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Old 10-03-19, 02:51 PM
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Re: Come on In If You're Online And Say Anything: Part III

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Ya won't know until you try. You are great with the boys. As I remember it was
the paperwork for billing that was a problem. Is there someone who can help
you with that?
Yeah, what a NIGHTMARE that was. My dad still to this days feels like I was making more of a big deal out of it than I needed to be.../cry

The big difference here though is I'd actually be sat down and trained on how to do the billing this go around. The problem I had a couple years ago is that it's a super overly complicated system that I got thrust into without knowing a single thing about anything and it was overwhelming as hell. And I had no help and didn't know who to turn to or where to look for the info I needed.

But even this can be viewed as a positive...because I essentially taught myself how to get most of the billing stuff done, so that too I have direct experience with.

My fear is actually keeping track of the hours properly and keeping things semi organized. My mom was amazing at keeping things together (all the paperwork)...I'll never be anything like that. I have a hell of a hard time keeping track of stuff.
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Thinking out loud...

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I think I'm going to jump into becoming a respite care provider here shortly. I'd be nuts not to. In my town they pay VERY well and there's a big need.

Everything about it seems perfect for me. I'd be watching 2 awesome boys over the weekends here at my apartment. I'd be my own boss.
And it's something I've got over 10 years of experience with! I helped my mom and dad do this with these 2 kids for over 10 years almost every weekend. I love these boys. They're brothers to me at this point...I grew up with them. And I'm damn good with them. Better than my dad ever was for sure.

My mom passed, then my dad moved out of state...and since then their grandma who is their main caregiver hasn't picked up any more providers for the boys. She's VERY protective of them and who she lets work with them.

I called her up last thursday just a few hours before I got sick. She loved hearing from me and told me she can't get the boys to shut up about me! haha they miss me and they drive by my apartment everyday and I guess go on and on about me xP.
And she said she'd be THRILLED to have me take them like my dad use to do if I can get things all set up.

I also set up an appointment with Voc Rehab to see if they can't help me jump into this, and the facility I get 1 on 1 therapy from is trying to help me get new glasses so I can pass a test to get my driving license renewed then they think they can help me pay to get my car re-registered and with some insurance.

There's a lot of small things I need...and I'm really scared that I'm not mature enough for this. Like can I really take care of 2 kids on my own? By myself? They're not really kids...the eldest is something like 23'ish and the youngest 15'ish...but they do need a lot of help with things.

But seriously...it's like the perfect thing for me. It's something I can do that's super part time, pays great while still not being too much to bump me out of the government help I'm getting it'd be doing something I know I'm damn good at doing with people I absolutely love, it'd be at my own apartment...and it can branch out to other families and I could potentially really make it into a whole career at some point if I wish to stick with it long term.
I'd be crazy not to jump into this.

But I feel silly getting excited about things like this anymore. Or to get others pumped for me.
I always want to do things and then don't do them. I've been talking about employment for years...yet here I sit unemployed still all these months later.

But so much has changed. Money is more an issue now than it ever has been in my life...and it's only getting worse month to month as I'm running out of things to sell off.

What a beautiful opportunity this is though! How crazy would it be if everything worked out and I could actually do this? It's like literally the perfect 'job' for me.

Oh I'm so happy this is a post from today. This sounds just perfect both for you and for the boys. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and remind yourself that you can always stop or take a break if it becomes too much (I guess) but do give it a shot. You are so made for taking care of others!!
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Yeah, what a NIGHTMARE that was. My dad still to this days feels like I was making more of a big deal out of it than I needed to be.../cry

The big difference here though is I'd actually be sat down and trained on how to do the billing this go around. The problem I had a couple years ago is that it's a super overly complicated system that I got thrust into without knowing a single thing about anything and it was overwhelming as hell. And I had no help and didn't know who to turn to or where to look for the info I needed.

But even this can be viewed as a positive...because I essentially taught myself how to get most of the billing stuff done, so that too I have direct experience with.

My fear is actually keeping track of the hours properly and keeping things semi organized. My mom was amazing at keeping things together (all the paperwork)...I'll never be anything like that. I have a hell of a hard time keeping track of stuff.
Just because your mom was amazing at keeping track of the paperwork, that
doesn't mean you have to be amazing. Just good enough, okay?
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Re: Come on In If You're Online And Say Anything: Part III

I have never watched so much baseball in my entire life.

The Yankees-Twins series starts tonight; saw an interview on the local news with a young team member and when they asked him how he felt about the Yankees, he said "look, the last time we played NY (in postseason), I was studying for the ACT tests. These aren't the same guys".
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Re: Come on In If You're Online And Say Anything: Part III

Lunacie,

Things are much better now, and no, I don't think she saw the contradiction.

