:
Sensitive - good.
Clumsy - bad.
Forgetful - bad.
Intuitive - good.
Jam - good.
Custard - good.
Meat - Goooooood!!!!!!!
So my opinion is: meat in trifle, what's not to like? Wait, what? Ummmmm, sorry, lost my train of thought.. Oh yeah, ADD = Asset. Anyway, here's what I want to know, why do we all get so worked up over this?
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Re: ADD = asset

Sensitive - good.

Over-sensitive - bad.


That is the critique that has haunted me all my life, starting with my dad,
my friends, my teachers, my husband ...

People with ADHD have difficulty prioritizing - everything seems like a crisis
to us, making us seem over-sensitive to things that are considered normal
by non-ADHD people.
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Anyway, here's what I want to know, why do we all get so worked up over this?
I guess maybe some of us don't - but the ones who do, I think it's because making your own life story make some kind of sense is essential to everyone's identity. When I feel as if I don't know how ADHD affects my story, then in some way I don't know who I am.
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But if we ask specific questions - we probably all agree:
Sensitive - good.
Clumsy - bad.
Forgetful - bad.
Intuitive - good.
Jam - good.
Custard - good.
Meat - Goooooood!!!!!!!
So my opinion is: meat in trifle, what's not to like? Wait, what? Ummmmm, sorry, lost my train of thought.. Oh yeah, ADD = Asset. Anyway, here's what I want to know, why do we all get so worked up over this?
nice reference joey!
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nice reference joey!
So glad someone got that!
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making your own life story make some kind of sense is essential to everyone's identity.
if I don't know how ADHD affects my story, then in some way I don't know who I am.
I really understand that. But I don't think it fully explains the visceral response that some have when someone else sees the good in their ADHD.

If ADHD impacts different people, situations or professions differently, why does that prevent you from understanding how it affects you?
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Steve, I'm having trouble expressing this thought this morning, but basically
I've seen the media, even Additude magazine which should know better,
tout this idea of the "gifts of ADHD", thereby minimizing or trivializing the
impairments that come with this disorder.

And too many people believe what they read, and don't understand why we
struggle, why we may need accomodations in school or at work, why we
need stimulant meds ... and think we're just lazy or whiners.
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I definitely know where your coming from with that. I think that's the heart of the issue. I suffer a lot from ADHD and I find the idea that it's not a "disability" very hurtful and dismissive. And often we hear things that are basically: Lunacie and Stevuke79 are lazy whinners, .. and they need to be a little more like that CEO.

When someone says ADHD is an ASSET, to I don't like the way that feels either. For me, it's not because of what THAT PERSON is saying; it's because they remind me of what SOMEONE ELSE SAYS. And I'm actually conflicted because I find the idea that ADHD=Asset very useful in understanding the nature of my mind. That aside...

While I don't go around here talking about how ADHD is "part gift", and I don't even expect everyone here to love that topic, I think when it's brought up people get very critical. All I'm saying is, to an extent, we're pointing our criticism in the wrong direction. ADHD=Part-Asset doesn't mean Stevuke79 is lazy or that ADHD is not a disability.
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I just wanted to let everyone know, I've SETTLED THIS MATTER!! No further discussion is necessary as I have just PROVEN that ADHD is an ASSET.

You see I went to get myself a cup of coffee, and the steel filter for my french-press was missing, .. couldn't find it anywhere. So in my desperation I made a make-shift drip-filter with a funnel and a ripped up brown paper bag.

I'd like to see how a neuro-typical would have handled that same situation... probably would have done something completely pathetic like have hot tea instead. Pfft, pitiful!

So that's settled then. No need to thank me. Happy to help.
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One thing though, the paying attention to everything that I keep hearing about--anyone actually have that? I really don't notice details like that. I write and want to make a living off it but not innately seeing details bothers me. I think I used too. Like reading, I used to read every single sign and sticker I came across. Now, not so much. I don't know if life just beat that out of me, but...ok, I'm going on a tangent. But the details thing. I don't see them unless specifically looking. I'm usually just in my head and oblivious to the outside world. I know I'm not alone in that, but I'm curious how prevalent the other side of the coin is.
I'm the same way, I'm good at seeing the big picture, but I'm HORRIBLE at absorbing details!


I really hate articles like this, to be honest. We have a hard enough time getting ADHD recognized as a legitimate disorder and receiving accommodations for it as it is, articles like this don't help. At all.

I really don't think there is anything positive about ADHD. And I'm not a Negative Nancy about it either. ADHD RUINED my life until I finally got diagnosed in my 30's and started to experience actual career and life success after starting medication and coaching. I succeed in SPITE of my ADHD, not because of it, I'm learning to overcome the deficits this disorder causes, at least to some degree, and I honestly believe that's the most inspiring thing of all.
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I've been known to put a positive spin on my ADD now and again. I like feeling better.
I don't think there's anything wrong with what you do for yourself. However, I do care about the influence of ideas on others. When an idea props up that can hurt people, I cannot turn the other way and let that idea run unchallenged.
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