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Old 10-27-16, 09:27 PM
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Always remember, I think, the person who you disclose the information to will make a judgement, they will also make a judgement regarding taking medication, always. By coming into this forum I've learnt a few people who know. ADD is an all pervading condition that can be managed. Tell people who you think deserve to know how you think, obviously employment there are other factors. By making judgements people who you do know can make value judgements on what type of person you are, and if they make the wrong judgement, and they will unless an expert, this will damage you. That's my experience.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

No. Medical conditions are private and not to be shared without careful consideration. That is why we have laws protecting peoples right to privacy, especially with medical issues.

Other than my psychiatrist, I can think of no one I would want to share with. To me, it is like going to the gynecologist for a pap smear and mammogram or a specialist for a skin condition.

If someone wants to share with people outside the protected group, it should only be with others who respect their privacy...ie a support group or organization that understands the condition. To do otherwise, will only create so much stress for me/you.

Just my two cents.

Yeah what I say may be harsh to some, but it facilitates recovery/diagnosis/clarity/support and removal of other peoples issues to your condition.

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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

My question would be why tell them?
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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My question would be why tell them?
Because life can be a b!tch and some support and understanding here and there can mean the world.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I used to be self-conscious about it. I was afraid of being judged or afraid of being accused of making excuses. I'm at a point now where I don't care anymore. I openly tell people that I know. I don't take medication, so when my symptoms come up I openly admit to people what my issues are. I would rather they know where I stand and what's going on with me. If they don't accept it then that's not my problem because I can't change the way I am. I think the turning point for me was, out of fear of getting fired, I opened up and told my boss what was going on with me. To my surprise he was understanding and wanted to know what he could do to help me. Now I think back to when I was in school and kept it a secret. Maybe I should have told my teachers when I was struggling. Instead I was too proud and stubborn to admit that I had a problem or needed any help.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Usually I don't tell anyone, especially about the medications. Several friendships were ruined, because of the meds
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Never get the chance. They tell me first
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

I told two of my friends about my childhood records and how I can't focus now and they were like you probably have adhd and i was like yes. One of my instructors said i should see a therapist when I told her about how I had problems with school and everything in general. Thing is i go to a therapist but i dont wanna tell anyone about it.

so yeah i tell them about my symptoms but i never confirm it
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

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My question would be why tell them?
It depends upon the maturity of those in your workplace.

However, the "coaching rules" for managing ADHD are pretty straightforwards- they involve establishing structure and order in your workplace so that you will not be stuffed up by other people's mess. That approach has worked for me for most of my working life with no assistance from stimulants.

However, every time I have had to change workplace, the transition has been hard. I work as a doctor, and when I move I have immediate issues with ensuring orderly in trays and out trays. Then we come to the procedure room, and the task of being able to automatically lay my hands on local anesthetic, suture material, items required for plastering fractures etc is a nightmare.

Now I'm sure I can generalise here and say that this sort of issue will be a problem in new workplaces for most ADHD adults.

This is not always needed-- but if you can go in to a new workplace and say "I have this problem and it may take me a few more weeks to settle in" then you are ahead of the pack.

However that judgement has to be made on a case by case basis, and it may not be necessary to reveal it as ADHD.
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Re: Do you tell people you have ADD?

Always do most can tell I talk real fast
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