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Old 12-14-16, 12:38 AM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

No. Medical conditions are private and not to be shared without careful consideration. That is why we have laws protecting peoples right to privacy, especially with medical issues.

Other than my psychiatrist, I can think of no one I would want to share with. To me, it is like going to the gynecologist for a pap smear and mammogram or a specialist for a skin condition.

If someone wants to share with people outside the protected group, it should only be with others who respect their privacy...ie a support group or organization that understands the condition. To do otherwise, will only create so much stress for me/you.

Just my two cents.

Yeah what I say may be harsh to some, but it facilitates recovery/diagnosis/clarity/support and removal of other peoples issues to your condition.

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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

My question would be why tell them?
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Old 12-18-16, 04:58 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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My question would be why tell them?
Because life can be a b!tch and some support and understanding here and there can mean the world.
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Old 12-18-16, 11:53 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I used to be self-conscious about it. I was afraid of being judged or afraid of being accused of making excuses. I'm at a point now where I don't care anymore. I openly tell people that I know. I don't take medication, so when my symptoms come up I openly admit to people what my issues are. I would rather they know where I stand and what's going on with me. If they don't accept it then that's not my problem because I can't change the way I am. I think the turning point for me was, out of fear of getting fired, I opened up and told my boss what was going on with me. To my surprise he was understanding and wanted to know what he could do to help me. Now I think back to when I was in school and kept it a secret. Maybe I should have told my teachers when I was struggling. Instead I was too proud and stubborn to admit that I had a problem or needed any help.
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Old 12-21-16, 08:30 AM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Usually I don't tell anyone, especially about the medications. Several friendships were ruined, because of the meds
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Never get the chance. They tell me first
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I told two of my friends about my childhood records and how I can't focus now and they were like you probably have adhd and i was like yes. One of my instructors said i should see a therapist when I told her about how I had problems with school and everything in general. Thing is i go to a therapist but i dont wanna tell anyone about it.

so yeah i tell them about my symptoms but i never confirm it
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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My question would be why tell them?
It depends upon the maturity of those in your workplace.

However, the "coaching rules" for managing ADHD are pretty straightforwards- they involve establishing structure and order in your workplace so that you will not be stuffed up by other people's mess. That approach has worked for me for most of my working life with no assistance from stimulants.

However, every time I have had to change workplace, the transition has been hard. I work as a doctor, and when I move I have immediate issues with ensuring orderly in trays and out trays. Then we come to the procedure room, and the task of being able to automatically lay my hands on local anesthetic, suture material, items required for plastering fractures etc is a nightmare.

Now I'm sure I can generalise here and say that this sort of issue will be a problem in new workplaces for most ADHD adults.

This is not always needed-- but if you can go in to a new workplace and say "I have this problem and it may take me a few more weeks to settle in" then you are ahead of the pack.

However that judgement has to be made on a case by case basis, and it may not be necessary to reveal it as ADHD.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Always do most can tell I talk real fast
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I usually only tell friends. They usually see something "different" about me anyway. I made the mistake of disclosing to an employer once and got mocked for it. I told him I was having a hard time at work because I have ADHD.

Everyone else, I figure it's none of their business.

Recently I struck up a conversation with someone while I was on jury duty. She had a lot of energy and was forthcoming in telling me she had ADHD. So naturally I shared information about myself and had a pretty deep conversation about our life experiences. I guess some folks with ADHD tend to skip the small talk.
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Old 05-09-17, 05:52 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I wish I read this earlier. I accidentally told a coworker that I probably had ADD and he looked at me like I had lobsters crawling out of my ears.
Oh well, I thought it was pretty common these days. Personally, I would welcome knowing for sure, because I continually kick myself for my lack of success over the years. Maybe I can figure out how to deal with it better.
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Old 05-12-17, 08:26 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Only my family and my Fiance know. There is too much stigma, and I'm already struggling enough to keep my head above water.

One day, when I'm where I'm working to get to, I'll be proud to say I did it all while having ADD. But not today.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I haven't been diagnosed yet. But I told a close co-worker my concerns and she thought I was way off base and told me there would be NO way I could have it because I am the most organized, neat, and hard-working person. The compliments were nice, but the thing is, I try really hard to APPEAR organized, neat, and I really do try to work hard. But my bed room, desk, car is a completely different story. Yikes. So if I was diagnosed with ADHD I don't think I could tell anyone.. I would be embarrassed Not that anyone should be embarrassed.. I am just very easily embarrassed.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I was only recently diagnosed, but I doubt I will tell anyone except those very close to me.

There is just too much ignorance about adhd, and I don't need some fool in the workplace to start telling me how they believe adhd is not a real thing. Worse, if someone responsible for making decisions on promotions thought it was a weakness, that would be a hurdle I don't need to put in my way.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I have mixed opinions about it. I agree with some that its none of their business. At the same time at work I have good days and bad days so I only tell the managers that need to know and that's it. My co-workers don't know. I usually just say dont we all have bad days? I feel some think that we use it as a scape goat and trying to use the disorder in our favor when they don't truly understand what's going on our heads. I've been on the same meds since elementary and I seem more focused and when I don't I'm irritated and unfocused. Sometimes I feel add is so underestimated.
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