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Old 09-10-18, 01:17 PM
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When someone is speaking to me, They look at me weird waiting for a reply, But actually, I am listening but it takes my brain to realise what that person has actually said to me, I could easily be there talking to someone eye to eye and they don't get a response from me because i'm either thinking about something completely off-topic, or it take's me at least some time for my brain to function what that person said.

It's like my partner asks me to do something, She repeats it 2 more times and i'm just standing there like "Huh?"

Some people just don't know that US with ADHD/ADD can't listen or function what that other person is saying, Even if your looking directly at them
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Re: Delayed

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When someone is speaking to me, They look at me weird waiting for a reply, But actually, I am listening but it takes my brain to realise what that person has actually said to me, I could easily be there talking to someone eye to eye and they don't get a response from me because i'm either thinking about something completely off-topic, or it take's me at least some time for my brain to function what that person said.

It's like my partner asks me to do something, She repeats it 2 more times and i'm just standing there like "Huh?"

Some people just don't know that US with ADHD/ADD can't listen or function what that other person is saying, Even if your looking directly at them

If the person is trustworthy I explain that maybe I do not pay attention to him and he may have to repeat what he said, but he does not take it personally.
For your comment I guess you just had an episode of this type. Have you been struck by something like that recently?
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Re: Delayed

It's very common with people who have ADD/ADHD to be unable to carry on with a conversation. The region of the brain responsible for focus and concentration isn't functioning at normal levels, thus why people often complain about not, "paying attention." They're distracted, it's like their brains can't filter out the noise around them. I'm sure this has to do with problems in executive functioning.

Based off other people's experience similar to yours, it seems like stimulants better address this issue. It has something to do with working memory. Will you be forgetful, need things repeated back, yes, but it shouldn't happen as much, or not as severe.
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Re: Delayed

I totally get how you feel. The only difference is that instead of waiting until I fully process what was said, I impulsively respond. It’s really feels as though it’s either a hit or miss at that point.
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Re: Delayed

This is exactly the response I get from people. The look at you like they're saying "Hello in there, anyone home." Most of the time I just ignore the look. Sometimes I tell people to give me a second, it takes a bit for my brain to engage. I'm 49 and over the years my mental startup delay seems to be increasing. Generally, the more it annoys someone, the funnier I think it is.
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