![]() |
|
Register | Blogs | FAQ | Chat | Members List | Calendar | Donate | Gallery | Arcade | Mark Forums Read |
![]() |
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
#1
|
|||||||||
|
|||||||||
Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
Understanding counterwill has got to be one of the most important topics, all parenting adults and their children would benefit from, from being aware of.
Especially children (and adults) who are more emotionally reactive due to being born with more emotionally sensitive temperaments. Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
-Gabor Mate, "Scattered". Chapter 20, "Oppositionality", p 183-185. (Continued on next page)
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) Last edited by mildadhd; 06-06-17 at 07:19 PM.. |
#2
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
(continued)
Quote:
Quote:
-Gabor Mate, "Scattered". Chapter: "Oppositionality", p 185. m
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) Last edited by mildadhd; 06-06-17 at 07:07 PM.. |
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to mildadhd For This Useful Post: | ||
dvdnvwls (06-06-17), someothertime (06-06-17) |
#3
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
Maté has a great deal to answer for in his blatant disregard for evidence and his off-the-cuff approach to decision making, but in this section of this book he has certainly hit the nail on the head.
__________________
Postmodernism, the school of 'thought' that proclaimed 'There are no truths, only interpretations' has largely played itself out in absurdity, but it has left behind a generation of academics in the humanities disabled by their distrust of the very idea of truth and their disrespect for evidence, settling for 'conversations' in which nobody is wrong and nothing can be confirmed, only asserted with whatever style you can muster. |
The Following User Says Thank You to dvdnvwls For This Useful Post: | ||
someothertime (06-06-17) |
Sponsored Links |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
(Continued)
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
-Gabor Mate, "Scattered". Chapter: "Oppositionality", p 185-186. (Continued below)
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) |
#5
|
||||
|
||||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
this is my biggest trait.
from the age of around 5-6... my "counterwill" defined me, drove me, fuelled me... at the surface, i wanted fairness.... maybe deep down too..... i wonder... what other ways does a child with heightened emotions have to express themselves ( physical ![]() so, i believe at it's core it excess energy... and it's external constructs which lead to channeling toward mal-behavior.... because this is the only acceptable form of expression within most childrens daily existence. not for all, but for most..... ( so i would argue that will is there, but it's diverted... emotional ownership overpowers logic )
__________________
The goal is personally satisfying personal quality. And to support other people in attaining their own personally satisfying personal quality. And then to share. ~ SB_UK ~ |
#6
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
(Continued)
Quote:
-Gabor Mate, "Scattered". Chapter: "Oppositionality", 186-187 (Continued below)
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) |
#7
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
(Continued)
Quote:
-Gabor Mate, "Scattered", Chapter "Oppositionality", p.187-188. Quote:
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) |
#8
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
Quote:
Since we agree with the information in this thread. So we do not derail this thread with other topics you disagree with. Do you mind if I start a new thread, where if you want, you could post some quotes made by Dr.Mate, that you disagree with, and I could focus on Dr.Mate's quote's you post in disagreement and I could decide whether I agree or disagree, and explain my opinion? One reason why I like typing out the information from the appropriate sections of "Scattered" based on whatever the specific opening post AD(H)D thread topics is, is so people interested (who do not have a copy of "Scattered") can actually read what Dr. Mate actually wrote in full, and gather their own opinion. Another reason is because when focusing on the book "Scattered" and ADHD, is one of the times I get motivated enough to practice my typing skills (I am getting faster than when I joined ADDForums) and discussing and typing out the information helps me learn more about the information, that I might have missed in the past. I'll start working on the new thread discussion, if you want to? Its okay if you do not want to, I understand what you are agreeing about in this thread, it is just that I am unsure what other different section of the book and different thread subjects you are in disagreement about? m
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) Last edited by mildadhd; 06-06-17 at 10:11 PM.. |
#9
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
Quote:
__________________
Postmodernism, the school of 'thought' that proclaimed 'There are no truths, only interpretations' has largely played itself out in absurdity, but it has left behind a generation of academics in the humanities disabled by their distrust of the very idea of truth and their disrespect for evidence, settling for 'conversations' in which nobody is wrong and nothing can be confirmed, only asserted with whatever style you can muster. |
#10
|
|||
|
|||
Re: Understanding Counterwill: "Oppositionality cannot arise on its own"
Quote:
Well at least I know you agree with keeping the attachment relationship first and foremost, because that is what this information in this section is mostly about understanding. Actually this section of the book "Scattered", pretty much sums up most of what Dr.Mate discusses through out a few of his books, that is promoting a healthy attachment relationship between parenting figure and their child is essential for healthy development. I have have been given a real hard time over the years for promoting the benefits of a healthy attachment between parenting figures and their children, it is really nice not have that kind of opposition in this thread. (and hopefully future thread discussions go as well) All the best. m
__________________
"When people are suffering mentally, they want to feel better—they want to stop having bad emotions and start having good emotions." (-Temple Grandin) Last edited by mildadhd; 06-07-17 at 02:07 AM.. |
![]() |
Bookmarks |
Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests) | |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|
![]() |
||||
Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
Help understanding other people | LostTheMarbles | Relationships & Social Issues | 3 | 02-12-13 03:57 AM |
Understanding until suddenly brain stops... | Gilthranon | General ADD Talk | 4 | 02-06-13 07:21 PM |
Understanding Girls with AD/HD - Part I | mirandatoritess | General ADD Talk | 6 | 11-26-12 05:28 AM |
ADDult getting no Respect & Understanding | MrZachary | General ADD Talk | 10 | 03-09-04 10:18 PM |
Understanding ADHD: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder | sleepzalot | ADD Publications, Audio & Video Tapes | 0 | 09-01-03 10:49 PM |