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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

One suggestion: Keep a notebook [w/pencil] on a string around your neck. Serious! You can get a waterproof one at any camping/surplus store -- for when you, you know...

When you're AD(H)D you need to kiss cool goodbye and embrace your inner geek!

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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

I love this thread!

Great idea to have it pinned!

Ok I have a few...

Don't treat me like I'm a kid, or say embarrassing things about myself in front of people, especially when I'm first meeting them! My boyfriend does this a lot...it really bugs me! Like, one example I can think of might seem pretty random and funny but it just annoyed me. Basically:
One day I randomly craved strawberry ice cream a few days later when we went shopping we got some and cos I hadn't had it in ages I was...well, I dunno, just happy to have some!
My boyfriend took that to mean I love everything strawberry flavoured and bought some strawberry mousses...which was nice of him, I'm not complaining...but still, he made out as though I was some strawberry-obsessed freak
Then one lunch break at work, when we're on break together with some others, I'm eating my mousse...and he says to someone else "Michaela loooves her strawberry ice cream" to someone...and it was just so...GRR!
It's not really ADHD related but hey...lol...

And sometimes the way he talks to me, I dunno maybe it's me being weird but when he asks if my dinner is nice...just cos I'm quiet and don't say grown-up things like "Mm this has turned out really good, the potato is delicious" it doesn't mean you have to ask me...it's mainly more in front of other people. I mean yeah it's just little chit-chat but it's the way you say something that counts I think...there's nothing wrong with asking someone how their food is (especially as he cooks ) but when there are others in the room and I already feel awkward cos I look so young for my age and often wear casual clothes instead of what other girls my age wear...

Don't call me lazy omg that drives me insane!! People do NOT understand! GRR! Especailly when they themselves aren't perfect and actually are quite ADHD!

Also just to metion one that was previously posted, about saying we're not normal, accept it or go away...love it! My boyfriend knows I have Asperger's and porbably ADHD and he knows quite a lot about them. Yet he has a go at me for things that I do/shouldn't do, but are because of them. Like sometimes I'll forget to say bye to someone or just won't coz I feel awkward, it's the same with saying thank you. Afterwards he'll moan at me for it and I just wish he'd think more about why I did what I did. It's the same with family too. My mum acts as though I'm a pain sometimes I've heard her talking on the phone to people about me. And she had the cheek to say once (when I mentioned my AS) that I "played on it"! I do not! Luckily my brother seems to understand more, just a shame he doesn't live at home anymore.

Also I don't like it when my boyfriend (sorry to keep moaning about him!) introduces me to people for me. Yeah I have issues socialising and can be shy but I am perfectly capable of saying hello and introducing myself. It makes me look and feel childish and incapable. Ok I just said I can forget to say bye, but saying hello is different. Definitely with new people anyway, if I met my friends at school I'd often start rabbling on about something random! I want to make a good first impression, I don't want people saying what they always say (that I'm quiet at first)...I try hard not to be but when my bf takes control then that's it. It takes a lot for me to pluck up confidence and when I'm about to smile and say hey and think of what I can say to that person, then my bf speaks just as I'm about to...gone. The confidence is gone. Meeeh...
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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

Un-medicated does not mean untreated.




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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

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For goodness sake don't tell people I am on adderall !!! If I want some one to know I will tell them myself thank you very much.


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Every one has negative portions of their being, and being ADD doesn't exempt me from this truth.


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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

If I make a mistake at work and it makes a mess of things, please give me the opportunity to fix it myself; or else don't hold it over me that my mistakes "create too much work for other people."
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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

Please stop moralizing a mental health issue
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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

Isn't ironic that those who talk the loudest about how everyone should work are often the ones who are the least willing to make the accommodations necessary to ensure that everyone can work.

How about working with you to ensure that your "mistakes" do not happen again? In the blue-collar world we have things like 'lock-outs' etc. to ensure mistakes cannot be made...


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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

I have to speak loud and fast or I will forget what the heck I am saying...
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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

When I do something ADHD, like I keep forgetting to do something important, or I don't listen to what you are saying because something is distracting me...don't get angry at me and call me useless! That only makes my self-esteem worse and annoys me because you know why I do these things, so please have a little patience, then there will be less arguments and anger

I get bored easily and I love video games, ok I'm gonna admit it, I find them fun, not something many other girls my age would say! But I am different from other girls my age and other people in general, actually! And you know that...so stop laughing/mocking me/patronising me when I tell you I've been on the PS2 for hours. It's better than sitting on MSN waiting for someone interesting to come online (which I am trying to stop myself doing, it's such a waste of a day).

And yeah I dress casually and not like other girls my age... pfft get over it...so I don't wear slutty short skirts that show my butt and I'm not caked in make-up? I'm not covered in fake tan. OMG!!! I actually look natural and like a human being should do!! Wow never realised that was SO wrong
In other words, don't give me funny looks or ask me to wear something else. I look like I do because it's what I'm happy with and it's my style. It's me. Not you or anyone else!
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When I do something ADHD...don't get angry at me and call me useless! That only makes my self-esteem worse and annoys me because you know why I do these things, so please have a little patience, then there will be less arguments and anger
Bravo Crazycat, bravo!! Seriously, I want to put that phrase on little cards and pass them out to people! And you're absolutely right about the effect it has on our self-esteem. I can take a punch to the gut waaaaay easier than a kick to my self esteem.

And for the record, I LOVE video games! Love, love, love them. I get all giddy when someone says video game marathon.
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Re: Dos and Don't with an AD/HDer

How about:

If you are asking me to go to someplace unfamiliar with a group of people who are unfamiliar to me I may have to back out at the last minute. Please understand that it doesn't mean that I don't love or care about you. Some days I can do it and some days I just can't.
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