On a more celebratory note , my wife insisted I have my hearing checked,

which I did. The results showed my hearing to be near "perfect;" with only one

tone in my right ear that wasn't well within the normal range

The end result was the vindication of my long standing complaints that she

(and her whole family) mumble while the walk away, and that you need to

please look at me when you're talking to me.

Life is good
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Lunacie,

Things are much better now, and no, I don't think she saw the contradiction.

On a more celebratory note , my wife insisted I have my hearing checked,

which I did. The results showed my hearing to be near "perfect;" with only one

tone in my right ear that wasn't well within the normal range

The end result was the vindication of my long standing complaints that she

(and her whole family) mumble while the walk away, and that you need to

please look at me when you're talking to me.

Life is good
Ha! Pretty sure my hearing is just fine. It's just that I can't pick out only one

thing to focus on hearing when there are several things competing for my

attention.

I was talking with a friend who wears a hearing aid about us both wanting to

see the new Downton Abbey movie but thinking we wouldn't hear much of

the dialogue without closed captioning. I can get some from lip reading.


My daughter loves The Muppets and you can't lip-read puppets you know?
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Re: Come on In If You're Online And Say Anything: Part III

Right now I am thinking about a debate I had with my mother about 2 years ago as to why I think I should have been kept in private school at the time as opposed to put back in public school, and how it would have been better for a kid such as me (she was a good student who did very well and went to private school - so did my sisters)... lol... thinking about firing up that debate again after seeing old records of my grades my dad kept... haha
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Thinking outloud

I wonder what life would have been like growing up if I didn't have a TV... would I be more inclined to reading books? Well, I'd have the internet.... okay maybe having a TV wasn't too bad...
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I wonder what life would have been like growing up if I didn't have a TV... would I be more inclined to reading books? Well, I'd have the internet.... okay maybe having a TV wasn't too bad...
Sometimes I think about letting them shut my internet off for a month or 2. I don't have t.v.
I miss doing things other than spending all my spare time on the damn computer.
The internet kills my ambitions too.
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For as grumpy and gloomy as I've been these last couple of weeks...I just want to say...

I'm grateful for quite a few things.
The insurance coverage I get.
The lady and counseling center I work with...they've really pulled through with helping me out lately.
Having a way to get around my apartment without having to put pressure on my foot.
My pain in my foot being manageable atm.
Being fortunate enough to be able to get lots of rest. Not being pushed to have to attempt to walk around.
These forums still being around.
My future...which really is looking good for me.

I'm really very spoiled in life.
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For as grumpy and gloomy as I've been these last couple of weeks...I just want to say...

I'm grateful for quite a few things.
The insurance coverage I get.
The lady and counseling center I work with...they've really pulled through with helping me out lately.
Having a way to get around my apartment without having to put pressure on my foot.
My pain in my foot being manageable atm.
Being fortunate enough to be able to get lots of rest. Not being pushed to have to attempt to walk around.
These forums still being around.
My future...which really is looking good for me.

I'm really very spoiled in life.

It's good to be grateful and it's also good to see people be grateful.
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For as grumpy and gloomy as I've been these last couple of weeks...I just want to say...

I'm grateful for quite a few things.
The insurance coverage I get.
The lady and counseling center I work with...they've really pulled through with helping me out lately.
Having a way to get around my apartment without having to put pressure on my foot.
My pain in my foot being manageable atm.
Being fortunate enough to be able to get lots of rest. Not being pushed to have to attempt to walk around.
These forums still being around.
My future...which really is looking good for me.

I'm really very spoiled in life.
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Sometimes I think about letting them shut my internet off for a month or 2. I don't have t.v.
I miss doing things other than spending all my spare time on the damn computer.
The internet kills my ambitions too.
Yes me too but the thought of not being able to look up any stupid nonsense whenever I want to genuinely scares me.
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For as grumpy and gloomy as I've been these last couple of weeks...I just want to say...

I'm grateful for quite a few things.
The insurance coverage I get.
The lady and counseling center I work with...they've really pulled through with helping me out lately.
Having a way to get around my apartment without having to put pressure on my foot.
My pain in my foot being manageable atm.
Being fortunate enough to be able to get lots of rest. Not being pushed to have to attempt to walk around.
These forums still being around.
My future...which really is looking good for me.

I'm really very spoiled in life.
What happened to your foot?

Also if you'd like to share I'd love to hear about your future!!
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