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Old 12-06-17, 07:50 PM
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Re: End of the line

Hi SurfToLive,

I'm a bit late to the party, but I've been living a similar situation. I've been married for 11 years, and was only diagnosed a few years back.

My wife and I have fought about the same issues revolving around my short-comings for our entire relationship. After the fight, I'd get better for a while, but I'd start slipping back into my old habits, and we'd have a blow-up again a few months later. This kept happening over and over and I couldn't explain to her why I kept doing these things that were bringing us to the edge of divorce.

I started thinking about a medical problem, and after researching ADHD, it hit on all the problems I had. I was diagnosed, started treatment, and started learning everything I could. My wife has been extremely supportive of me, and she's done tons of reading as well. She also attends support group meetings with me. By learning more about ADHD, she is able to take a mental step back from the anger, and approach problems between us more constructively. She's still human, so of course she still gets upset, but it's not as bad as it used to be before we understood about my issues.

TL;DR: Knowledge is key for making things easier. Your partner understanding and having empathy for your issues will make it easier to process that you aren't intentionally trying to repeat your behaviours.
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