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So you want to be an Astronaut?

I wrote this, for anyone that is trying to figure out how they can know what to aim for in life and whether or not they are aiming for too little or too much.

I think that most people, don't know what they can do.


Most people are terrified of reaching for too much in life.

How do you know if you are reaching for too much though?

Or that you're going about it in the most sensible way.

There is a thought that there is only one way to do anything.

Most people will tell you, that it doesn't matter what you know, all that matters is who you know.

But I have found that the opposite is true.

In fact, I would say, that what you know, is far more important than who you know.

That is to say, that you never really know the people around you. I mean you think you do, but not really.

In fact, you're more likely to be wrong about the people in your life that you thought you knew the most.

It takes approximately 40 seconds to form an impression of someone, and that 40 seconds will often define what you learn about them and how you see them for as long as you know them.

When someone around you makes a mistake, your first instinct is to see that mistake as relating to a character deficit and not situation dependent.

Ironically we see ourselves in the opposite way.

This is one main reason that the longer you know someone, the less you know them.

But what does that say about you?

Most people strive for self awareness, which means nothing really. If you look for feedback from others, they'll tell you to fit in that 40 second box they pegged you into.

If you stick to doing only what you are good at, then you may crumble when someone or something does it better.

More than that, there is no guarantee that you can make a living off of what you are good at.

So how do you avoid reaching for too much, or avoid being unrealistic about life?

The truth is, that you can't.

No one knows what you can do, or who you are. Does that mean you can do anything?

Before you ever answer that, ask yourself "is that is even the right question?"

A better question is "What is the cost?"


To do anything that you want, there is a cost of time and emotional strain.

I believe that the more you take stock of those two finite resources, you start to gain a clear picture of what it is that you can or can not do.

If you don't make time for your goals, then they won't happen.

Your emotional resiliency is just as important as time because all of our decisions are made using our emotions.

Individuals that were unable to process their emotions due to a traumatic brain injury, were unable to make any choices or decisions.

Their cognitive function was there, but it seems emotions are what motivate most all of us.

Because of this, failure is not the best way to determine what you are capable of accomplishing. Failure can burn you out very quickly.

What all of this means is that you have to fit your life to your feelings. You can fail and still succeed, but you need small successes or some kind of emotional refueling/stamina that keeps you going.

I believe that if you live within your personal constraints, than it does not matter who you know, and what you know will come from planning by constraints.

I've come to find that your constraints determine your potential. You can plan smarter by depending on your constraints because they are more reliable. Your strengths, may not always be there. You may be able to hyper focus some of the time, but can you take the time to turn it into a habit?

I've met ADHD Doctors and Engineers that used constraint planning to accomplish their goals in life. I just thought I would share it.

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