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Old 07-14-17, 11:14 PM
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Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

I have been told I care to much.

I take it as a complement.


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Almost any parent with an AD(H)D child, or any adult living with an AD(H)D spouse, will have noticed in the AD(H)D person a touchiness, a "thin skin".

People with AD(H)D are forever told that they are "too sensitive" or that they should stop being "so touchy."

One might as well advise a child with hay fever to stop being "so allergic."


-Gabor Mate, "Scattered". Chapter 7 , "Emotional Allergies", p 59.


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Old 07-15-17, 08:52 PM
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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

I do think it's a compliment

I hate when people tell me I care too much.

This sounds to me like "Come oooon, duuuude, let's not give a **** and have a beer" in the middle of a busy workday.


However, I don't think I have thin skin.

I don't think I don't either...

Good question - I don't know how to answer it
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Old 07-16-17, 07:48 AM
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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

Its the same scenario as being oversensitive. Being thin skinned implies that the person you are saying that to has a flaw or fault. Sure, maybe things might bother someone more than the next guy but that doesnt mean they are incapable of managing how they react. Certain things make us react strongly or not so strongly. And isnt it interesting that the people who say we are thin skinned are usually the ones who just got done criticizing us about something?
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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

I am not criticizing us.



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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

i am thin skinned. Basically, there isn't anything wrong with being thin skinned but thicker skin, so to speak is more rewarded. In work life it can be a liability. In relarionships it, I guess, in the extreme, could be desrructive if there is a lot of offense taking but mostly I think loved ones have good intent.
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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

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I don't think Sarah mean't that at all. I think it's true that some people who criticize or insult us often label us as "thin skinned" if we get angry, offended or upset. It justifies their behavior and eludes to Sarah's point.

You thinking she is calling you out for criticizing us is probably just your "thin skindness".

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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

More like repetitive criticism that I already have to deal with on my own level by myself -Inattentive to detail and there's detail in everything
-Scatter brain that doesn't make sense to people but it does to me and damn I try so hard to stay on topic and do really well.
-Getting faces making fun of me when I zone out like come on how about I make fun of your resting ***** face
- oh yea when I'm slow, like I'm trying to be slow. It's so hard for them to figure out I have ADHD or the fact that they know it and they don't connect the dots.
- oh yea when people make fun of me and go what??? Something I've gotten used to and some people I'm glad I don't talk to anymore.
- when people treat me like I don't know anything


I just see ignorance, lack of empathy, lack of understanding, and buttheads. The funny thing is though, I don't react most of the time and when I do when it's repetitive I either call them out on their crap or have a really good comeback.

So people call you thin skinned because they don't understand. I know it's one thing if you're in an emotional argument and you say something impulsive. That's really just disorganization in your brain really, not your fault.
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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

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thick-skinned

adjective

insensitive to criticism or insults.

synonyms: insensitive, unfeeling, tough, hardened, callous, case-hardened;

informal hard-boiled

"these guards have gotten pretty thick-skinned over the years"
Would it have helped if I instead asked...

"Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thick skin"?"


I have never been called "hard-boiled"?

Is "hard-boiled" a complement?






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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

-Can people born with more hypersensitive temperaments, stop having hypersensitive temperaments?









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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

-How does being born with a more hyperreactive temperament influence our development?






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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

I think I am less hypersensitive now, so yes. I think it comes with awareness and then experience. Learning from the past.
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I think I am less hypersensitive now, so yes. I think it comes with awareness and then experience. Learning from the past.
I think I am probably as sensitive but awareness has really helped me, deal with things.

Inborn hypersensitive temperament can also help explain how early emotional distresses partly due to having a more sensitive temperament could slightly interfere with development of our self-regulation early in life.



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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

Parents aware of their childs inborn hypersensitivities, could learn to accommodate for these hypersensitivities instead of criticizing their children and making things worse.



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Re: Have you noticed in the AD(H)D person a "thin skin"?

I'm quick to react, to feel insulted, but have generally internalized it. But when taking adderall, it's a different game. I'm extremely sensitive, extremely touchy, and easily insulted......and I don't hold it in!
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