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Old 02-23-09, 11:18 AM
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Question Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I have ADHD and find that porn may have changed my desires and expectations for real sex. I wondered if this is another form of self injury. Any men that can relate would love to know or if you do how you deal with it?

I also wondered do all men find masterbation as a form of relaxation and self medicating.
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Old 02-23-09, 11:56 AM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

this is not an exclusive add/adhd thing.

many comedians have used this topic for the subject of their jokes.

i believe it's a normal average guy thing.
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Old 02-23-09, 12:02 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I am sorry but really didnt mean this as a jok., I have read alot of research articles that analyze ADHD adults being addicted to self pleasure and even diffrent forms of addiction. Wondered if men like that are as real as research says and looking to see how they changed these behaviors and once they have didnt helpt there sex life to be more within real expectations
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

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this is not an exclusive add/adhd thing.
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many comedians have used this topic for the subject of their jokes.

i believe it's a normal average guy thing.


My mind asks its self: Is this guy lost?

"this is not an exclusive add/adhd thing."

I agree.

"i believe it's a normal average guy thing"

wtf?

"many comedians have used this topic for the subject of their jokes."

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I'veread a post online in which a guy asked if it was ok to masturbate once a month.

Is libido corellated to ADD/ADHD/ ADHD-I?

Dont know. I have ADHD-I (Non hyperactive) And I've gone from masturbating up to 3 times a day as a teen, to once every few weeks. Im 21. Amphetamines are STIMULANTS. The drug will raise your sexual stimulation, similar to red ginseng. I have no Doubt that you can differentiate sexual love and sexual domination/submissiveness even while on the drug. I rarely watch porn anymore, and I know of the great energy produced by two people who want to serve each other, and see each as equal. This is when you SHARE sex.

When you masturbate and have no desire or emotion toward the stimulusm, you OWN sex. You can also be OWNED by sex, hence dominatrixes and submissiveness. (submissiveness can be shared, but is is then more considered who is in a better position for action

You actually can transfer energy, and have multiple orgasms (male and female, but males have multiple mini orgasms)

If you have sex with someone, and you take alot of time stimulating eachother, touching, talking, LOVING, feeling, knowing before actualintercourse, and embrace sex by going very slow and having that be better than any other sex youve had, you wont be as stimulated to masturbate so much. I can have the best sex with someone with my eyes closed, or in the others' eyes the whole time. The energy that you cant see overrules everything that you can.

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Raider:mp5 said:
"I do both but not at a level that it's a problem. I have found out I always have to have something in my mouth be it food, gum, or food. If i don't have anything lots of time I just start chewing on stuff."

I say:

I've heard somewhere that people go through an "oral fixation stage" when they are todlers, the same time they get their baby teeth. If you don't "complete this stage" or your sub conscious hasnt left that stage, it will continue throughout ones lifetime i.e. thumb sucking, nail biting, constant oral stimulation. I think that this makes sense. On the other hand, 2 people i know both have ADHD and both bite their nails, one of them needs to do it constantly, the other doesnt. I dont bite my nails It could go either way? It's a real "nail-biter!" (I know thats lame, and yes, I had to do it hahaha)
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

oh, i know you were serious. i didn't mean to sound like i was jesting or interpreting your problem as jest. i was merely trying to convey that it's such a normal occurrence in men(and maybe women) to the extent that it's a topic in stand-up comedy(i believe that comedy is best when it's inclusive and the topic is universally known/experienced by everyone).

about your situation, if you find your habit to be hindering your daily chores, work and/or personal life, then you might want to seek professional consultation.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Thanks fo5r the advice already have but looking to maybe start a support group for men of the site and many times as guy feel alone with certain issues
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Old 02-23-09, 12:53 PM
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Well you know adhd/add people tend to give into their immediate impulses more then most people. That could be a contributing factor. Adhd people tend to have obsessive type behaviors more then others, medication exasterbating that obssessiveness for some on the meds.

They may be more into it then otheres on average, but whether it reaches the level it could be considered an addiction is whole different question.

jjreadhd you keep on saying men in the 3rd person lol. Are you a woman or are you related to tarzan?
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Maybe it's a form of self medicating, because of the release of endorphins you get afterwords?
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I have read that children/adolescents with ADHD/ADD visit sexually explicit sites much more often than "normal" kids. Perhaps this is just another statistic, it seems everyone/thing is now. I myself masturbate regularly, almost everyday
Im not ashamed of it, as its perfectly natural and everybody does it, if not less often than me. It does release Dopamine (or seretonin, cant remember) which may be why some people do it often, it makes you feel good. As long as it is not interfereing with your life there is nothing to worry about! (except chafing lol)
You know when its to often if you leave class during school to visit the washroom, or you do not want to hang out with friends because you have "other things" planned. Other than that, its a perfectly healthy habit.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

jjreadhd you keep on saying men in the 3rd person lol. Are you a woman or are you related to tarzan? [/quote]


That was a great point I think I am trying to say its not me but it is who is having so difficulty. I am man sorry for the confussion
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Hi,

If you are looking for specific examples who fit the research models, then I can say I am the one.

I have been addicted to porn since few years. I have been diagnosed as Adult ADD 2 years back and my addiction goes long time back.

I buy and collect porn from websites and store in my harddrive. The funniest thing is I dont watch them completely. I just watch them forwarding for just few minutes , then masturbate and stop it before ejaculation. You can call it compulsory masturbation (anothar co-morbidity of ADD).

I am 28 and depressed with all the health things going on with me.

I liked the idea of self help group. if it can be very helpful to me.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

I do both but not at a level that it's a problem. I have found out I always have to have something in my mouth be it food, gum, or food. If i don't have anything lots of time I just start chewing on stuff.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

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I do both but not at a level that it's a problem. I have found out I always have to have something in my mouth be it food, gum, or food. If i don't have anything lots of time I just start chewing on stuff.
I am the same way, I ALWAYS have something in my mouth but usually its biting my nails or chewing gum. I really wish I could stop, its embarrassing when I get into situations where people notice my nails. (work, interviews, eating with others)
On the topic of masterbating, I have the urge to do this everyday to porn, but I think its a way my body is self medicating because of the calming feeling that comes afterwards. I have done this for years as well. I have only been diagnosed with adult ADD for 3.5 years now. All this really wears me out, I just with I could be normal..
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

Lol I do have a huge collection of porn too. My friends call me the Collector but I only do it on my free time.
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Re: Porn/Massterbation Addiction

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Hi,

I buy and collect porn from websites and store in my harddrive. The funniest thing is I dont watch them completely. I just watch them forwarding for just few minutes , then masturbate and stop it before ejaculation. You can call it compulsory masturbation (anothar co-morbidity of ADD).

I liked the idea of self help group. if it can be very helpful to me.
Exactly...thats what happens to me too...i tend to get bored with all the other details...but I generally dont stop before ejaculation, and then comes the feeling of guilt...

I have tried earlier to go without masterbation....the maximum I could go without is around 14 days. After that I broke down....

I dont know how helpful a self help group will be...but I would want to join such a group too...perhaps we could model it in a similar way as Alcoholics Anonymous is...all with live online chats etcc....
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