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Old 07-14-17, 04:03 AM
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Were you oversensitive as child ?

It has bubbled up in a few threads, that many of us were very sensitive.
What does it mean ?
How do you know that you were more sensitive than other kids ?

What if evey kid is as sensitive on average, over a week, let's say ?

Is oversensitivity an inherent feature or it is developed in the course of life of an unresponsive individual ?
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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

I think it's an inherent feature,
I know I always felt upset or moved over things that other kids never even noticed, i tried not to show it...
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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

I was both sensitive and outgoing. I hesitate to say oversensitive because of the negative connotation that goes along with it.
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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

No child is oversensitive unless invalidated and judged by someone else as being so.


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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

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Understand that sensory sensitivity is a part of your children’s in-born temperament..
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Understand that emotional sensitivity is also part of you children's in-born temperament.

Acknowledge your children's emotional temperament and help them to understand their feelings/emotional temperament.



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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

yes

you're likely born with it

barkley describes ADHD babys as having an irritable temperment
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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

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you're likely born with it

barkley describes...babys as having an irritable temperment
Is an irritable temperament, a more sensitive temperament?



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Is a more irritable temperament a more sensitive temperament?


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i imagine if a baby was sensitive to the environment and emotions it would lead to irritability . Seeing as emotions as a baby are simply visceral responses to the world

sensitivity as an emotional response would require higher level functioning of thinking about feelings right?
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i imagine if a baby was sensitive to the environment and emotions it would lead to irritability . Seeing as emotions as a baby are simply visceral responses to the world

sensitivity as an emotional response would require higher level functioning of thinking about feelings right?
Visceral and somatic parts of nervous system converge in the mid brain brain processing area, first.



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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

Some Possiblities?

-Irritable emotional temperament
-Irritable sensory temperament
-Irritable homeostatic temperament
-Irritable combinations of all three?



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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

Absolutely everything was a saga that's for sure! Stef had a good way of describing it.
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It was my father that occasionally chastized me for being over-sensitive.

Dr. Barkley says adhd is not being OVER-emotional, it's an inability to control
our emotions. We are not generating too much emotion. We cannot regulate
normal emotions.

We are quick to anger, easily excitable, have low tolerance for frustration,
are easily angered by things around us, and display our emotions much more
quickly.

We have an inability to self-sooth, to self-calm, to moderate our emotions.
We struggle to modify normal emotions in order to be socially acceptable.

(from Dr. Russell Barkley's video "30 essential ideas you should know about
adhd, inhibition, impulsivity and emotion")
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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

Well, I was afraid and worried all the time. I was super sensitive to moody adults in that it caused me fear and the desire to be anywhere but there. My feelings were hurt very easily, too. I was (and still am) extremely empathic (and extremely empathetic) and am still greatly affected by the moods of others, even if they don't say anything. I often feel like it's so strong, it's a 6th sense. In that sense, yes, I was an extremely oversensitive kid. I still am. And I hate it. Idk if this has more to do with my ADD or the way I was treated. If I had grown up in a healthy, happy household I wonder if things would bother me as much as they do...

On the flip side there are times where (I tell myself) I don't g-a-f, but that doesn't usually last. I am externally a strong person now... the insecurities are more of an internal issue... so I don't appear to most people the way I have described myself above.

I am working on the art of not giving a f*** now, and am raising my kids to be confident, to know they are smart and to have faith in their own choices. I don't want them to feel like I do. So even when I am disciplining them, I remind them of how smart they are. So smart, in fact, that I know they can make good choices moving forward.
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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

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It was my father that occasionally chastized me for being over-sensitive.

Dr. Barkley says adhd is not being OVER-emotional, it's an inability to control
our emotions. We are not generating too much emotion. We cannot regulate
normal emotions.

We are quick to anger, easily excitable, have low tolerance for frustration,
are easily angered by things around us, and display our emotions much more
quickly.

We have an inability to self-sooth, to self-calm, to moderate our emotions.
We struggle to modify normal emotions in order to be socially acceptable.

(from Dr. Russell Barkley's video "30 essential ideas you should know about
adhd, inhibition, impulsivity and emotion")
There seems like there is more than one way of looking at "over sensitive"

ADHD is often a top down commorbidity of bottom up mood disorders, autism, etc.

(Over-sensitive partly due to bottom up disorder.)

How could bottom up emotions be considered normal, if a person lacks top down emotion self control?

(Over-sensitive partly due to top down disorder.)

Some people may have inherited a more sensitive temperament.

Some people may have acquired a more sensitive temperament due to life experiences.

(Or combinations of both of inherited and acquired)

Specifics of individual over-sensitivity depends on "individual inherited temperament and individual circumstances." (Paraphrasing Dr. Mate)



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Re: Were you oversensitive as child ?

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It was my father that occasionally chastized me for being over-sensitive.

Dr. Barkley says adhd is not being OVER-emotional, it's an inability to control
our emotions. We are not generating too much emotion. We cannot regulate
normal emotions.

We are quick to anger, easily excitable, have low tolerance for frustration,
are easily angered by things around us, and display our emotions much more
quickly.

We have an inability to self-sooth, to self-calm, to moderate our emotions.
We struggle to modify normal emotions in order to be socially acceptable.

(from Dr. Russell Barkley's video "30 essential ideas you should know about
adhd, inhibition, impulsivity and emotion")
That's interesting from Russell Barkley because I wonder if he's saying that all or most people with ADHD are quick to anger, easily excitable, etc.? For me, I've tended to be kind of oblivious to things going on around me and to be kind of absorbed in my own thoughts a lot of the time. I came across a blog post by some guy with ADHD called Kelly Babcock at PsychCentral. He does a blog called "ADHD Man of Distraction" and one of his posts in January of this year was called "ADHD Oblivion". He wrote:

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There is a state of mind, or perhaps a partial state of mind, that I sometimes, or possibly always am in, that keeps me unaware of many things around me.

I am oblivious to things.

Not all things, and not just important ones.

But when I become aware of the things that Iíve been missing, I am usually stunned, sometimes hurt, often upset.

Surprise!

It happens lots, yet I am always surprised.

And I donít know if it is my ADHD, or just a personal character flaw. Perhaps that is one of the things Iím oblivious to, though Iím obviously aware that there is a question, and thus I know that there must be an answer. I just donít know what the answer is.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-...adhd-oblivion/

I kind of identify with some of what he's saying. When I was in middle school, there were a few kids who used to pick on me and call me names sometimes, and it probably hurt my feelings a little, but I suspect that a lot of the time, I didn't even hear that it was going on. I was kind of a loner and spent a lot of time by myself off in my own world. I did a lot of daydreaming. I often remember feeling surprised by things that I had been unaware of or a little upset, but I don't remember feeling truly angry or easily excitable most of the time.
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