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Old 05-04-14, 08:28 PM
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Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I came across this article about how we tend to remember good things more than bad things, which struck a chord because I find the opposite! Lately anyway.

Do you find you remember good or bad things more?

http://www.bbc.com/news/health-27193607
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Old 05-04-14, 08:39 PM
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I can usually remember both very good and bad things that have happened to me.

I tend to think more about the bad ones though. I remember the good ones and dwell on the bad ones usually.
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Old 05-04-14, 08:53 PM
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I remember good stuff almost exclusively. Or well, I remember significant events on both ends but the positive ones always appear when reflecting "back upon a time".

I reckon it is weird because I am a very, VERY negative person, a trait, one of many, that I loathe about myself. Of course this trait is attributed to my depression and not by definition to my own core person. When amongst people in real life, I am always faking (successfully) a cheery, happy, carefree and optimistic persona so no one would ever guess.

The problem is that constantly remembering the good things, the few successes I've had in life and the little happiness that I've enjoyed truly and totally paralyzes me. It FREEZES me and tears me up. It furthers my negativity so immensely and effectively removes any motivation or will to do or accomplish anything. GAH!

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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I remember all the good delicacies life has offered me
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

Hands down, the bad ones. I wish it weren't this way but it is.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

Unfortunately, I tend to ruminate exclusively on the bad memories and past failures. I know it's counter-productive to dwell in the past, but I can't shake it.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I also remember both but dwell on the bad stuff when I'm feeling bad.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I'd say close to equally good and bad, unfortunately the bad stuff tends to suck me in. I happen to be in a very good place now despite some past darkness and upsets, so I try my best to redirect my thoughts when I start to dwell.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

All of the bad things in my life are eventually converted to good once I see how they've made me who I am. As I get older, there is less and less bad things to think about.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I try to exist in the exact moment as much as I can, and usually memories only detract from that endeavour.

But if i have to remember anything I remember the good ones. They give me energy i can use right now. My brain is a machine which can be manipulated in such a way.

Remembering bad memories is futile. It has no useful function in my life.

I did tons of debriefing and what-iffing in the past. But at some point I started to realise its an exercise in futility.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

Both equally, but it depends on my mood.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

The article points out that those with problems recovering positive memories often have serious depression.

I'd second that, and say that living with undiagnosed ADHD is likely to have a depressive effect over time.... plus there may well be more bad memories to remember!
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

I'm a pessimist by nature. I can't say I don't remember the good stuff, because I do, but the bad stuff had more of an impact; negative memories create negative feelings for me in the present, while positive ones either don't create anything or they create nostalgia. Happiness and excitement are things I feel related to the present or the future.
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Re: Do you remember good stuff or bad stuff more?

It makes sense that bad things take up more memory space in our heads. Think about it, if you are trading birth stories with other women, most will talk about the difficulties and pain associated with childbirth much more than the joy and magic of bringing a child into the world.
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