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Old 01-28-13, 01:47 PM
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Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

Again.

My to do list is constantly growing and so are frustration and stress. I know, I would feel much better if I got some work done but I've again spent the entire day doing absolutely nothing. Now, it's time to go home where I can spend the entire evening not doing any of the things I'm supposed to do.

Hubby just can't understand how it can be so tiring and depressing doing absolutely nothing.

It is though. It's absolutely exhausting doing nothing. Getting things done, having feelings of success and accomplishments ( no matter how small they are) usually act as a source of motivation and energy for me. I know that but still can't do anything. I keep thinking about work all day long, I fret that I'm not doing any thing, I worry and stress. It's just all so stupid.
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

I hear ya. Just spent all morning screwing around when I need to be working! Why am I here again! D*mn you add forums!
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Hubby just can't understand how it can be so tiring and depressing doing absolutely nothing.

When your mind is over worked, it can also makes your body physically drained
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It's possible that part of the exhaustion is stress; stress from thinking over and over "I should be doing something".
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

would it be easier for you if your job was more structured? could you make yourself a schedule? ( i realize i may be stating the obvious or thats just not possible with your work!)
i have no choice at work, people need things now, i cant procrastinate more than half a day.
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

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Again.

My to do list is constantly growing and so are frustration and stress. I know, I would feel much better if I got some work done but I've again spent the entire day doing absolutely nothing. Now, it's time to go home where I can spend the entire evening not doing any of the things I'm supposed to do.

Hubby just can't understand how it can be so tiring and depressing doing absolutely nothing.

It is though. It's absolutely exhausting doing nothing. Getting things done, having feelings of success and accomplishments ( no matter how small they are) usually act as a source of motivation and energy for me. I know that but still can't do anything. I keep thinking about work all day long, I fret that I'm not doing any thing, I worry and stress. It's just all so stupid.
I think this is probably true for a lot of people with adhd. In normal individuals a huge percentage of oxigen and glucose (something like 75-80%) is used by the brain alone. It is not far fetched to think that adhd-ers with their extreme active brain processes, whether it is thinking, worrying, fantasizing, imagining etc., become regularly exhausted. ADHD brains need more time to recover.

The reason you are not able to fulfill many tasks is that your brain is exhausted. However, a period of doing 'nothing' is only the first step in the recovery. More importantly is that your brain is doing nothing. Especially negative spirally thoughts and feelings drains the brain of its energy. You can even feel exhausted after sleeping 8 hours. This is because your brain isn't actually resting but worrying about all kinds of stuff.
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

The less active I am the more frustrated I get. When it gets like this I try to do the easiest jobs in the hope that it might give me some momentum. Sometimes it works but sometimes I spend my whole day kicking my own *****.
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

Rather than tell myself, "I am going to do the dishes now." I say, "Now I am going to do the dishes for one minute, then I can stop if I want." More often than not, I keep doing them ( for a while anyway )
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

I can so relate!
I know that early morning exercise combats my unproductive ways.
But, I have long been out of the habit.
ADD for me is unmanageable with out structure.
Healthy eating and hydration contributes greatly to successful days.
Positive thinking goes miles......
My problem is knowing what works but not using that knowledge....
consistently...
Just thought I would share because I have had better days...
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

And how did you pull off you phd because I'm flabbergasted how you did it as a bipolar person?
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

i have always been a workoholic, even as a schoolboy i worked, mostly for free. but nobody would ever ask me do handy work, not once they see me perform, its hard just trying keep myself clean.
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

Ummm ... You have not been doing nothing - you are now Dr. Fuzzy - that's huge.

Did you allow yourself any time to relax and celebrate and have real down time?

Edit to add: I mean time where you are not thinking about everything that isn't done and needs to be done. I find that I am better off if I don't even pretend to myself that I am going to accomplish something on a given day. Then I relax without guilt.
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

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Again.

My to do list is constantly growing and so are frustration and stress. I know, I would feel much better if I got some work done but I've again spent the entire day doing absolutely nothing. Now, it's time to go home where I can spend the entire evening not doing any of the things I'm supposed to do.

Hubby just can't understand how it can be so tiring and depressing doing absolutely nothing.

It is though. It's absolutely exhausting doing nothing. Getting things done, having feelings of success and accomplishments ( no matter how small they are) usually act as a source of motivation and energy for me. I know that but still can't do anything. I keep thinking about work all day long, I fret that I'm not doing any thing, I worry and stress. It's just all so stupid.
You're not exhausted from 'doing nothing'. You haven't actually been doing 'nothing'. You've been a very busy bee internally, and you're exhausted from running a mental marathon!

Worry and stress and spending so much time and thought and emotion kicking your own *** are burning up a tremendous amount of energy. Those things are soooo draining! No wonder you're exhausted. You've got to break the cycle and recognize that you're not doing yourself any favors when you get into this state. It's actually counterproductive to expend so much energy thinking about what you 'should' be doing, what needs to be done that you haven't done yet, how that makes you feel, etc etc etc. That cycle of negativity can only perpetuate itself as more and more of your energy gets burned up.

I know the feeling well. You've got to break the cycle. It's going to take time.

One good place to start:

Like another poster said, sometimes it helps to just give yourself permission to take a day or two off and literally do NOTHING. Just play, entertain yourself, sleep, veg, do only fun things, zero 'productive' things, and not think about anything stressful AT ALL. It's restorative -- but the permission part is crucial. You have to know that it's ok to do, so that you don't spend the day (or the following days) trying not to feel guilty over taking some much-needed Me Time. Otherwise the entire purpose is defeated. And you can't allow anyone else to give you a hard time about it, either.

Whenever you find yourself having those draining sorts of days, please give yourself permission to do this at the first available opportunity. Not only do you deserve it, you NEED it so that you can restore your ability to function.

And don't forget to remind yourself every single day of how awesome you are, just because you exist. You are!
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Re: Overwhelmed and exhausted..from doing NOTHING

What I do is I look at the day of nothingness as a day that is bust, i.e ain't nothing going to get better so I take it off, and I plan to start again the next day.

Tomorrow is always another day.

I can be a very organised person, yet I can also be the complete opposite, and I have been the complete opposite for days. I hope I can overcome this.

Worse thing is I've been taking my meds late and they are just not making me...well they work half as well.

I may not be feeling exhausted but I've been frustrated. Actually, I'm so hyperactive I even forget what I'm doing. What's happening now, this focusing thing, is a real miracle.
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