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Old 07-17-18, 08:49 PM
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Does ADHD cause problems building chemistry/emotional connections while on dates?

This is something Iíve noticed in the past as a problem I have, and Iím curious if anyone else has noticed something similar.

Iíve just noticed that when Iím trying to gauge feelings and such or on a date Iím never gonna have that kind of connection. Ever. Iím just constantly over analyzing myself. The best first date - in this sense - that I went on was one where instantly decided there wouldnít be a second and then had fun because I wasnít thinking about it.

Iíve only had chemistry maybe once (maybe) and that was someone with BPD (think love bombing and emotional manipulation) and even they I was still overanalyzing myself and it kind of killed the spark we had...
later as FRIENDS feelings came back for a little bit, but only then when I wasn't thinking about it
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Re: Does ADHD cause problems building chemistry/emotional connections while on dates?

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The best first date - in this sense - that I went on was one where instantly decided there wouldnít be a second and then had fun because I wasnít thinking about it.



I always thought it's anxiety, not adhd that make you cannot snap into a romantic mode.
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I always thought it's anxiety, not adhd that make you cannot snap into a romantic mode.
It seems to me that they both share certain traits tbh.
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Does anyone else have this kind of anxiety on dates?

[Moderator note: Merged duplicate threads. - Namazu]

This is something I’ve noticed in the past as a problem I have, and I’m curious if anyone else has noticed something similar.

I’ve just noticed that when I’m trying to gauge feelings and such or on a date I’m never gonna have that kind of connection. Ever. I’m just constantly over analyzing myself. The best first date - in this sense - that I went on was one where instantly decided there wouldn’t be a second and then had fun because I wasn’t thinking about it.

Sometimes though I can become completely obsessive over this, in the moment, and anxious, and it ruins the experience in real time. It's why when I'm drunk I'm more or less completely normal socially. I stop minutely observing and analyzing someone else and analyzing myself, etc.

I’ve only had chemistry maybe once (maybe) and that was someone with BPD... and of course this doesn't include when I'm drunk (even if only mildly).

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Re: Does ADHD cause problems building chemistry/emotional connections while on dates?

Check out my new thread on "contextual clues". This may have some impact on your attempts to build chemistry on dates.

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